Guest TTBGZ Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 I'm from a really small conservative town in the middle of nowhere, and it has really affected me. Am I freaking crazy? Anyone else have this problem? Quote
Guest Jovianmoon Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 No, TTBGZ, you are not crazy. I would hazard a guess that almost every gay person living in a small rural town feels as stifled and exasperated as you do. I won't pretend to offer fix-all solutions to your problem, and I won't offend you by suggesting you move to a big city. But since you're here on Gay Thailand I might suggest opening Google instead and running a search for resources to meet other gay people in your region, whether that be social groups, hook-ups or whatever, if you haven't already tried that. Depending on where you are you may need to drive for a few hours to make some new friends in person, but you could do it and it would be worth it. All the best. Quote
Rogie Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Whereabouts in Asia is the 'middle of nowhere' ? It could be anywhere. You say you are gay, but conservative. That implies you are in the minority, but even so fit in fairly nicely with the prevailing morales (which unless you are very lucky or live in an unusual place, are usually 'conservative') and don't want to rock the boat. You aren't out waving placards for gay lib. No harm in keeping a low profile if the alternative will bring prejudice and rejection. We aren't all Stonewallers. Tell us more and we can be more specific in making suggestions. Maybe 'driving for a few hours' as Jovianmoon suggests might help, if not how about hop on a plane. If you are in Asia it's unlikely to be far from Thailand. We are the Thailand experts. Almost at once after you land you will feel an immense weight lifted from your shoulders. Either that, or we are in the wrong place. Quote
Guest abang1961 Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 TS, it is super OK to have a low profile if the folks around you in this remote town are homophobic. And as an Asian, we always assume you are STRAIGHT unless you are caught in the heat of the moment. For Westerners, older Asian folks always think you have families back home.. so just play along... dont give any explanations... they wont know the difference... Quote
Guest Jovianmoon Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Oh thanks. I live in Asia. When I said "your region", I didn't mean Asia or Oceania or whatever. I meant your local region. I realise I wasn't very clear there. I meant that you might consider seeking support/friendship in an area/distance that you can reasonably travel to and from within a day, more or less. I'm not a partaker of social/sexual networking on the Internet (Facebook, Gay Romeo or whatever), but if you are, that would be your most obvious means of making new friends to share and alleviate your frustrations of feeling isolated. But I recommend that you actually arrange to meet someone using those facilities, don't just chat. Electronic communication is never an adequate substitute for face-to-face social/sexual interaction. Again, all the best. Quote
