Guest fountainhall Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Like many others, my first ever visit to a gay bar in Thailand is etched firmly on my memory. As I have reported before, it was the late ‘70s in a very run-down place named Stockholm in the now up-market expensive Lang Suan. Without going into too many details, in a small room two guys stripped off and had a session with me sitting on the bed. I couldn’t get over their lovely near-olive hairless skin, their narrow hips, their smiles and the abandon with which they went about earning their pay. Then fairly shy and new to Asia, it was way beyond my wildest dreams.Those days are long gone. As others have written, that’s rather sad. But time marches on. Soon after that experience, I discovered the Apollo go-go bar in Soi 4. Here the boys seemed less dark-skinned, but their hairless chests and thighs, slim hips, broad smiles and warmth made the whole experience such fun. Was it just me, or was there an innocence about the place that helped contribute to that feeling of fun? Twilight carried on the tradition, although it all seemed more of a business for those employed there. It was fun for the customers, but I always felt it was less so for the go-go dancers. And as time has marched on, in most bars fun is now firmly relegated to the background.Since then my tastes haven’t changed much. I love hairless bodies and smooth skin. I love slim hips and long legs. I love the smiles and the ease with which a younger Thai will spend time with an older westerner. And I don’t mean just go-go boys. As has been mentioned here – but is often derided on other Boards – there are Thai guys who do want to be with older men. Money is not the primary issue – and in some cases not an issue at all.But then, I find similar attractions in many other Asians. There can be very hairy Chinese and Japanese, but equally there are plenty with very little hair. I have also written about my visits to the all-male hot-spring just outside Taipei. It’s not gay, although many gay guys go there and so there is a chance of meeting someone and arranging a later encounter. But soaking in the warm water with up to 100 young Taiwanese milling around, all totally and unashamedly naked (why is it, I wonder, that Thai guys will always try to cover their fronts when naked?) and many with well-toned bodies thanks to their 2 years of compulsory military service, is – well – one of the loveliest experiences Asia can offer. I can’t wait for my next trip in May!So those are some of my ‘turn-ons’. What are yours, I wonder? Quote
Guest Jovianmoon Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Rather than specifically Thai guys, I have always liked East Asian ('oriental') guys from various countries since as far back as I can remember (a crush on an Indonesian classmate when I was 11 years old). Since coming out when I was 18 I have only dated East Asian guys, never had a boyfriend of any other race. I have no control over that 'preference' - to me it feels as innate as being gay. I can't quite pin down exactly why I am almost exclusively interested in East Asian guys. It's a physical attraction to a large degree - and I share many of Fountainhall's reasons for that attraction. But that's not all of my attraction, there's something of a mystery to it that always leaves me wondering. I have also become more and more interested in the cultural backgrounds of the guys I'm attracted to. Then when I started my arts degree in Asian studies at uni back in the 90s, a Singaporean friend remarked "So you're working towards becoming a professional rice queen now, are you?" I have had many such derisory comments like that over the years, unfortunately... As for Thai guys, I also tend to prefer those with darker skin. Which is odd because that's exactly the opposite of what I understand most Thais themselves find attractive. I like slim guys with a similar frame as myself, I don't mind if they're a bit femme. Toned bodies are definitely a plus. Quote
Guest abang1961 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Dear friends of this forum, two words came to mind: Opposite attracts. If you have to fly (so many dreadful hours) to the Orient, then you are definitely going for the difference. Yes some amongst us are no longer young and attractive and despite all the financial assistance/arrangement, there is TRUE love between the farang and the locals. The locals are very likely to be totally different from the young lads from your original country. Only here in Asia where Western Farangs are more treasured/valued. As a fellow Asian, I dont get that "2nd" look from the young Thais.. or perhaps, I wasnt paying any attention to them in the first place. I am, of course, a potato queen .. I enjoy the Westerners more because of the communication (not body language nor physical/fatal attraction alone). You may even want to "normalise" it as Pingkerton's Diease.,,, Enjoy Maria Callas... Quote
Guest fountainhall Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 "So you're working towards becoming a professional rice queen now, are you?" I love that expression! I now know how to respond when people ask me what I do! Quote
Guest Jovianmoon Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 I love that expression! I now know how to respond when people ask me what I do! The down side of saying that you're a professional rice queen could be that people unfamiliar with the term 'rice queen' might think you're a glorified gay crop farmer Quote
