Do you off other guys from same bar as your regular / boyfriend?

[jason1975]

Question for experienced members here.

Do you off guys who work in same bar as your regular guy / boyfriend?

I have a regular guy but I have the hots for some of the other guys working in the same bar as him.

He says he doesn't mind me offing them as long as I promise to stay with him and don't leave him.

Do I believe him?

[vaughn]

I don't date from bars, but from my experience with every group of gay guys i've ever met. It will turn into a problem, jealousy, and headaches for you. Tread carefully if you like the bar and/or the guy.

[vinapu]

5 hours ago, jason1975 said:

 

I have a regular guy but I have the hots for some of the other guys working in the same bar as him.

He says he doesn't mind me offing them as long as I promise to stay with him and don't leave him.

Do I believe him?

in this case I'd say yes as you are with him for quite a while. 

He knows you are whoring right,  left and centre so if says he doesn't mind believe him although try not to be 'in your face' when arranging that other meeting.

you trigger quite valid general point - a lot of guys are trying to take ownership of their regulars and create an impression that we owe them our custom whenever we visit their bar. 

I face similar problem in at least 3 bars and handle it that way  - off my regular first and then tell him i like boy X and next time in bar I take him. Usually they understand it very well and even  in Moonlight my semi-regular one Y facilitated my meeting with   highly coveted #10 who happens to be his compatriot.

[ggobkk]

Total Agreement with Vinapu!

Be upfront, the boys talk and probably have a chart of our likes and boy preferences. 

The boys  consider us customers and if facilitating a hook up for us will also benefit them so it will be.  Early on ifnmy traveling to Thailand, I thought I'd outsmarted my Hot Male guy with a guy from another bar.  Next night my HM guy brought the other bar guy around for me to meet.  They were room mates!  We made a great threesome!  

Last September, my current regular from Good Guys facilitated a meet up / over night with a guy from Fresh Boys who he's noticed I was eyeing while we were at the Fresh Boys show.  Does money change hands?  Could happen, probably points of some sort are traded.  Works for me as I don't assume my boy is "my boy" and I'm direct about what I'm seeing/wanting/needing/etc. "My boy" is central to my visit and a bonus extra pair of eyes willing to negotiate for himself and me.