Have you ever had your dentist accuse you of being a liar?

[unicorn]

At my last dental visit, my dentist straight out told me (falsely) that I wasn't flossing my teeth (which I do). I then informed her that I do, indeed, floss my teeth every day, to which she had the gall to say "No, you don't!". I wouldn't have minded if she had started by saying "Are you sure you're flossing your teeth every day?", but to make that statement, and then tell me I was lying to her, I couldn't accept. I definitely have my faults, but being a liar isn't one of them. My next dental check-up will be with someone else. This was rather nervy behavior in my view. Have any of you had similar experiences?

[floridarob]

5 minutes ago, unicorn said:

This was rather nervy behavior in my view.

I'd go back to the same dentist , but next time I'd eat a box of Oreos beforehand 😏

[vinapu]

4 hours ago, unicorn said:

At my last dental visit, my dentist straight out told me (falsely) that I wasn't flossing my teeth (which I do). I then informed her that I do, indeed, floss my teeth every day, to which she had the gall to say "No, you don't!". 

forgive her , she was on her period or had bout of hot flashes

[BjornAgain]

Maybe you're doing it all wrong!

https://youtube.com/shorts/gCT7GZxSsTY?feature=shared

[caeron]

 

It is perfectly appropriate to fire a health care provider who isn't doing the job right. They are not your boss, they are your employee. We rely on their expert counsel to decide how to take care of our health, but it is counsel, not orders.

[joizy]

6 hours ago, unicorn said:

At my last dental visit, my dentist straight out told me (falsely) that I wasn't flossing my teeth (which I do). I then informed her that I do, indeed, floss my teeth every day, to which she had the gall to say "No, you don't!". I wouldn't have minded if she had started by saying "Are you sure you're flossing your teeth every day?", but to make that statement, and then tell me I was lying to her, I couldn't accept. I definitely have my faults, but being a liar isn't one of them. My next dental check-up will be with someone else. This was rather nervy behavior in my view. Have any of you had similar experiences?

She definitely could have handled it better. Maybe saying "let's go over how to floss then because it looks like you're missing some spots", but to flat out say "no you don't" was pretty unprofessional. I fired a dentist because she almost choked me with a piece of cotton and when I wrote a bad review she had the nerve to say it never happened. I clearly remember the feeling of choking.

[floridarob]

2 hours ago, joizy said:

I clearly remember the feeling of choking.

Some people pay extra for that 😉

[unicorn]

8 hours ago, floridarob said:

I'd go back to the same dentist , but next time I'd eat a box of Oreos beforehand 😏

Well, I had a 2 PM appointment, clearly after lunch, when I'd not be expected to have flossed immediately before coming in, and could be expected to have some food between my teeth. I would be concerned that she has a mindset like a Trumpster: someone who, once his mind is set, simply believes what he wants to believe, and doesn't keep his mind open to other possibilities, disregarding any evidence which doesn't fit in with his pre-conceived idea. Although this is probably more dangerous for a physician than for a dentist, I still don't like the attitude. 

[NIrishGuy]

17 hours ago, floridarob said:

I'd go back to the same dentist , but next time I'd eat a box of Oreos beforehand 😏

Followed by 8 cloves of Garlic !!

[Pete1111]

I'd be surprised to be accused in that way.  Called you a liar?  Hmmm....   Is he cute?😃

My dental hygienist is like a drill sergeant but I expect she has the patient's health in mind.   
She also admits her job is a lot easier when patients floss regularly.  She covers more than one office to make a living.  

Last appointment she said I was doing a good job, even though I noticed some tartar had built up.  She tells me to floss once a day.

 

[unicorn]

9 hours ago, Pete1111 said:

I'd be surprised to be accused in that way.  Called you a liar?  Hmmm....   Is he cute?😃

My dental hygienist is like a drill sergeant but I expect she has the patient's health in mind.   
She also admits her job is a lot easier when patients floss regularly.  She covers more than one office to make a living.  

Last appointment she said I was doing a good job, even though I noticed some tartar had built up.  She tells me to floss once a day.
 

The dentist was a she. I do drink a fair amount of coffee (3-4 cups a day), so I do get tartar, but that's a separate issue. The American Dental Association recommends flossing once a day, and that's what I do:

https://www.ada.org/resources/ada-library/oral-health-topics/floss

"...The ADA recommends brushing twice a day and cleaning between teeth with floss (or another interdental cleaner) once a day...". Had she asked "How often do you floss?" and I answered "Once a day" and she responded with "Then in your case, I recommend flossing twice a day," then I would have considered that advice (although I might look up the evidence for that, since it's not on any official guideline). 

Last week, I met with a Belgian cousin, who's also one of these "Once I've made my mind up, don't bother me with facts" people. I told her that my husband and I would be taking the Eurostar to Paris in a few days. She quickly and emphatically corrected me: "You can't take the Eurostar to Paris. Only to London. You must be on the Thalys." I just let it go by, and didn't bother informing her that the Eurostar and Thalys had merged, and Thalys no longer exists. 

Fortunately, I have only one other hard-headed cousin. Both of them are anti-vaxxers. We didn't meet the other hard-headed cousin, who nearly died from COVID-19. They were ready to pull the plug on her respirator, and her daughter asked that they wait until she could return to Belgium from Switzerland. As it turned out, the anti-vaxxer cousin pulled through while waiting for her daughter to return. If you think the near-death experience would change her mind regarding vaccines, you'd be wrong. Hard facts are of little importance to these hard-headed people, even when the facts are staring them in the face.

We met 5 other cousins during this trip, and the rest were fine. My husband could barely tolerate the hard-headed one. We also found out that I had one aunt, whom I didn't know too well, who was also anti-vaxxer. She died in 2021 of the illness. (The hard-headed one we met also did end up in the hospital with the illness, but not near-death)

The long and the short of it, is that I try to avoid people who disregard facts when forming "opinions," and feel that any opinion is valid as long as someone else agrees. Extremely closed-minded people are toxic.

[PeterRS]

7 minutes ago, unicorn said:

The long and the short of it, is that I try to avoid people who disregard facts when forming "opinions," and feel that any opinion is valid as long as someone else agrees. Extremely closed-minded people are toxic.

Understandable perhaps, but then were you not the one who disregarded "facts" when forming your "opinions" about the farmer who held on to his land at Narita?

[unicorn]

I would say the contrary. Of course, no one can say with 100% certainty what is going on in the mind of the farmer, other than the farmer. Only an insane person believes he can read others' minds, and only an insane person would proclaim that he knows the farmer is being truthful when he says he doesn't regret selling the farm. One can only make deductions based on observable facts such his statement that he obtain some relief during the Covid-19 shutdowns, and by simply observing his ridiculous situation. I'm pretty sure that this was the point made by the videos the BBC took of his situation. Can I proclaim with 100% accuracy that I know what the farmer's really feeling? No, but I think the evidence makes it fairly obvious. 

[Keithambrose]

15 hours ago, Pete1111 said:

I'd be surprised to be accused in that way.  Called you a liar?  Hmmm....   Is he cute?😃

My dental hygienist is like a drill sergeant but I expect she has the patient's health in mind.   
She also admits her job is a lot easier when patients floss regularly.  She covers more than one office to make a living.  

Last appointment she said I was doing a good job, even though I noticed some tartar had built up.  She tells me to floss once a day.

 

Lucky you, I'm told to floss twice a day. I don't! I do use a water gun,  which is surprisingly effective!

[10tazione]

40 minutes ago, Keithambrose said:

I do use a water gun,

Happy Songkran!

[Keithambrose]

24 minutes ago, 10tazione said:

Happy Songkran!

But only for teeth!