How many guys in rotation?

[BangkokDreamer]

For those that have gone many years, how do you settle on a particular guy. After probably 5 different guys I felt like #1 was the best and on my next trip I feel like I will only choose him. I see others exploring and I don't know if I could keep taking chances vs I know what is already good and what I will get. Is the chasing the unknown worth it?

[Vessey]

I have a small group of 'regulars' that I try and see every trip. Lads that have given me great sex, and/or warm companionship and/or are fun to take out to the clubs etc. There are one or two key members of that group, others on the fringe that drop out or who are, for various reasons replaced.  They are lads that I keep in loose contact with in the long months back home and who I am really looking forward to hooking-up with again on my next visit.

Notwithstanding them, I also love visiting the bars and 'interviewing' new boys, looking for that spark that makes my tired old cock stir, getting them back to my room, and seeing how we get on together. Some prove passing ships, others I am keen to see again.

Over many trips I have yet to find the one lad that can make me foresake all the others (old and new), although I get very close to, and get very fond of, one or two of my group.  But I am only a holiday visitor and probably behave like one; perhaps if I was to spend longer living here, or even live here, then 'the one might' emerge?

[jason1975]

I have found my #1 guy. After 7 years, I know he is the one for me. There are things that we dislike about each other but we tolerate them. The happy moments make up for these little shortcomings like how a married couple behaves over the years.

But I have many #2, #3, etc that's always changing! Lol!

[Olddaddy]

I just finished with a nice African guy , I took his WhatsApp just in case I want him again as he slammed me🍑 hard ,and slapped my ass !

 

[floridarob]

1 hour ago, jason1975 said:

After 7 years, I know he is the one for me.

 

1 hour ago, jason1975 said:

But I have many #2, #3, etc that's always changing! Lol!

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34 minutes ago, Olddaddy said:

I just finished with a nice African guy

What a day of rest will do for you  🍆

[vinapu]

16 hours ago, BangkokDreamer said:

For those that have gone many years, how do you settle on a particular guy. After probably 5 different guys I felt like #1 was the best and on my next trip I feel like I will only choose him. I see others exploring and I don't know if I could keep taking chances vs I know what is already good and what I will get. Is the chasing the unknown worth it?

nothing wrong on settling on one guy and having quasi boyfriend experience with him next trip.  My advice though will be to have plan B as next trip  you may find that he is not as hot as you thought at the first time or , even worse, he may be  as hot as he was but you will notice he is not interested in you and tries to avoid your eyesight when you are in bar . And it's always possibility of him not being on the scene anymore. Take it from me , with quite a few trips there I went through all those options.

But if everything works as you wish,  yes , I'd stick to known quality. Older I'm more and more I believe that's is the best course of action although not necessarily involves just one guy like Vessey said above .

[Olddaddy]

1 hour ago, vinapu said:

even worse, he may be  as hot as he was but you will notice he is not interested in you

Ahhhh very true 

For some reason I had this with a Bangkok boy ,no idea why 

Maybe I didn't pay him enough at the end ? I can't work it out ,he seemed to avoid me this trip ,slow answers to WhatsApp etc 

 

 

[vinapu]

13 hours ago, Olddaddy said:

 

Maybe I didn't pay him enough at the end ?

you ? You are Olddady , not old Scrooge

[spoon]

Its always good to keep a bunch of regulars and also keep finding new regulars as you will never know when your top guy will disappear from the scene. 

Unless of course if you found the one and made a commitment to be monogamous.

Just this year, ive lost 2 regulars, one of them was my top #1 and both of them have travelled with me. I sooth myself with an impromptu visit to bangkok and tries few more new guys, and i think at least one of them warrant another session next trip. I still hope i might meet the two regulars ive lost this year in the future though, especially if they remained attractive hehe but life goes on. 

[Slut1215]

this reminds me of a "new" upcoming netflix series called "The Harem".......hahaha

[PeterRS]

On 4/3/2025 at 8:20 AM, vinapu said:

nothing wrong on settling on one guy and having quasi boyfriend experience with him next trip.  My advice though will be to have plan B as next trip  you may find that he is not as hot as you thought at the first time or , even worse, he may be  as hot as he was but you will notice he is not interested in you and tries to avoid your eyesight when you are in bar . And it's always possibility of him not being on the scene anymore. Take it from me , with quite a few trips there I went through all those options.

So true! Although it was in Japan and not in Thailand, I met the one guy for me (not a money boy I should add) quite early in my time in Asia and therefore relatively inexperienced. Being close, I flew to Tokyo for long week-ends every month and he came to spend three weeks with me in Hong Kong. We had talked about a longer term relationship which I believed would happen. Then he met another guy and I lost him. Although I had met many of his friends and was lusting after at least a couple of them, no one could really relace him. 

It's one of the problems of developing deep feelings for someone who lives far from you. Try to stay romantically unaffected for only with rare exceptions will you have any guarantees. Stick to great sex, delighful companionship - and I hope to see you next time!