6 months in Siem Reap - gay scene has exhausted me

[Harrystiilees]

I lived there for the last 6 months. I’m exhausted from this gay crowd. Is it me or is it a little bit toxic? Fell for someone who then decided he was a money boy and needed quite a lot of cash. He owned a bar and a car and bought his parents house seemingly but only had $100 to his name suddenly. Anyway that didn’t work out but other guys I met didn’t want to be scene with a barang in public, only the gay bars, and no one there is interested in using condoms. Crazy.

I wish these guys would be upfront about being money boys. I had a fling with a 40 year old guy, quite out of shape etc who then wanted money in the morning after the deed was done. All really off putting. 
 

and I’m guessing drugs have something to do with this? Is Phnom Penh any better? 

[colom-bien]

I only spent a few days in Siem Reap. I was there for the first time last year. I met a couple of guys on Grindr, sex was free. And a couple of paid money boys as well. But I get what you're saying about them not wanting to be seen in public with foreigners. I sensed there was a lot of public shame about being gay. And that people were always watching and gossiping.

I am coming back to Cambodia this fall to see a college-aged hottie who studies in Phnom Penh. We have quasi-romantic intentions with each other. He's refused any modest offer I've made to help him financially. He wants us to meet up in Siem Reap. He refused a plane ticket and refused to let me reimburse him for the bus ticket. Of course, I like him all the more for this reason. I'm curious if he'll always be this way.

[floridarob]

8 hours ago, colom-bien said:

I'm curious if he'll always be this way.

will you?

[colom-bien]

14 hours ago, floridarob said:

will you?

What do you mean?

[Olddaddy]

15 hours ago, floridarob said:

will you?

 

1 hour ago, colom-bien said:

What do you mean?

Will ya ...suck his dick?

[colom-bien]

4 hours ago, Olddaddy said:

Will ya ...suck his dick?

1000 times I hope

[floridarob]

12 hours ago, colom-bien said:

What do you mean?

will you always be the same, and want to stay with him...or continue on the hunt like most of us here 😉

[colom-bien]

8 hours ago, floridarob said:

will you always be the same, and want to stay with him...or continue on the hunt like most of us here 😉

I'm a romantic at heart. If I find a guy that meets most of my needs and shares most of my values and is hotttttt, I'd pursue a relationship and "hang up my boxing gloves". I've always been monogamous in relationships in the past, but I'd love to be with a guy that would explore an open relationship with me.

My version of an open relationship is where we are monogamous at first, and for most of the time afterwards, but have "windows" that open up for a defined set of time. Like...a few weeks a year, or a trip, or just one particular guy for threesomes, or whatever we come up with. I've observed in most open gay relationships that they are so focused on the next hookup, and are looking, looking, looking all the time, they are not often focused on each other.

Anyway, with my Phnom Penh hottie, we only had one day together in person. We've written each other nearly every day since. It will be nice to spend more time together and see how it goes.

[floridarob]

6 hours ago, colom-bien said:

'm a romantic at heart. If I find a guy that meets most of my needs and shares most of my values and is hotttttt, I'd pursue a relationship and "hang up my boxing gloves".

Are you sure you're not @namazu .....🤨

 

 

6 hours ago, colom-bien said:

We've written each other nearly every day since. It will be nice to spend more time together and see how it goes.

Keep us updated 

[colom-bien]

6 hours ago, floridarob said:

Are you sure you're not @namazu .....🤨

Hahahah. Yeah.

[colom-bien]

6 hours ago, floridarob said:

Keep us updated 

Will do ❤️