Do you tell your regulars you are coming?

[jason1975]

Do you tell your regulars that you are coming to Thailand in advance?

Or do you just appear at their bars and surprise them? 🤣

[Raposa]

Yes I tell them and they send me countdowns on Line until I arrive  😆 😆 😆

 

[ichigo]

I usually surprise them, love seeing the smile on their faces 🥰

[NIrishGuy]

3 hours ago, ichigo said:

I usually surprise them, love seeing the smile on their faces 🥰

Oh a look of horror as they WEREN"T expecting you and instantly realise they've a problem for the next 2 weeks as they'll be double boooked - and so start all the lies about how they can't meet you for lunch as they have problem with stomach and can't eat ( which clears up by dinner time) and that they'll can't stay over night with you tonight as they have to go look after a friend who's sick but he live far outside Pattaya so they will be away for 3 nights to take care etc etc . Bless em 🙂 

[floridarob]

3 hours ago, NIrishGuy said:

Oh a look of horror as they WEREN"T expecting you

I was going to post that similar reply when I 1st read it....but I'd just woken up and my sarcasm mode wasn't fully ready 😆

[jason1975]

11 hours ago, Raposa said:

Yes I tell them and they send me countdowns on Line until I arrive  😆 😆 😆

 

You must be a good customer hence they get excited when you tell them you are returning

[vinapu]

13 hours ago, ichigo said:

I surprise them, love seeing the smile on their faces 🥰

+1

And Ib take it to extremes. This very trip I received a message from boy " when you are coming to Thailand" to which I answered " don't know yet" . It was perfect timing as I was  already on my way to his bar. Showing up there 15 minutes later it was big smile indeed. And no, no question was asked why I lied so blatantly. 

[spoon]

I used to contact one of my regular before my trip, only to arrange a meet on my first night, since i arrived at night already and might not make it to the bar to find suitable candidate.

Last trip, i chose not to contact anyone, thinking i would make it to the bar. Turns out, my flight got a bit delayed and im too lazy to go out since im only settled down around 1.30am ish. Nevertheless, i did contact one of my regular and got a speedy respond that he is available but asked if he can come to me at 2.30am. of course i wouldnt mind waiting a bit. No off fee and drinks had to be paid. 

[jason1975]

Waiting until bar close is good way to save on off fees and drinks. Money saved can go to more tips to guy. Of course, in your case, it wasn't your intention.

But this can be a good cost saving strategy if you already have the guy's Line contact and you can wait till so late. The disadvantage is the risk of another customer taking him long time. Or even worse, a customer takes him short time and he cum and he doesn't have much cum left for you! 🤬

[reader]

16 hours ago, jason1975 said:

Do you tell your regulars that you are coming…

I tell all guys when I’m about to come. Figure it’s the decent thing to do.🙂

[vinapu]

1 hour ago, reader said:

I tell all guys when I’m about to come. Figure it’s the decent thing to do.🙂

Implication of the above is that it's indecent NOT to tell them about arrival. 

It looks like one of those cases where friends don't need to agree on everything.

I will stay with my silence and outright lies as it seems to serve me better than immediate messages " when can  I  see you again ? "

While we can dispute the approach above I think it's still indecent when third party informs about somebody's impending plans. News travel fast.

This is how my  surprising birthday visit year or two before covid got ruined as boy got a news somehow.

[reader]

My observation was attempt at humor. Substitute the slang “cuming” for “coming.”

[Vessey]

My current No 1, has two other No 1s, and he sees his key task to try and manage our visits us so that we don't overlap, or at least by not too much. I have an alleged advantage in that I know about the other two, whereas they, apparently, believe they are the sole source of his affections haha.  So I am aware of the machinations that he has to go through when clashes occur, but it usually works out fine.

As to my other regulars, some are in weekly (or even more frequent contact), others perhaps monthly, while the remainder just look pleased to see me as and when I next turn up. 

So I can divert my entire focus to my next trip. But they are money boys who have to take whatever opportunities come their way to keep the baht rolling in on a daily basis. They may say 'I wait for you ☺️' but in reality they literally cannot afford to!

[Keithambrose]

3 hours ago, reader said:

I tell all guys when I’m about to come. Figure it’s the decent thing to do.🙂

Can be messy otherwise!

[jason1975]

2 hours ago, Vessey said:

But they are money boys who have to take whatever opportunities come their way to keep the baht rolling in on a daily basis. They may say 'I wait for you ☺️' but in reality they literally cannot afford to!

I agree. They may enjoy many offs and tips during high season but things can get really bad during low season.

[bkkmfj2648]

3 hours ago, jason1975 said:

but things can get really bad during low season.

Amen to that.  When you live here full time - I dread those sad desperate faces during the low season months.

During low season, I pray that all of you seasonals return as soon as possible to reduce the pressure off of us year-rounder expats and retirees.

 

[srvhakko]

I always tell the travel dates and we plan together. Just last month there was an exception, I successfully completed surprise birthday mission.

 l have a cambodian friend, l can describe him not a boyfriend but bestfriend.l was thinking about new vacation end of february. Actually, I didn't have any plans for the vacation early but the idea of making surprising for his birthday suddenly came to my mind. My work was very busy and I could only take short-term off from my workplace and I could only make a 5-night travel plan. In short, I decided on last minutes travel to Thailand.   When l arrived saturday afternoon at Amara hotel on surawong road, l started to wait his message. Almost 1 year we talk with each other in every day. Morning or afternoon or evening, it does not matter.Time was 5.15 p.m and he sent to me video while he was going to gym center.

Whew! That was message l expected.        l know his gym place, his gym is near silom road. After 6 p.m. l headed to his gym door and 10 minutes later I arrived there across the door and started to wait for him. Half an hour he went out and l  called out to him "suostei" (means hello in Khmer language). He was really shocked and really happy. He gave me lovely hug and kisses. Moreover he had a friend with him and that boy was looking at me like he saw a ghost. 😀

[floridarob]

2 hours ago, srvhakko said:

Moreover he had a friend with him and that boy was looking at me like he saw a ghost. 

Was he more than a "friend" 😳

[floridarob]

9 hours ago, Keithambrose said:

Can be messy otherwise!

as you've pointed out with your cum all over the place hotel room 😳

[nikba2515]

On my second, third and fourth trip to Thailand, I informed, detailed my schedule, my interests and possible spend more time together. The possibility of meeting a cute guy is endless in Thailand, not only at the bars, but restaurants, banks, hotels, on the streets, malls and all professionals.  The first meeting was all fun with great intensity of sex and interests and these are not easily match on the second round. The chemistry, situation, somethings in the air, the guy had been exposed to new faces and more experiences, these effected and changed the guy's mentality how he see foreigner as sex partner.

I normally contacted them a few days after arrived, this gave me an opportunity to meet fresh faces and not being tied or being committed. Once settled down and relaxed, I called them at late night for quick fun, testing if he can match or goes beyond the first meeting", if the sex and chemistry were lack of luster then it time to move on.  It works well for me and with current situation, Thailand offers so much choices; local guy, tourist and migrants around the world. 

[ToTheCore]

As vague as the term might be, in your opinion, what constitutes a regular?

a) from the customer's perspective

b) from the boy's perspective

[colmx]

16 hours ago, Vessey said:

...the remainder just look pleased to see me as and when I next turn up. 

The jungle drums are beating well in advance of your returns! They are like the worst kept secret in Pattaya, even the cleaning room attendants know of your arrival and wait like Downton abbey outside your accommodation!

 

 

[jason1975]

12 hours ago, ToTheCore said:

As vague as the term might be, in your opinion, what constitutes a regular?

a) from the customer's perspective

b) from the boy's perspective

A regular is someone you off without fail every time you are in town.

Ditto from the guy's perspective - his regular customer is one who always calls on him when he's in town.

[srvhakko]

17 hours ago, floridarob said:

Was he more than a "friend" 😳

Ohh no, l know his gym friend , good friend from his bar.  Actually l have problem with his roommate.

l and his roommate can not get along with each others. l feel like that. When we meet all together, l smell jealousy in the air mutually 😉