Popular Post Cornilly Posted January 9 Popular Post Posted January 9 Hi I'm hoping Forum members can give me some advice. I am 66 and lost my life partner a year ago. I now feel ready to reawaken my sex life. But I also crave warnth and affection at the same time. Do you think I will be able to find younger partners in Brazil who will be afffectionate as well as passionate and kinder to an older man? I presume I will need to pay but do I look online for people who fit this bill or do I try and find someone kind in the Saunas? Olddaddy, BlkSuperman, Alaskabear and 2 others 5 Quote
Members travguy Posted January 9 Members Posted January 9 You might consider if you are a coroa, if I have the word correct. Older, maybe furry guy. Not sure if we would call it a bear. Some younger guys are into coroas. I have met a very small number of younger gay guys that are ok with older, but mostly to hang out with. FWIW I am not a bear. If you speak some PT you have some chance of meeting such younger guys. Will not be easy though. Best of luck. Mavica 1 Quote
Members Popular Post Xclay Posted January 9 Members Popular Post Posted January 9 As a newbie, definitely stay away from online in Brazil. Stick to the safe saunas. Assuming you are reasonably fit and have no mobility issues, here is a draft plan just to throw out some suggestions: A nice easy first trip might be one-two weeks in Sao Paulo. Get a nice hotel on Paulista Avenida. See great museums during the day. Around 3:30-4:30, take an Uber to Espaco Lagoa Sauna. Bring ear plugs, seriously. Like you, I like affection along with serious sex. You can definitely find handsome young men who will be highly affectionate (I have found some great guys on this current trip), but they will vary a lot. In my experience, the most highly affectionate GPs tend to be bottoms, but some tops can be great at hugging and kissing. Finding them can be tricky because most will claim they like to hug and be romantic, but that does not guarantee they will follow through in the room. Be cautious about making much eye contact unless you think you have at least a semi-finalist to "interview." More and more of them have Google Translate on their phones now, so communication is not too difficult. It sounds like you might be at risk of having your heart broken and be seen as a sugar daddy monthly ATM if you are not careful. So try to resist falling in love right away and being exploited. Many posts on here discuss payment strategies. Let us know how it goes. Mavica, vinapu, Latbear4blk and 4 others 6 1 Quote
Members Xclay Posted January 9 Members Posted January 9 P.S. Suggest you avoid admitting that this is your first trip to Brazil. A little white lie here would be valuable. Maybe allude to Rio (or tres Rio) because it may be obvious you're not familiar with Lagoa. Primeone385 and Axiom2020 2 Quote
floridarob Posted January 10 Posted January 10 7 hours ago, Cornilly said: who will be afffectionate as well as passionate and kinder to an older man? Transactional or you looking for a new partner? 7 hours ago, Cornilly said: I now feel ready to reawaken my sex life. I'm guessing you're looking to be a whore....not a derogatory term in my book, btw.... More info, how long can you go for trips, how often, are you retired, sex position, etc.... What's bringing your attention to Brasil, vs Thailand or Asia, Colombia...? Axiom2020 and Mavica 2 Quote
Members Latbear4blk Posted January 10 Members Posted January 10 8 hours ago, Cornilly said: Hi I'm hoping Forum members can give me some advice. I am 66 and lost my life partner a year ago. I now feel ready to reawaken my sex life. But I also crave warnth and affection at the same time. Do you think I will be able to find younger partners in Brazil who will be afffectionate as well as passionate and kinder to an older man? I presume I will need to pay but do I look online for people who fit this bill or do I try and find someone kind in the Saunas? You can definitely find a GP willing to be affectionate, as long as you do not have bad breath, you are clean, and kind, besides of course being generous. @Xclay is sharing very good advice above. Make sure you are emotionally in a good place, because there is no shortage of heart (and ass)-breaking sweet hot guys in Brazil. Axiom2020, Primeone385, Xclay and 1 other 4 Quote
Members BlkSuperman Posted January 10 Members Posted January 10 @Cornilly I'm sorry you lost your partner. If this is your first time, I'd advise you linking up with the person I attached to my response. Hes an amazing guy. Hes a tour guide and can show you around Rio. Extremely friendly, bilingual and has the hook up and lots of Intel regarding the saunas and culture there. Hes a trustworthy so you won't have to worry about being taken advantage of. Hire him to show you the ins and outs of rio. Good luck! Oh wait! He also has some of the most delicious Brazilian dicks for you to suck. Wish you all the best, my friend. Axiom2020 and NoGagSuckerSF 2 Quote
Mavica Posted January 10 Posted January 10 Lots of good advice thus far. I think BlkSuperman offers a good first-timer, timid traveler option. Quote
Members Primeone385 Posted January 10 Members Posted January 10 6 hours ago, BlkSuperman said: @Cornilly I'm sorry you lost your partner. If this is your first time, I'd advise you linking up with the person I attached to my response. Hes an amazing guy. Hes a tour guide and can show you around Rio. Extremely friendly, bilingual and has the hook up and lots of Intel regarding the saunas and culture there. Hes a trustworthy so you won't have to worry about being taken advantage of. Hire him to show you the ins and outs of rio. Good luck! Oh wait! He also has some of the most delicious Brazilian dicks for you to suck. Wish you all the best, my friend. What @BlkSuperman says is very true. He can find you young guys that are tailored to you taste. But those guys would be more for pay. But his services of providing a list of attractive and nice guys is true. He helped me learn the sanuas and guys outside of the saunas. I will even go as far to say I was like a dog chasing every squirrel. He saved me from possibly making mistakes in spending to much money and going to places that might of been to shady. " Squirrel !" (IYKYK) Plus his tour services are top notch. He's fun to hang with as well. Quote
Cornilly Posted January 10 Author Posted January 10 I'm so so grateful for your fantastic advice and support. I will definitely contact your suggestion. Can anyone give me any ideas where to stay where I can take guys back without hassle? Quote
Members Primeone385 Posted January 11 Members Posted January 11 Manu can help with suggestions. Just ask for either hotel or airbnb. Quote
Members Xclay Posted January 11 Members Posted January 11 I don't know anything at all about Manu but perhaps -- if you subcontract "procurement" to Manu -- his GPs will be safe enough to take to your lodging. But, as a total newbie, I suggest you be sure right away to try out the safe sauna experience. You may enjoy meeting and interacting with the range of GPs you will see there. For the record, many frequent travelers only hook up at the saunas. Practices differ. Looks like my helpful comrades are recommending Rio over Sao Paulo, due especially to Manu. I think that for an older newbie, SP's Lagoa is a more congenial setting than Rio's 117 & 202. But maybe Manu, if he is a good at they say, tips the advantage to Rio. floridarob, Connordrick and Axiom2020 3 Quote
joizy Posted January 13 Posted January 13 On 1/9/2025 at 8:36 AM, Cornilly said: Hi I'm hoping Forum members can give me some advice. I am 66 and lost my life partner a year ago. I now feel ready to reawaken my sex life. But I also crave warnth and affection at the same time. Do you think I will be able to find younger partners in Brazil who will be afffectionate as well as passionate and kinder to an older man? I presume I will need to pay but do I look online for people who fit this bill or do I try and find someone kind in the Saunas? This is slightly off topic, but still on topic...I've been traveling a lot this past year since I just retired, and I've been surprised at the number of young men who are looking for "mature". I found this in Italy, Mexico and Panama, three countries I just visited. I also encountered this in Colombia a few years ago. Because of the kind of guys I'm attracted to, I tended more towards the ones who were charging, but if I wanted, I am sure I would have been able to find an affectionate younger companion. Several of them were really hot. Not sure what the attraction to older men is about but I was happy to receive it. floridarob, FunFifties, episevilla and 1 other 3 1 Quote
nikba2515 Posted January 13 Posted January 13 15 hours ago, joizy said: This is slightly off topic, but still on topic...I've been traveling a lot this past year since I just retired, and I've been surprised at the number of young men who are looking for "mature". I found this in Italy, Mexico and Panama, three countries I just visited. I also encountered this in Colombia a few years ago. Because of the kind of guys I'm attracted to, I tended more towards the ones who were charging, but if I wanted, I am sure I would have been able to find an affectionate younger companion. Several of them were really hot. Not sure what the attraction to older men is about but I was happy to receive it. 100% agree, been told by the youngster themselves. Much older guys “bottom” are easy to please, less work, and generosity: shopping, dining and entertaining. 10-15 minutes of pounding, kissing and lot of cuddling, these are routine… vinapu 1 Quote
babybear2 Posted January 13 Posted January 13 If you do not speak Portuguese, it is best to visit Sauna only and being 65 is pretty normal in the sauna, I even see much older clients Xclay 1 Quote
a-447 Posted January 14 Posted January 14 On 1/13/2025 at 11:13 AM, joizy said: I've been surprised at the number of young men who are looking for "mature". I found this in Italy, Mexico and Panama, three countries I just visited. I also encountered this in Colombia a few years ago. Because of the kind of guys I'm attracted to, I tended more towards the ones who were charging, but if I wanted, I am sure I would have been able to find an affectionate younger companion. Several of them were really hot. Not sure what the attraction to older men is about but I was happy to receive it. You'll find this in Japan, too. Last year I went to a gay cinema in tokyo which was frequented by old guys, yet managed to hook up with a couple of younger guys who preferred mature men. The same happened at the 24 Sauna in Shinjuku. I had sex with 2 younger guys, one of whom was in his twenties! joizy 1 Quote
hornyfrog Posted January 18 Posted January 18 On 1/9/2025 at 6:37 PM, travguy said: You might consider if you are a coroa, if I have the word correct. Older, maybe furry guy. Not sure if we would call it a bear. Some younger guys are into coroas. I have met a very small number of younger gay guys that are ok with older, but mostly to hang out with. FWIW I am not a bear. If you speak some PT you have some chance of meeting such younger guys. Will not be easy though. Best of luck. Just for clarification purposes… Coroa and bear / urso are not the same thing, although they can overlap in some cases. A coroa is a mature older man, regardless of physical appearance or sexual orientation. often admired for his maturity, life experience, financial stability. and/or charisma. and it doesn’t necessarily imply body type or hairiness, or even sexual attractiveness. It’s just a general, harmless, non-sexual descriptor of a mature-looking / -acting older man. Urso is bear in Portuguese. Like in North America, it refers specifically to a gay man who is larger, hairy, and has a rugged or masculine appearance. It’s more about physical traits and being part of that specific urso subculture within the gay community. A man could be both an urso and a coroa if he fits the descriptions of both terms — for instance, a mature, hairy, and rugged older man. And “urso” is used in Brazil far more than “bear” — though you can find more English speakers and global travelers who will use “bear”. Then, there’s “daddy”. A “coroa” can sometimes overlap with the concept of a “daddy” used in North America, but there are differences in connotation. In U.S. gay culture, a “daddy” is typically an older man who is seen as sexually desirable, often confident, nurturing, or protective. The term often carries a playful, flirtatious, or explicitly sexual or dominant undertone, often linked to a power dynamic. The coroa can but may not necessarily be viewed as a daddy — it really depends on the context and the individual’s vibe. While coroa can sometimes imply physical attractiveness (like the term “silver fox” in the USA), it doesn’t inherently carry the sexualized or dominant undertones of “daddy.” It’s important to note (especially in the context of the original post) that. in a country like Brazil with far more (socioeconomic) class delineation between rich and poor than in the USA, Canada or Western Europe, that the coroa and the daddy are almost always the financially stable providers. This is the case whether or not the younger / other partner considers himself a sex worker or not. vinapu and FunFifties 2 Quote
FunFifties Posted January 18 Posted January 18 On 1/13/2025 at 4:13 AM, joizy said: This is slightly off topic, but still on topic...I've been traveling a lot this past year since I just retired, and I've been surprised at the number of young men who are looking for "mature". I found this in Italy, Mexico and Panama, three countries I just visited. I also encountered this in Colombia a few years ago. Because of the kind of guys I'm attracted to, I tended more towards the ones who were charging, but if I wanted, I am sure I would have been able to find an affectionate younger companion. Several of them were really hot. Not sure what the attraction to older men is about but I was happy to receive it. I have made similar experiences. I seem to be getting more attention from guys in their 20s and 30s than when I was their age. I don't mind joizy 1 Quote
Members young11 Posted January 22 Members Posted January 22 I do think that Brazil is one of the most welcoming or tolerating countries, if not the most, in the world when it comes to the age difference in relationship. From my experience many Brazilians do not see the age gap as a bad thing or a taboo while in the Western gay scenes people over 40 are literally dead to most. Even people over 30 struggle in the west, which is so sad. Quote
floridarob Posted January 22 Posted January 22 Asia seems to be even better in that respect, in what I've seen over the years. Often wonder if it's love or just Melania mentality, green card and inheritance 🤔 vinapu 1 Quote
Members Latbear4blk Posted January 22 Members Posted January 22 19 minutes ago, floridarob said: Asia seems to be even better in that respect, in what I've seen over the years. Often wonder if it's love or just Melania mentality, green card and inheritance 🤔 Besides being welcoming and tolerant, I wish they were better in bed. Apparently, no one can remove South Americans from the best lovers podium. Lucky, Connordrick, floridarob and 1 other 4 Quote
Popular Post Cornilly Posted Monday at 08:21 PM Author Popular Post Posted Monday at 08:21 PM OK. So many Forum members were so kind in their empathy for my situation and generous in providing information following my initial post I thought I should repay in a very small way some of the kindness shown me by at least posting on my experiences. None of anything in my visit reports will be new or different to the seasoned traveller to Rio. But I give the perspective of a man nearer 70 to 60 in age. So I hope it is helpful to people facing the same predicament as me. But it is also a warning to you younger guys. That you don’t get any less horny with age, although you are far more likely to face prejudice because of that age and become the dirty old man, the randy grandpa, the cheeky codger, the frisky fossil or the lusty old goat. Ageism is deeply ingrained in society in ways that other forms of discrimination, like racism or sexism, have been more actively challenged. That’s enough of a rant. Funnily enough I found no ageism amongst the callboys. None even asked me my age. Why insult the client! So I am 67. I lost my partner last year and have not spent the night with anyone since then. I miss the sex but I miss the company overnight as well. I’m mobile but I have a bit of arthritis which makes some types of sexual activity uncomfortable. I must confess to paying some of the lads up here in Northeast England. But they’ve all been squalid experiences. I’m fit and reasonably trim but I’m not expecting anyone to throw themselves at me. I wanted company almost as much as sex. So I went to Rio determined to buy affection and guys for overnights. So I took the plunge. I managed to get a discount ticket from Manchester UK to Rio £520 return. Cabin baggage only. I used the Kiwi nomad site to find the ticket. This is an amazing site for booking flights, especially if you are going to more than one place. https://www.kiwi.com/en/nomad/. There is a wait in Lisbon (4.5 hours) but you can spend some of the time if you are lucky ogling a dark Portuguese businessman most of whom are just gorgeous. And their tailoring. Just makes them a different type of man in uniform – which I can’t resist. You can see how worked up I was already getting! I wanted to see if I could make sure that I could get down to business as soon as I arrived, so I did some extensive homework. So how to choose a "garota de programa" (GP) who is someone who engages in paid companionship or escort services, often involving prearranged meetings—hence the idea of a "program.". Most of the websites available don’t allow reviews which is crucial in deciding on someone. After all body is one thing but you want to know that they will service you well as well. https://garotocomlocal.com.br/ allows positive reviews only. So you can use this to work out if someone has been reviewed in the last month or so and at least you know they are still active. I would say about half the guys with profiles on the site are just not working at any one point in time and if you Whatsapp them you won’t get any kind of acknowledgement. There are generally fewer garotas on the other sites. On https://fatalmodel.com/ I like the fact that each of the models must give an identical 360 degree video of themselves in their underwear (but no face). You get a much more honest idea of how trim someone is, the size of their cock and how nice their arse is going to be compared to their own flattering photos. If you register you can also hear them talk which rules some of them out immediately. If you have translation software that can listen, then you can see what they are saying. Unfortunately you can’t see the reviews without a premium payment which you can’t make without a Cadastro de Pessoas Físicas (CPF) an 11-digit taxpayer identification number used for various financial and legal transactions in Brazil. You can apply for one before you leave. The UK consulate website says you can obtain them in two weeks. I am still waiting for mine some 2 months later. Getting one of these before you go out will make your life easier in so many ways. It means you will be able to get a bank account, pay locals with the Brazilian QR code person to person system (PIX), and get a local SIM more easily. Back to the websites. https://br.mileroticos.com/acompanhantes-masculinos/rio-de-janeiro-rj/ The advantage of this site is you get a few pictures. . You can filter on those who claim to be immediately available. Generally, the lower you go down the page on these sites the lower the quoted price is. There aren’t many on this site. Then if you are going downmarket there is https://boytoy.com.br/. I did establish contact with one of the boys on this site but he sent me such threatening GIFs of his swinging cock I ruled him out on safety grounds. There are certainly more to choose from on https://br.skokka.com/acompanhantes-masculinos/rio-de-janeiro/. This is where you go to see R$150 rates. But the site is full of amateurs, and I wouldn’t trust many of the profiles myself. I was anxious to go with one of the guys who only advertises on this site. And established comms before I went out. But he turned out to be one of the more expensive attractions and when I got to Rio also turned out to be “difficult”. I’ll return to that later. You rule out any adverts that are focused on the pleasure of the GP and not on the client – you know the ones which have videos of him being sucked off but never of him doing the sucking for example. Then you rule out any that are all about how hard they are going to ram you or hurt you or destroy your hole and passage. No thanks. That’s just you getting pleasure in causing discomfort. And of course increases the risk of tearing and STIs. I like a 23cm cock if its available. Who doesn’t? But any advert that is almost exclusively about the cock and nothing else is also ruled out. He’s got a big enough ego with a cock like that – why would I want to make it even bigger by worshipping it. And also the longer and bigger they are the more distorted they become. Twisted or lopsided. And the more difficult it is for you to take him. No. The perfect penis is like a perfect cylinder. Straight and evenly girthed throughout its length, even if that length is less than mega. Also important of course is level of hardness. It’s the stiffness of a guy that is the real turn on for me. I guess that’s natural when you yourself sometimes need pharmaceutical help to achieve a hard-on. It’s just great to celebrate that potency in another. And if it points up like a flagpole so much the better. The whole time I was in Brazil I never came across a GP whose cock wasn’t ridiculously stiff and who couldn’t keep it stiff (even with me as partner) over 40 minutes or longer. Why isn’t that the case for similarly aged guys in the UK? Even the gym fit ones. Is it the ultra-processed food or the dependence on porn? Mind you I noticed in the Rio bathhouse that many of the GPs were watching straight porn to keep hard. I threw caution to the wind and had Whatsapp message conversations with at least five lads in the week before I left. I guess many GPs have what might be described as chaotic lifestyles. I don’t think many of them would be able to make a commitment further ahead than this. I must have messaged more than 30 GPs before I went. 20 gave no reply and didn’t seem to have read my message. Or once they had provided a rate, didn’t follow up any subsequent contact. If they did respond, I made it clear what my minimum requirements were. That they French kiss, they will give me oral not just me giving them oral and that they are versatile. There are so many power tops and gay for pays in Brazil, that this soon reduces the field. Why would you want to connect with someone unwilling to kiss you? Only one of the GPs had the sense or perhaps insensitive cheek to place a Whatsapp video call with me once he had agreed a rate. I answered and he spoke comparatively good English. He was lying in the nude and playing with what he told me was his 23cm cock. It certainly looked huge. This was one of the guys I ended up meeting whilst in Rio so you have to admire his marketing. And he really did have 23cm up close. I’ll post soon on my actual experiences in the next post. vinapu, reader, bkkmfj2648 and 2 others 2 3 Quote
Members Riobard Posted Monday at 08:46 PM Members Posted Monday at 08:46 PM Surely in the actual report we’ll be told that you needn’t have afterthought it or complicated the whole deal ahead of time as much as the homework suggested. Marc in Calif 1 Quote
floridarob Posted Tuesday at 12:55 AM Posted Tuesday at 12:55 AM 4 hours ago, Cornilly said: Why would you want to connect with someone unwilling to kiss you? I'm not into kissing, rarely do I meet someone that I feel that special connection/feelings that I want to kiss...... When guys ask me why I don't want to kiss, I tell them it's too gay 😝 BlkSuperman and Latbear4blk 1 1 Quote
Members BlkSuperman Posted Tuesday at 02:06 AM Members Posted Tuesday at 02:06 AM 1 hour ago, floridarob said: I'm not into kissing, rarely do I meet someone that I feel that special connection/feelings that I want to kiss...... When guys ask me why I don't want to kiss, I tell them it's too gay 😝 Wellllll. Here's something else we have in common besides being sluts. Kissing has never been a requirement of mine either. Now giving my nipples a good suck, pull and tug is ABSOLUTELY 💯 A REQUIREMENT! Riobard and floridarob 2 Quote
