How do I choose the masseusue

[sawat]

Whenever i see the boys outside the massage shop - how do you choose the masseuse? Do you stand there and stare at them for a few moments? it feels kind of awkward. Then today I saw one that I was really interested in, but he just looked down at his phone, and then a one next to him called out massage but I wasn't interested in him and then would feel guilty if I choose the other one and rejected the one that called out. The one that calls out is never the one I am interested in. So how do you handle this? I don't want to look like a creep standing there and assessing them on the side of the road ma...

[vinapu]

You right that standing and staring at them would fee awkward then don't do that.

There are two ways of doing that:

1/ walk slowly past the shop and if your chosen one is occupied with his phone or whatever just keep going another 100-200 metres , turn back and repeat. If he is still on his phone pat him gently (not on the head as it may be taken as offensive)  and when he raises his head just motion to go inside

or

2/ just do underscored part right away without bothering with walk and return theatre

Few warnings

a/ don't feel guilty  about choosing whoever you prefer . It's nature of their job and they are used to it

b/ don't be surprised if you chosen boy raises he head showing face and it turns out that he is not necessarily one you would choose if you saw him like that in first place . By now you are stuck with him but take a heart, often guys lacking in looks department compensate with skills and manly attributes. In old Freshboys in soi twilight there was older guy who looked outright ugly. That changed drastically when you took him home and he took off his undies

c/ at end of day, after 37 trips to Thailand I may say that with certainty - if you engage buy who is not paying attention to you , you are taking chances it will not work as you envisioned. I call it "smile rule" - off or have massage only with guy who smiled at me or at minimum , made lasting eye contact. If he is visibly avoiding it, move on. Exceptions apply but rarely

hope it helped 

[reader]

46 minutes ago, vinapu said:

if you engage buy who is not paying attention to you , you are taking chances it will not work as you envisioned.

Absolutely. Favor the guys who demonstrate interest in you. Don't waste time on guys with blank expression regardless of how attractive he might be.

There's a guy who works in the Olivia's shop on Surawong who always smiles and sometimes reaches out to grab my hand as I pass by. Was always on my way someplace but I've never dismissed him from short list. Hope to connect on next trip because he sends all the right signals.

Only thing I'd add is if manager tells you that you have to choose from rotation, or attempts to steer you to a chosen few guys, say thanks and move on to different shop.

[Olddaddy]

I found out it's always good to have a small chat with the masseur too before choosing him.y🗣️

Bad luck back in October I saw a gorgeous boy in front of that  massage shop in front of Tartawan hotel.

I immediately pointed to him 590 B a massage !

Upstairs we went and .....sniffle sniffle cough cough cough 😷 

I had to ask him if he was ok , I ended it early he obviously had the flu badly  nose👃 running etc 💦💧

[sawat]

Thanks for your suggestions. NGL i am still struggling. I find the similar thing when I go to Jomtien Complex lol so I just mainly go to gogo bars 😢 What happened before when I went to Jomtien was i got a bit flustered and didnt want to look weird looking at all of them so ended up stuck with one i had no interest in LOl

[bkkmfj2648]

27 minutes ago, sawat said:

I find the similar thing when I go to Jomtien Complex lol so I just mainly go to gogo bars 😢 What happened before when I went to Jomtien was i got a bit flustered and didnt want to look weird looking at all of them so ended up stuck with one i had no interest in LOl

I live right next to the Jomtien Complex and this is my BIGGEST frustration point - because all of the massage guys congregate and stand, and/or sit on those plastic chairs in front of the many shops.

After you have lived here for a while you can't get a word in edge wise with the new guys because all of the guys that you previously massaged with think that they own you and try to block you from meeting the new meat.  It is totally unprofessional and intimidating and does not allow for a calm and civilized way to interact with the one that you are interested in.  Unfortunately in Pattaya there is no booking systems or waiting rooms where the mamasan/papasan gets the guys to line up and you can choose the one that you want - like in Bangkok.  Instead, the Pattaya methodology is not curated and is savage like, as if to be at the crowded morning fish market. Not civilized at all.

So, you can use technology to your advantage.  Walk around the Jomtien Complex and note the guys that you like. Then go onto the apps (Hornet, Grindr, Romeo) and wait until the one that you like  --> to appear and then have a chat with him to see if you want to make a booking with him in your room, in a short time room, or in the shop where he works.

You will find that this methodology is calm and civilized.

[Olddaddy]

Bkkmfj

I'm eagerly awaiting your Cebu🇵🇭 report

[vinapu]

5 hours ago, sawat said:

I went to Jomtien was i got a bit flustered and didnt want to look weird looking at all of them 

why worry ?, everybody passing by Jomtien Complex , or for that matter any area with boys on display looks bit weird

[vinapu]

5 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

So, you can use technology to your advantage.  Walk around the Jomtien Complex and note the guys that you like. Then go onto the apps (Hornet, Grindr, Romeo) and wait until the one that you like  --> to appear and then have a chat with him to see if you want to make a booking with him in your room, in a short time room, or in the shop where he works.

You will find that this methodology is calm and civilized.

That's novelty - going to Pattaya and expect calm and civilisation. We have that at home.

I agree that boys we engaged previously are trying to monopolize our custom, no prisoners taken , but look at bright side -they skillfully create an impression that we are such prized possession,  which in turn should boost our ego. 

[vinapu]

3 hours ago, Olddaddy said:

Bkkmfj

I'm eagerly awaiting your Cebu🇵🇭 report

not only you

[ChristianPFC]

If I were in OP's situation, I would stand in front of the place, let my eyes wander over the available boys, then look at the menu or ask for the menu and study it carefully, while occasionally lifting my view to the available boys, hoping to catch the sight of the one I want but who is busy with his phone. If that does not work, ask the other boys about the chosen one or make an excuse and leave.

15 hours ago, reader said:

who always smiles and sometimes reaches out to grab my hand as I pass by.

Did it ever occur to you that he might reach out to everyone who passes by? 

There was a massage boy near my place in Bangkok. He smiled or waved to me every time I passed his workplace, and I entertained thoughts of getting now him better. But then we crossed paths on the road or in 7-Eleven three times, he didn't recognize or ignored me. That's all I need to know, his interest in me is entirely for business. If he had smiled to me one of these times, that would have settled the deal.

[reader]

54 minutes ago, ChristianPFC said:

Did it ever occur to you that he might reach out to everyone who passes by?

No. I only observed that he was the guy who always smiled at me.

But if he's good at his job I wouldn't be surprised if he smiled at every potential customer.

As a matter of course, I return every smile I receive from any shop (including the ladies). I figure that I owe them the courtesy.

[spoon]

21 hours ago, vinapu said:

why worry ?, everybody passing by Jomtien Complex , or for that matter any area with boys on display looks bit weird

I think if you walk through jomtien complex willingly but not look at the boys, you are the weird ones hehe.