Tippping and Buying Drinks for Boys in the Bars

[Gaybutton]

In the "I Offed a Boy" thread this came up and I think it is an interesting enough issue to see how you all feel about it and what your own practice usually, but not necessarily always, is.

 

I did not include a choice of "I don't call boys over" as an option despite the fact that when sitting in a bar you don't necessarily call boys over all the time, or even at all, because this poll and discussion is about the practices of those who do call boys over.

 

I also always include "Other" as an option when I post polls in case none of the poll options apply to you.

 

I believe that when you call a boy over to sit with you, the standard practice is to buy a drink for him and also tip him. However, I also believe if a boy sits down with you uninvited, then you are under no obligation to buy him anything or tip him if you do not wish for him to sit with you. It's a different story if he sits uninvited, but you spend time with him anyway.

 

Whether or not you take him off is not a factor of the issue covered in this poll.

[Bob]

I was rather dumbfounded to hear (firecat's response in a related thread) that drinks are 300 baht in Soi Prostitute? Damn! Given that, my response is not to not lessen my usual standard of buying a drink and tipping a boy but, simply, to stay the hell out of Bangkok! (I'm cheap)

[Gaybutton]

stay the hell out of Bangkok! (I'm cheap)

I don't consider that cheap. I consider it having sense enough not to permit yourself to succumb to rip-off prices.

 

It's one thing when a person is in Thailand on a holiday and wants to have his good time no matter what the cost. Those are the people who usually tell us all about how much it would cost back in their home countries, something I consider to be completely irrelevant considering they are not in their home countries. It's quite another for those of us who live here or spend enough time in Thailand to know how to find what they're looking for without paying rip-off prices.

 

I am under no obligation to patronize any of those bars. If I do patronize those bars I am under no obligation to call a boy over to sit with me. If I do call a boy over to sit with me, I feel obligated to give him a tip, but I do not feel an obligation to buy a drink for him if the drink prices are exorbitant. To me, any bar charging more than 150 baht to buy a drink for the boy is charging a rip-off price and I won't pay it. If anything, if I like the boy, I would rather give him a good tip than give my money to a bar that wants to charge ridiculously high prices.

[Guest xiandarkthorne]

I voted for the first option, though I do make it a practice never to call a boy over unless I am already interested in him. Then, I also buy the mamasan a drink if he/she asks for one OR tip him 100 Baht (never both).

 

Otherwise, I try my best to discourage other boys from joining me. If they do, I make it obvious (politely!) that I'm still looking around and I won't be buying anyone any drinks (having been ripped off once to the tune of 3000 Baht in Phuket when I was still new to the scene).

[ceejay]

to stay the hell out of Bangkok! (I'm cheap)

I don't consider that cheap. I consider it having sense enough not to permit yourself to succumb to rip-off prices.

I'll be passing through Banngkok in a few days time. Usually, I'd pay a visit or two to Soi Twilight but probably not this time. It's not that I can't afford it. I just don't want to pay those prices.

[firecat69]

I'll be passing through Banngkok in a few days time. Usually, I'd pay a visit or two to Soi Twilight but probably not this time. It's not that I can't afford it. I just don't want to pay those prices.

Depending on what you like go to Solid. Last night 10-12 boys all on the twink side and maybe 3 ladyboy leaning but relatively attractive IMHO.

 

I took a boy who was great . 2 drinks and the off totaled 540 baht. More then fair. Don't understand why Soi Twilight can't do it or at least more reasonable.

[Guest fountainhall]

I replied to the "I offed a boy" thread, but GB may consider it more appropriate to move it over to this one. It is basically a kind of counter argument to the Soi Twilight pricing and gives possible reasons why it is so much higher than the bars in the area around Solid (and Phahonyothin, for that matter).

[Guest]

2 drinks and the off totaled 540 baht. More then fair. Don't understand why Soi Twilight can't do it or at least more reasonable.

 

Very reasonable. I don't think Soi Twilight cares in the least. They want the cash from the shows and don't care if the boys are offed or not.

[firecat69]

Very reasonable. I don't think Soi Twilight cares in the least. They want the cash from the shows and don't care if the boys are offed or not.

 

 

HE LIVES!!!!!!

[Gaybutton]

I replied to the "I offed a boy" thread, but GB may consider it more appropriate to move it over to this one.

Just fine where it is. I'm sure most people are reading both threads, so it really doesn't matter which thread on which you post your opinion.

[Gaybutton]

I also buy the mamasan a drink if he/she asks for one OR tip him 100 Baht.

Why?

[Bob]

If the mamasan has provided some assistance or information at my request, I'd either buy a drink or provide a small tip to the mamasan too; however, when I was into that game, I typically tried to avoid any contact with the mamasan as best I could (especially the pushy or shreaking ones).

[Guest luvthai]

I seldom call a boy over to chat but will pick out a favorite dancer and tip him (usually 50 baht) on the way out. I like it when a boy does more than stand there and tries to make eye contact. Its also kind of an ice breaker for return trips as the boys always remember when you treat them nice.

[Guest xiandarkthorne]

Why?

 

Sorry if I didn't make it clear that I'd buy the mamasan a drink or give him a tip only if he finds me a nice guy. Doesn't matter if I off the fella...I figure the mamasan's done me a good turn, so I should return the favour. But only once, mind you. I don't feel it necessary to buy him a new drink or tip him an extra 100Baht if I want to chat up another guy or three after that.

 

I might be a nice guy (occasionally) and I might be in an expansive mood when I walk into a bar with naughty on my mind, but I've never been that kind or felt it necessary to be quite that generous.

[Guest]

If I ask someone to come over he normally leaves the premises with me.

 

However, if not he gets a tip.

 

I have sometimes complied with the Mamasan's request to buy the guy a drink (especially in Soi Duangthawee). I dislike this, as we invariably leave before the expensive drink is started.

 

Seems better to use the cash for tipping the guy properly after he's been offed.

[colmx]

I accidentally voted:

I buy a drink for him, but do not tip him

instead of

I buy a drink for him and also tip him

 

Please disregard my vote from the final result!

 

Usually I am with my BF... when we both see a guy we agree on will call them over for a drink

If we don't click - he gets 100-200B tip as we check bin

 

If we click he is offed and we go to a pub or disco...

 

If we click even futher he comes home and gets a big tip

If things don't work out he goes home with 500-600B

[ChristianPFC]

The 300 Baht drink price is in (I don't remember the name, I saw the price on a board and asked a mamasan while I was standing in the door looking inside to confirm that it's really 300 Baht and then I left) the first or second bar on the left (when coming from Surawong, so it's either Hotmale or Boys Bangkok), it's upstairs.

 

As for tipping, I do as luvthai: If there is a boy I enjoyed watching (and I might off another time), I write down his number on my map (so I know next time which bars I visited and how many and which boys I liked) and tip him 100 Baht on leaving.

[Gaybutton]

I accidentally voted

I don't know if the editing time limit applies, but the poll does have an option for you to delete your vote and re-vote in case of just such an error. It appears just below the poll questions. If you see it, you can still do that.

[colmx]

Hi GB

Found it...and re-voted...

Thanks!

[kokopelli]

I seldom call a boy over to chat but will pick out a favorite dancer and tip him (usually 50 baht) on the way out. I like it when a boy does more than stand there and tries to make eye contact. Its also kind of an ice breaker for return trips as the boys always remember when you treat them nice.

 

This is a good idea which I also tend to practice. However if I do ask a boy to sit with me for more than a few minutes (to see if we are compatable) I then do buy him a drink( to support the bar)and do tip him.

[macaroni21]

On Soi Pratuchai (a.k.a. Soi Twilight) 300 baht for a drink would be the cheap end. At Boys Bangkok and Dream Boys it is 500 baht.

 

I no longer go as often as I used to, and the price inflation is the reason for that. I now go only for two reasons: Because I want to say hello to a boy I've gotten to know before but couldn't reach on the phone (because they keep changing their numbers), or because I'm horny as hell and need to off someone for the night.

 

If it's the former, then I make sure the one I'm looking for is in the bar before I even sit down. Naturally, I call him over and buy him a drink, and tip him for his time. I chase away any mamasan who comes within a half kilometre of me. Obviously I have no need for her services.

 

If it's the latter, then I don't call any boy over until I'm fairly sure, though eye contact, etc, that he's the one I'd wish to off for the night. In that case, I do buy the boy a drink, but do not tip him for the time since I am offing him. Once again, the mamasan has no role to play (no role means no tip) except in rare situations where I need someone to translate for me.

 

This means I could vote for either the first option or the second option in the poll. I voted for the first.

[Gaybutton]

On Soi Pratuchai (a.k.a. Soi Twilight) 300 baht for a drink would be the cheap end. At Boys Bangkok and Dream Boys it is 500 baht.

They're charging 500 baht for a drink? One drink for yourself along with a drink for a boy would cost 1000 baht? Well, folks, do as you wish, but as for me, forget it!

 

What are they charging for off fees? Do you know?

[firecat69]

Unless things have changed in the last 2 weeks which I doubt, drinks are 300 baht at Boys not 500 baht. If someone was charged 500 they were robbed.

 

Off fees in most bars on Soi Twilight are 400 baht but wouldn't surprise me if Boys charged 500 baht?

[Gaybutton]

drinks are 300 baht at Boys not 500 baht. If someone was charged 500 they were robbed.

 

As far as I'm concerned, that's still far more than I would be interested in paying. The bar and the boys would have to be something really special to get me to so much as set foot in a bar charging those prices, let alone 500 baht if that was the case.

 

Those who want it can have it, but include me out.

[Guest lvdkeyes]

At those prices I am glad I don't go to the bars anymore.