ChristianPFC

I get rarely hit up for money, and if, I almost always refuse without spending much thought on it. Maybe the Thai can pick up who is an easy target? And I'm not. It would need a track record of several meetings, with efficient communication, being on time and good activities in bed, for me to consider sending money. And even then it would be more the person than the situation. I would be more prone to help someone without character flaws with a small problem, than someone with character flaws with a big problem.

It comes with long periods of prosperity. For decades, for every tourist they disenchanted by their behavior, two new would turn up.

Cold winters? Poor boy business when coming as a tourist? Language and cultural barrier? You mentioned you grew up in Japan. I have never been and can only judge from what I read.

You're not the only one. Many times that I had a good encounter, and I think the boy as well, and I would go out of my way for a repeat but am met with at best indifference. And I don't know what went wrong! Or I reach out to a boy several times and met with indifference and laziness. And then suddenly a message: "Christian, I miss you, I love you ... and I need money!" Well, sorry, ask whoever you spend all the weeks I tried to meet you with to help you with money. I rarely send money any more, only cases where the boy has proved reliable and good in bed several times, of which there are only few (boys).

Along Rop Krung Canal, both sides, north and south of Saphan Hok. Varying numbers and quality.

I gave up going to Bangkok Gogo bars for this reason. I have some regulars from online from before Covid who come to my room for 1000. But recently I'm struggling to get boys to come to my room for 1000, might have to raise to 1500. Street trade still going strong for 500, speaking Thai is useful here.

That will be a long wait for the customer, 30 min at least, to travel from there (15M or Phetboy) to On Nut. Between Saphan Khwai and Inthamara massage shops, they need at least 15 minutes.

(Toy Boys) When I last went, there was an item "short time" in the menu 1500. I don't pay 1500 for short time in Pattaya (nor anywhere else), so I asked if boys can go for 1000. Mamasan said it depends on the boy, but the one I was after was adamant on 1500. Sorry, cannot. That has happened before, that a boy from Toy Boys wanted 1500. Add their practice of having handsome boys outside in jeans to lure customers in, but not going on stage in underwear, Toy Boys has been on my black list for over 5 years (with one lapse about 2022 to see if they are operating in a way that I approve of, to be disappointed).

That's a time I would absolutely avoid going anywhere in China. I have seen pictures of tourist attractions covered in people. I wouldn't want to deal with booked out trains and buses and hotels and restaurants closed for holiday.

My experiences in Hong Kong in 2019 were so poor, both saunas and online, that I gave up and didn't even look for saunas or online when I went again in Apr2024. Considering I'm coming from or going to Thailand, I save my time and money for Thailand.

Thanks for posting. I was not aware that there was such a proliferation of onsen. I have been to Kaikan, expensive at 450 THB, but clean and well managed. With a bit of luck, I spotted gay activities. Details in my blog: https://christianpfc.blogspot.com/2023/10/gay-activities-sep2023-thailand.html I have a full list of gay saunas in Bangkok: https://christianpfc.blogspot.com/2023/09/bangkok-gay-saunas-2023.html and have to update for onsen some day. There is "Waterboy Onsen" which is a gay sauna and just uses "onsen" to have a fancier name. There are some genuine saunas in Bangkok, where sexes are separated but no gay activity at all. These have real hot saunas and steam rooms and cold pools, whereas most gay saunas are only lukewarm. Details here: https://christianpfc.blogspot.com/2017/06/normal-saunas-in-thailand.html https://christianpfc.blogspot.com/2014/09/silom-sauna-in-sathorn-sri-bam-pen.html

When I was looking for long time in 2012-2014, I had similar problems. But nowadays I sleep better alone and do long time only if the boys suggests or someone I had several good short times with and I suggest long time and specify details. Two years ago I had such case (I asked the boy for long time), and he had to leave at 6 am, so we woke up 5 am to have an hour together, but not worth the extra money, next time leave it at short time. You can buy smiles, but you can't change their behavior with money. I had such cases as well, where the boy would rather get a small amount of money by scamming me (e.g. advance payment for travel) instead of a repeated higher income by honest work. I have learnt a lot over the years (2009 my first trip), and many disappointments and a lot of money wasted.

I meant going to other countries in SEAsia as visa runs from Thailand. Days/entries to Thailand are an upper limit, not a right. Even with a valid visa, it's at the discretion of the officer to let you in. Maximum of 90 days visa exempt within 180 days would affect me, as I spend about 120 of 180 days. On entry, immigration does not know how long I'm going to stay (unless they ask to see a flight out of Thailand, but I can take a later flight). If I enter within the 90 of 180 days, but depart with more than 90 of 180 days, what is going to happen? Or they calculate how long I can stay without violating 90 of 180, and stamp me in accordingly? I have to watch how this is implemented with other travelers before I get into this position.

On Instagram, you can send only one message. If that person replies, you can chat normally. That limitation was introduces about 2 years ago. I sent messages to dozens of profiles, no reply. They go in a sub-folder "message requests", which the receiver probably never checks. I sometimes get links to have sex with women in my "message requests". On Twitter / X you can send more message, but here as well very low rate of reply, 1 out of 20 or less. And those who did reply, it didn't lead anywhere. But for Facebook, my experiences are positive. No experience with Tiktok or reddit. When I see someone I like on Tiktok, I go to their other social media to contact them.

When I started traveling in SEAsia 2014-2016, I first went to countries where I could enter visa free (for Germans: Malaysia, Indonesia, Singapore, Vietnam), and once I had seen them and no particular reason to return, I went to countries that require a visa (Lao, Cambodia, Myanmar). Now the offerings of Cambodia and Myanmar more than compensate for the effort and expense to get a visa, but starting from zero, visa free countries first for me.