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I used booking dot com and was searching for apartments. I couldn't bear a month in a hotel (what with housekeeping coming in everyday and I like to sleep during the day) so I wanted an apartment.

Had I not broken my collar bone four months ago, I would be in Hat Yai on a Non O visa by now with a yearly rental on a condo. Everything was in place, the visa, the condo, tickets and transport and then bang, I went down like a bowling pin and broke my collar bone three weeks before I was due to travel. I've watched the event unfold from Penang where I am currently enjoying a visa medical extension. I'm not sure how I would have coped had I found myself there as planned, this has been a truly devastating time for the south. I'm currently wondering if HY is the best place to retire to, I'm heading for 70, I know this type of event doesn't happen every year but it has and probably will happen again. The heartbreaking videos of the flood and now the clean up makes me wonder where people get thier strength from I also note that typically, it didn't take long for the blame game to begin on the socials about who should have done what and when... The reason for wanting to be in Hat Yai is that my hubby is from Penang and we have an apartment in bukit mertajam where we live when we're this side of the border. The MM2H visa is way over my head....

Sorry. My bad. You're quite right that I should have posted this in the Malaysia forum. Sorry about that

I've been in malaysia for a year, it's very boring for gay men. I did visit one tiny little sauna in KL in Bukit Bingtang for an hour, I got one asian dick in my mouth for a quick wank in the steam room, the only dick there... Seeing as gay sex and gay activities are illegal here it's obvious there are no homosexuals in Malaysia. LOL Can't wait to get to BKK in January and throw myself in the deep end of a darkroom, I'm fed up wanking at Xhamster.... link to article or read on, copy and pasted... KUALA LUMPUR: A 59-year-old specialist doctor was among those detained during a raid on a gym and sauna in Chow Kit that was allegedly operating as a front for homosexual activities. He told officers he went there to "heal and avoid the after-work traffic jam", adding that he often stopped by before returning home to his wife and children. "I usually come here to avoid the traffic after work. I can relax in the sauna and jacuzzi for a while. "I don't want to comment on what I did, but yes, such activities do take place here," he said when met at the scene yesterday. Earlier, Harian Metro reported that 201 visitors and seven employees were detained in the raid on the premises, which was allegedly used as a meeting place for men to engage in immoral acts. A 19-year-old youth was also among those arrested. He admitted learning about the place from a friend and was intrigued to visit after reading online reviews. At the time of his arrest, the youth was with a 46-year-old man and said it was his second visit. "This place is quite popular. I first came here two weeks ago and spent about three hours. At first, I just wanted to try it out but ended up getting hooked," he said. A foreign tourist in his 40s also admitted visiting the premises after reading positive comments on social media but claimed he was unaware the activities there were illegal.

Phuket is not on our radar for sure, We have seen Patong and won't return. We can't wait to go to Bangkok in January, I am very much hoping to be very busy/exhausted/expired in a dark room or steam room, fighting off the attention. (insert exhausted old man emoji) I am ignorant of the bars that you mention. I don't pay enough attention to details, unless he is cute...

you got me there. 2024

Bangkok mid jan '26 for one month. staying next to Limphini park

Here's a clip of video I took in nparadise commplex (youtube) paradise complex. xmas 2025

I wasn't blown away by it, that said we did find one quiet bar to have a beer in adjacent the main gay bar street, the main gay bar street is a bit desperate imo. We were there two weeks and most nights would take a stroll, the boys are not shy at trying to drag you in to thier bar for a drink, especially if they've seen you there the previous night. We were not there for happy endings so I can't comment on that aspect but there were plenty of cute lads offering massages without too much pressure to oblige them. Patong was over run with tourists to the point that walking the main street was an assault course, we were there over the christmas weeks. I disliked having to barter for goods, I prefer shopping where the price is displayed I doubt we would return, but that said, the boys in the street were welcoming and amusing and very pleasant. I am my own worst enemy so buying drinks for cute lads is something I don't mind doing but it's not sustainable every time you go out for a drink.

You might be aware that me and him are BKK bound in January for a month. We do like a beer and we do like a boy but, Christmas in Patong the boy bars (with permission) rinsed us of every penny. We had a fabulous time but that lifestyle is not sustainable when you only want a beer in a gay bar. I'm looking for a gay bar where we can just have a drink and not be bothered by 'and a drink for me' At the end of a long day, when we're tired and just want a very very cold beer where would you suggest? I love a boy bar and getting rinsed, but not nightly, some nights a time out is nice. Cold Beer, Gay Bar, Bangkok. Suggestions welcome, we're staying at the Quarter on Sala Daeng, by Lumphini park. Cheers.

It's not an easy thing to do but you simply have to, or sink in the swamp of 'I fucking love you' It will get easier ( I fucking hate it when people say that) Time heals everything, that's another phrase I hate, but it is true. Your heart will always fondly remember him but your dick will fondly enjoy penetrating a new butthole and a new smile looking up at you.

Not as shocked as I am when I look in the mirror and miss the fit military lad I used to be... thank you thank you thank you

I am 67, gwm. he is 50yo chinese malay. married 20 years but happy to play together. I used to be a military sauna hunk, he used to be a penang 'army bar' cock sucking bad boy. These days we are not so pretty, a bit larger, a bit balder, a bit slower, a bit more insecure and not as cute as we used to be. We still like gay sex. Bangkok is, on the surface, a little intimidating for us... but we would like to enjoy some sauna adventures. We love a steam room and a dark room and a play area. We are coming to KoKbang in january and don't want to rock up to the twinky pretty boy sauna and feel like two old dinosaurs who they won't let in. He likes a hairy bottom dad, I like a skinny bottom slutty twink. If you have the knowledge, which sauna do you think would be appropriate for us to enjoy? We were in amsterdam a few years ago and found that some venues have age limits, we don't know if that is the case in BKK but that said, there is no point in us turning up like something out of jurassic park to a venue where we will feel unwelcome. While I use the word unwelcome, I don't mean that in an unkind way, I mean that in a gay way where people of a certain age don't go to venues where other people of a much younger age gather.... Sorry if that sounds out of place, it's how my mind works. I am almost 70, I certainly don't look like I did in my 30's london sauna whore days, I'm not sure many young pretty boys want to see me naked in a small towel looking for a grope... But if I can find one, I want to fuck the arse of a pretty young thing (18+) and he wants to fondle a hairy chap and maybe stick some dick up him..... Advice welcome. cheers, Mike and Tris. (BKK jan 26)

Proton VPN is not expensive. It lets me enjoys all sorts of things that certain countries would rather I did not see. It also lets me in to pirate bay (using TOR browser and qbit torrent) so I can download YIFY movies for my tv set. I paid for a year, it covers several devices, in my case two laptops two phones all with the same log in. It's also handy to have when there is only public wifi available. I don't use it for all my web acitivity but when I'm blocked or doing something sensitive it's well worth having.

Being 'ghosted' is a horrible experience and difficult to understand when you have appeared to have done nothing wrong. It can rip your insides apart because there is no explanation. That 'not knowing why' is a monster It's not easy to move on but you certainly need new distractions, my only advice is for the time being, keep any distractions light and at arms length. Situations like this do change (possibly when the other party needs something, in my experience) in a couple of weeks you might get contact again, at which point it would pay to be a little distant and 'busy' while you consider your options.