forrestreid

It was probably just that he didn;t go into that Soi. He said about the map that: Please understand that I am primarily making this map to support the blog articles here, showing where the mentioned places are. I am not trying to create an exhaustive map of all places of interest for any and all gay men out there (I don’t have the time). I also adopt the principle that if I have not visited a place, or at least seen the front of it, I won’t include it – it’s my way of verification.

I see that Shamelesmack (or Macaroni as he is known on this Forum) is back posting on his blog, and he has put up an updated set of maps of the Silom Area on his blog. Always handy to consult before you travel, he has a subtle colour coding for the massage places that is particularly useful. Map of Silom-Surawong area, October 2025 – ShamelessMack2

Not that I am aware of. The best is this article for an academic journal, which Peter linked to on the boards before, on the background to Darrell's murder and his milieu: https://muse.jhu.edu/article/12116

I think you mean Darrell Berrigan. (Daniel Berrigan was a well known Jesuit priest and anti-war protester in the US and I dont think he was gay).

Have you been at the sherry Peter? No mention of this so far on BBC, I notice....

Interesting memories from Roger threw. Trink was quite the one off. And of course Stickman interviewed him also: https://www.stickmanbangkok.com/weekly-column/2004/08/thailands-best-known-farang/ That was from the Stickman archives, it appeared 20 years ago. Hopefully the Stickman site will stay up as an archived site after the last column.

It looks like Stickman is retiring from the Stickman Bangkok website, with his final weekly update scheduled for the end of the year. It feels like the end of an era. For those unfamiliar, Stickman Bangkok has long chronicled the straight bar scene in Thailand. (If you Google “Stickman Bangkok,” you’ll find it.) He has published a weekly column every Sunday morning for the past 25 years. But with readership declining—especially among younger visitors, many of whom are, according to him, Indian or East Asian and don’t follow his column—he’s decided to retire. I’ll be sorry to see it go. While his focus was squarely on the straight nightlife scene, he occasionally touched on broader issues like transport and general pricing. Some of the discussions such as about the price of a bar fine (the straight version of an off fee) could be eye-opening. Notably, he never covered the gay scene—he seemed to avoid acknowledging it altogether. That’s understandable to a degree, as the scenes are quite separate, but it was striking that even as the gay bars shifted from Soi Twilight to Patpong, he never mentioned them—he was liable to make comments along the lines of “naughty bars seem to be dying out in Patpong Soi 2” without mentioning that this was only if one was blind to a certain type of naughty bar… For me, his departure isn’t entirely surprising. I had a sense it was coming. Stickman hasn’t lived in Thailand since 2015 (when he returned to his native New Zealand), and while he used to visit three times a year pre-COVID, he’s only been returning once annually since. However, I will regret the end of Stickman Weekly, as in an era of increasing generic and click-baity travel and nightlife websites, Stickman stood out for having a distinct voice and being fairly reliable. Another site worth mentioning—especially since it DOES include coverage of gay venues —is Bangkok Eyes. (Again, Google “Bangkok Eyes” to find it.) It’s run by some real old-timers, with the main writer apparently having memories dating back to the Vietnam War era. The site is meant to update monthly, but that’s been slowing down lately. The last update was September 1st, and the October 1st edition still hasn’t appeared as of today, 19th October. They usually include a roundup of Bangkok’s naughty nightlife zones, noting openings and closings (often with photos), but that segment has been missing recently. I understand the contributor who used to do the rounds is now in a wheelchair, at least temporarily. I suspect he is in an age-group that finds it hard to get out of being stuck in a wheelchair, once they are in it, and have a sinking feeling that Bangkok Eyes will be the next site to say farewell to its readers. If you’re interested in Thailand’s unique demi-monde, these two websites are well worth a look—while they’re still around.

I didnt like to say it, for fear that Deep Seek will think I am even more curmudgeonly in future...

Depends on the instruction you give. I asked Deepseek for a review of me in 250 words. It was trenchant enough (I have highlighted the bits that could be negative): Based on a review of his posts on the Gay Thailand forum, forrestreid's personality is that of a seasoned, cynical, and authoritative expat who embodies the "grumpy old hand" archetype. He writes with a tone of weary expertise, often expressing nostalgia for a more authentic, bygone Thailand that he believes has been eroded by modern tourism and apps like Grindr. His interactions are consistently direct and intolerant of what he perceives as naivety or foolishness. He positions himself as a dispenser of tough love and hard-won wisdom, often correcting other members with blunt, paternalistic advice. For instance, when a newcomer posted a romanticized question about finding a traditional Thai boyfriend, forrestreid sharply dismantled the fantasy, outlining the economic realities with unsentimental clarity. He shows clear disdain for repetitive questions and poorly researched posts, yet his lengthy, detailed responses on bar etiquette and cultural norms reveal a protective, almost professorial desire to guide serious travelers away from common pitfalls. Ultimately, he commands a grudging respect as a jaded sage, fiercely protective of a subculture he feels is disappearing. I would be a bit cautious of interacting with me based on the above.....I think I am much more cuddly really...

Okay. Fair enough.

For the money obsessed amongst us, could you give an indication as to the sort of range?

I stayed at the Rose Hotel just before Covid and really liked it. The rooms were a bit old-fashioned and (in the case of the cheaper one I booked), quite small. But the staff were friendly, the breakfast was good, and I especially enjoyed the large ground-floor pool surrounded by greenery. I remember swimming alone in it—it felt peaceful and secluded. Although it was overlooked you did not get that feeling. One thing I did not like was crossing Surawong Road to get to the bars in Patpong 2. Although the Rose Hotel is probably, as the crow flies, less than 50 metres from that strip of bars, crossing Surawong Road, just at that point where the lane meets it, was surprisingly difficult. I felt very nervous trying to cross—just as the cars passed in one direction, motorbikes would follow immediately behind, and before you could even react, traffic from the opposite direction was already coming. I sometimes waited five minutes just to find a safe gap. It might seem like a small detail, but that experience actually put me off booking the Rose again when I visited Bangkok last year. I ended up staying at Le Siam Hotel instead. (It is further away from the bars, across Silom Road, but you can cross Silom Road using the Skytrain station)

It's illegal to be gay there, I believe - The Maldives is a Muslim country and their law code is based on Sharia Law. Most Western tourists are sent straight to island resorts, where things tend to be more relaxed—especially when it comes to two wealthy foreign guests sharing a double room.However, if you're hoping to connect with locals, you'd need to visit one of the non-holiday islands, and that could get you into trouble. Definitely not a destination for cruising

Actually, if anybody could have a beef with the series, I think it might be the Thai police and establishment generally. It looks like she got a bit of help from the Thai police for the filming she did in the sex trade area, but then it went wrong, however it was never explained exactly what the problem was. It seems to me like she maybe got permission to do a quick run through of Soi Cowboy and Pattaya Soi 6, but the police didn’t realise she was going to linger so long and try to interview people. I don’t know, I would’ve liked to have heard to Thai police viewpoint on those events anyway. And, in general, the series tends to give the impression of Thailand as a place that you didn’t know what the rules were and you could fall afoul at any moment. I know from a simplistic reading that is true, but from my experience of reading about Thailand over the years, I think that in many cases people could have avoided problems if they’re a bit more sensitive to the subtle rules. For instance, when she was interviewing the English guy who now runs cannabis shops Ko Phangan, he said he got in trouble and a spell in jail because “some Thai people don’t like farangs handling money”. This was rather a sinister way of explaining that, as a foreign business owner in Thailand who is strictly forbidden from doing the ordinary work of the business (like serving customers), he had presumably allowed himself to be caught out. Not saying its not a crazy rule, but it is well known what it is.

Well, if you are pining for Thailand in the cold British winter Londoner, a you could do worse than watch it.