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Wondering if there are other forums that are not as focused on seeking sex for money. While I don't mind paying, it's not the only way I find guys. I was told this site was only for those looking for paid sexworkers. I had no idea when I joined, and even reading the posts, it's not obvious. Is there another forum with a broader scope that might be a little more open to discussing other options for getting laid?

I appreciate your questions. You're allowed to ask. Some of us are called stupid or accused of having some nefarious plot to steal others' sex workers (still not sure what the plot is). Keep asking. I'm learning from your questions.

I was looking at Laureles Factory lofts. I see they have security. Did you have any problem bringing guys home?

Thank you. Now that I've hidden several people, it's a little better. I'm still being stalked. One person in particular needs to get a hobby.

LOL - I may be old, but yes, I'm naive and I usually expect people to be kind. Maybe a little more cynical after what I've encountered here. Fortunately, after a little time, the feeding frenzy has stopped and I've hidden a few people. Appreciating most of the people here who are sharing lots of good information. After two years of not traveling, I'm ready to get out!

Thanks for the tip.

Since I'm "that guy" I would like you to back up your claim that I'm trying to "infect the Thailand forum as well". I answered a question there. Is that your idea of "infecting" a forum? Seriously, what is wrong with you guys? The three crusaders you mentioned have been harassing me since I joined a week ago. Apparently, they think I'm someone else who was someone else who was someone else. As TotallyOZ has confirmed, I am not whoever they are claiming I am. Now, can you please leave me alone?

It seems that one or two people had a bad experience with someone getting contact information and then harassing people. That certainly is behavior that needs to be condemned. But when those people then accuse newcomers of having the same intent, or accusing newcomers of being those people, it's problematic. The paranoia then takes over, and this forum becomes toxic.

Thank you for confirming. I've been accused by the three trolls mentioned here of being someone else. I have never been to Brazil and have no intention of going to Brazil, so I don't really care about GP contacts (I didn't even know what I GP was until I started reading this forum). I think the accusations that are being made against me are slanderous and need to be stopped. I have been contributing to the Thailand forum because there were questions asked that I knew the answers to (question about a hotel I've used for years). The ganging up that I've been experiencing here is far worse than any bullying I ever experienced from straight people for being gay. It is especially disturbing because it's gay Pride month. This is the way gay men treat each other? I think the intent is to drive me off of this forum, for whatever reason. I just don't understand it. I have never asked for contact information for anyone, anywhere. If anyone is accusing me of that, then they'd better bring some receipts, otherwise, it is delusional slander.

Totally get it. So for those asking the difference between the two, I think that's pretty much it. Furama Silom is on Silom, for me easier to get to. Sathorn is located on a soi and you have to walk through several sois (with no sidewalks) to get there - not as convenient if you want to get to your hotel quickly, but you can also experience life on the sois off the main streets better. Sathorn is a newer hotel, Silom is older but renovated. In the end, both are good bets and no problems with visitors in either.

Here's what the old troll does: 1. Accuse you of being a troll after one post. 2. Claim you are the same person as someone else he's accused of being a troll. And that person is the same person as someone else. And that person is the same as someone else. In his deluded mind, everyone here is the same person. 3. He looks for all posts you've commented on and then responds to all of your posts. He's like an annoying gnat that just won't go away. 4. He'll take things you said out of context and then makes it seem as if you are the problem, when in fact he is the one who is stalking and harassing you. 5. He constructs a very elaborate conspiracy theory that rivals Q-Anon pizza parlor pedophile ring levels of crazy. It's so crazy, even Marjorie Taylor Green wouldn't believe it. 6. He uses what appears to be a lot of free time to make little memes that he thinks are cute. Maybe he could put his computer skills to better use? 7. This troll doesn't like that people use Grindr to meet guys. If he finds out you use Grindr, watch out, he's coming for you! I guess when guys see him on Grindr they just block him. 8. After you post a trip report, he'll Google what you wrote and the claim you Googled the information and weren't actually in the place you claim you were. Like, who would do that and why? His level of delusion and paranoia is like nothing I've ever seen.

Personally, I don't think you'd want to go there during the day either. Maybe I'm biased, because I stayed in Poblado and it was so nice there - el centro was very gritty and noisy and generally unpleasant. The exception for me is that you'd want to go to Plaza Botero. I was not really a fan of Botero paintings, but the sculptures are something worth seeing. The area is gritty and the plaza is filled with homeless and addicts. There was a heavy police presence. I recommend going with a local. Based on your posts from the DR, I don't think any of the guys you might find in this area would really appeal to you. It's not worth the risk. If you pick someone up there, where would you take them? I say stick to Grindr, where you seem to have better luck, but as I said in another post, be careful there. Ask for multiple photos and if you still are not convinced do a video call. Plan to meet in a public place if you haven't met them before.

I've stayed at both, and can understand why you like Sathorn better. It is a nicer hotel (I think it's newer). But for me, it was not as convenient as Silom. You have to walk through the sois to get to the main streets. I've been staying at Furuma Silom since it was the Tower Inn - lots of fond memories there

I've been staying at Furama Silom for years. I love it. It used to be the Tower Inn. No problem bringing guests up to your room - the reception is towards the back of the lobby - you enter right up to the elevators. They redid the rooms and they're really nice. Used to have very loud air-con. Nice pool on the roof and a bar, also great breakfasts. Last time I was there was about 2018. It may have changed since then, but I really enjoyed my stay then. Close to BTS station as well. I used to use the Malaysia Hotel with taxi drivers to get to Babylon since I wasn't sure if they'd understand Babylon. Never been there though, but it seems a bit out of the way.

I've hidden the paranoid troll, but every now and then I click on his responses to my post to see what crazy rant he is going on. So now he's saying I Googled information about Medellin in order to create a post with some general tips that I didn't see anywhere on this forum. Apparently because I didn't talk about Fercho's or other pimps that people use to find dick, that makes me some sort of a fraud. This is what he does. He makes up these insane claims and floods every forum with them. What I don't get is why people believe him. I did not say anywhere in my post that I used escort services. Why? Because I didn't. I only used Grindr. I found guys who wanted to have sex for free and a few who wanted to be paid. I don't need someone to help me find dick. Even though I may be advanced in years, I still got it, and especially when I'm traveling, they come to me. I don't have to work hard. I guess the paranoid troll is angry about that and that's why he is so protective of the guys who will have sex with him for money. I guess when you have a limited supply of dick, you get very territorial about it. Anyway folks, I'm happy to provide verification to the site administrators to prove that I was indeed in Medellin. Just contact me and let's figure out a way that we can meet in real time. I'll show you my flight record, Grindr messages, receipts, photos, anything you want to see. I'm not going to sit back while this troll calls me a fraud. From what I can tell from reading through this site, he has not traveled in years, has not posted any useful information, and all he does is go on these paranoid rants accusing people of faking trips and trying to gather information about hustlers. It really needs to stop. Get help man!

Now that things are opening up I'm ready to travel again. Your report made me want to return to SD. I was there in 2019 and for the first time stayed at a hotel. I had no problems bringing guys to my room - they had to check in at the desk. I'm not sure I'd want to try bringing three though, but it does sound super hot! Thanks for the report.

I'm new here and reading through some old forums. Looks like your question never got answered. Cine Lido isn't really in a bad part of town - it's a commercial district that closes up around 6 p.m., around the time the theater opens. Action at Cine Lido starts when they open and peters out by 7:30, so if you go during those times, when you leave, it's not that late, but it is deserted. If you go, I'd suggest first checking it out while it's still light out so that you can plan the best route for you to return to your hotel or Airbnb. I've never had any problems, but the last time I went (2019) when I was leaving and heading back towards El Conde, an aggressive woman approached me. I'm older now with gray hair and I guess look more like the type of older American man who goes there for pussy. She would not relent and was reaching out and touching me until finally I had to shout at her in Spanish not to touch me and to leave me alone. The same thing happened to me another night when I was walking through the park in front of the cathedral. I guess I had the look - again, I had to shout in Spanish (in a very crowded area) for her to leave me alone. I've been to the DR about 4 times and have been to Cine Lido every time and never had any problem other than the recent trip with aggressive female sex workers. If you go, of course, be smart - leave your phone and wallet in your room and only bring enough money for the entrance and maybe a snack or bottle of water afterwards.

I'm on my way to PV next month. I've always had luck there, lately Grindr has been the best way to meet guys for me - free and for rent (in younger days it was the beach). Wondering if you made it and how your trip was. I read on another forum that the police have been harassing Mexicans who are on the beach with foreigners. This seems to strange since PV has always been so gay friendly. I was planning on checking out the sauna. I have a friend who went at the end of May and he said it was open, but I'm not sure which one. Would appreciate an update if you're willing.

I was wondering if Cine Lido survived the pandemic. It is one of my favorite places in the world - hot, rundown and full of big dicks waiting to be sucked. I've always had fun there! On my last trip, I stopped at that little Chinese place and bought a bottle of water before going to the cine. Had a great time there, as always. Your report makes me want to go back to the DR - my last trip was right before the pandemic and I had the best time. Thanks for posting.

Sorry you fell victim to the number one troll as well. I just joined last week and he has made my experience here hell. Reading through other threads, I see this is a pattern with him. People post trip reports and for some reason he decides to target them, saying they are not really where they are, and accusing them of a) being other people and b) having some nefarious plot to collect information about sex workers so they can harass them. It seems he has had a bad experience and that has made him super paranoid and perhaps delusional. I can totally understand why you'd want to post photos of your passport. It does not feel good to be called a liar, especially when you know you are telling the truth. I hope you reported his harassment. He needs to be shut down.

If you like the beach, Puerto Vallarta is always a good option. I've been to Guadalajara once and it has a pretty big gay scene. I was much younger when I was there, but met quite a few guys. I am trying to get administration to create a Mexico forum so we can share more information. Those are the only two places I've really had any luck in Mexico though.

Did that too. Not much better. I sent a request to administration to create a separate Mexico forum. I hope that's ok with everyone.

Thank you. I really appreciate your advice and understanding. I had no idea what I was stepping into. It was like jumping into a shark tank when I was expecting to be swimming with dolphins. I just learned how to hide people, and hopefully that will solve the problem, though I must admit, I'm really shaken by my experience here.

Hey guys, I want to apologize for engaging with the trolls here. When I found this forum, I was so excited because not only did I find a place with really good information, it seemed like a place where I could share some of my travel experiences that were not appropriate for Facebook or to share with my friends and family. Imagine my shock when out of the blue, one of the members started harassing me, and another called me names for asking a question (and then there was a sort of pile-up by some of the older members). I never felt so attacked before in my life, even as a gay kid being called names on the way to school. When I was young, I was too scared to fight back, but feeling attacked here, my first impulse was to fight back. I've since discovered that I can hide people. I wish I could block them altogether, because one in particular, seems obsessed with harassing newer members, especially if they happen to be traveling and having sex. It's really sad. But I want to apologize for adding to the toxicity. I will no longer engage with the trolls. I'll mostly stick to reading. I am planning a trip to PV in a few weeks and I might share my experiences if I find anything worth sharing. But if I'm called a liar again, that's it. I won't be posting again. I wish we could all be more supportive of one another. Some forums seem to be worse than others. It seems I stumbled into a forum that is controlled by someone who had a bad experience and now assumes every person here is the same person. I hope he can get some help, and more than anything, I hope he blocks me since my presence disturbs him so much. We still have a long way to go before we can reach full equality and acceptance globally. Fighting with one another here is not helping our cause in any way. I appreciate those who have been supportive and who have empathized with the negative experience I had here. I'm going to try to focus on the positive. I hope everyone else can do the same. Let's try to shut down the negativity in our community.

That is not what I see when I do the same search. Since you seem to be so smart, tell me why it's different. Do you really think I would have asked a question if I saw what you're seeing? Are you part of this "conspiracy club"? Like what do you think I was trying to do by asking a question. I just don't understand how it was a problem that I should be publicly shamed.