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Personally, I had a hard time with Brokeback Mountain. I think I was influenced by the Celluloid Closet - a great documentary about censorship in film that basically made sure that gay characters did not exist, and if they did, they were portrayed as unhappy, in unfulfilling relationships, were suicidal or died before the end of the film. I saw Brokeback as fitting that pattern. I much preferred In and Out which got much less attention, but still featured some pretty big names. I made the mistake of seeing it at a theater in San Francisco and missed half of it because the laughter was so loud. It was much more positive and really about acceptance. And it was hysterical.

I don’t think BKK is the best place for public toilet cruising. It used to be possible in the toilets in Silom Center, but there is always a cleaning person there now. I used to try it in the 90s, because in Tokyo where I was living, that was the easiest way to meet people, but never had any luck in BKK. If you want to try it, it still happens in Shinjuku Station in Tokyo, but if you’re older and not hung, it’s basically a waste of time. Here’s how it works though. You have to be in a cruisy toilet. Just any old restroom won’t do. Stand at the urinal and play with your dick. If the guy next to you is interested, he’ll do the same. Sometimes people just jerk off at the urinal. Sometimes, you can sneak into a stall, but that is less common now because security people are on to it, there are often cameras, and like I said in BKK, cleaning personnel seem to always be present. In Tokyo, I often met guys in toilets and then we’d go back to my place. Toilet cruising was how we met each other before apps. I was never a fan of bars, so I often met guys in cruising areas - toilets, parks, etc.

I’d rather die than remain in detention indefinitely. If the ICE goons tried to kidnap me, they’d have to kill me, because I definitely would not go willingly, especially to a torture center in El Salvador.

Ok, this is what I was referring to in Old Daddy’s post. I really find this unfortunate and not my thing at all. If this is what the majority of guys in the Philippines have done, I definitely won’t be going there.

Good tip. Not sure what mooks are - those balls that they have inserted? I think in the Philippines it’s more than a poor snip job. Isn’t it a cultural practice? I think I read it here.

I had that experience with a Malay guy I met at the sauna here in Tokyo. The first day we met, he wanted to go out for tea. I just wanted to go back to my Airbnb, but he was persistent, so we went out for tea and then dinner. He’s 30 years younger than I am, so we really didn’t have much to talk about. He came to visit me last week. Ended up staying so long, I finally said, “I’ll walk you to the station.” (He had actually said he could spend the night, but I told him I can’t sleep with someone in my bed.) I kind of thought it was because he’s living here alone and doesn’t really have a social circle and just wanted a boyfriend experience. Maybe we’re over that phase of our lives and just wanted to have sex and then go take a nap. How were their cocks though? One problem I have with Filipino cocks is I don’t like the half circumcision that they do. I don’t like sucking them (I actually prefer uncut) Did you find that a lot in your encounters or is it less common than it appears from my limited experience with them?

One more complication I discovered the past few days - getting a taxi. I have been walking A LOT! I did a 34 temple pilgrimage in Chichibu, and even though I hired a car and driver, I still had to walk a lot. One temple had 296 steps (it was worth the climb). My feet have been killing me and I have tendonitis in my right foot. So I’ve been trying to minimize walking and am taking the bus to the station or trying to take taxis. The other day, returning from Thermae Yu, where I have been soaking to try to help with the foot pain, I tried catching a taxi to come home. None of them would stop. I thought maybe I was in a no stopping zone, so I moved away from the intersection and eventually got one to stop. Yesterday, I went to Therma Yu early and it was pouring down rain. I stood on the main street near my Airbnb and one taxi after another passed without stopping. At first I thought it was because I was a foreigner (anti gai-jin PTSD from the 90s activated), but then I thought maybe they couldn’t stop because it was a four-lane busy street. So I moved to another street where it seemed more likely they could stop. They didn’t. I ended up walking. I asked Chat GPT about this and was told that there are places where taxis are unable to stop and there are fines for violations. It reassured me that at least it wasn’t because I was a foreigner. What I don’t understand though is that the street where they would not stop to pick me up is the same street where I was dropped off the other day. So they can stop to drop you off but not to pick you up? Chat GPT recommended going to some taxi pick up spots - the nearest was an 8-minute walk, which if I did, would put me 4 minutes away from my destination and absolutely defeat the purpose of taking a taxi. Does anyone know about rules for taxis in Tokyo these days? My only experience from when I lived here was catching a taxi in ni-chome if I missed the last train. There was usually a line of taxis on the street and as long as it wasn’t a peak period, it was pretty simple catching one. Oh, and I have used the app, but there’s a service charge. Also wondering, if they can’t pick you up when you hail them on certain streets, would they be able to pick you up on those same streets if you use the taxi Go app? None of this makes sense to me.

Compared to other times when I walked in and was met with a hardon at my locker, this was pretty empty and it really took me a while to find fun. But glad I eventually did.

To complete my research, I went to 24 Kaikan in ni-chome today to see what it was like on a Wednesday afternoon. My goal for this week was to try to go after 5, but it doesn’t look like that is going to happen. I got there around 3 and left around 6:30, so I can report on what it was like. When I arrived, there were only a few guys in the bath area and just a few wandering around in the back. No one was interested in me. The seemed mostly Japanese. It was pretty boring for a while. Then I took a chance with a guy in the dry sauna who was lying on his back with his dick exposed. When I touched him and he didn’t brush me away, I went ahead and started sucking him. While I was doing that, I felt someone behind me start playing with my ass. After the guy I was sucking came, I turned around to see this Japanese guy I had played with a few weeks ago was the one playing with my ass. He was a top and liked to rim and fuck. We went to a shower stall because the sauna was too hot and then he led me into the little room with a sling. I’ve never used a sling before, but it was actually a lot of fun and really hot. He eventually came and I continued walking around. It seemed like that was all the action I was going to get. No one seemed interested in me at all. I knew that they cleaned the wet area starting at 5:50, so I went to the 4th floor and took a nap and then walked around a bit up there. One couple was fucking in the video room and a bunch of guys were standing around watching them. I was thinking it might be time for me to leave, but I went down to the 3rd floor again to see if it was closed for cleaning. I was surprised to find it still open, so I went in. There was a cute guy in the bath, but otherwise the place was deserted. I walked to the back to the rain shower room (or whatever it is called) and the guy who was soaking in the bath soon joined me. We started fooling around and then two other guys came in. Eventually it turned into a mini orgy. I took turns sucking all of them, we all kissed and one of the guys sucked me a bit. One of the guys was Taiwanese (we spoke afterwards), another looked Indonesian, and the third was Asian but not Japanese. Other than the Japanese guy who fucked me earlier, as usual, Japanese guys were only playing with other Japanese. When I finally left the rain sauna, I was exhausted. I spoke to the Taiwanese guy a bit, and the Japanese guy who fucked me followed me to my locker and we exchanged numbers. In spite of the slim pickings, I eventually had a wild time. My assessment - Friday afternoons seem like a good time to go, and of course weekends, but other than that, weekdays seem pretty dead in the afternoon. I thought it would get busier after 5, but it didn’t. Since I seem to have a better time when the number of foreigners is higher, I’d say Friday-Sunday seem best for that. I might go back again on Sunday for one last hurrah before I leave.

Yeah, it’s crazy. They finally sent me a photo from Google street view and asked if it was my building. It wasn’t. It was a house around the corner. Even though a taxi, a Grindr hookup and Uber Eats found my building, for some reason the address on Google maps brought us to a house around the corner. It was enough for me to take a screenshot and draw an arrow showing them where he had to turn if he arrived at that location (and the address is clearly marked on my building).

I lived here for 6 years and this is my fourth trip back since I left. My Japanese is basic. I can read hiragana and katakana, and I know some basic kanji. I don’t know how I survived here for 6 years without GPS, translator apps, etc. They have made things so much easier.

I had another date with Sakaki this past Friday. This time I had him come to my Airbnb. I think it is so much better than the rooms they offer. And it’s cheaper. For 100 minutes, the rate was 14,000 yen, plus 1,000 for travel, plus 1,000 gai-jin surcharge. I don’t really understand that part (non-Japanese residents pay 1,000 extra), but I wasn’t going to argue over 1,000 yen. I really wanted to see him again and once we got the address situation settled, I really didn’t want any more back and forth. I went downstairs and stood outside to look for him in case he had a hard time finding my place. He arrived shortly after 2, out of breath, carrying four bottles - some tea and water for me. I don’t know if this is his initiative or was Re:Born provides, but it’s so sweet. I had water and tea for him. He insisted I take what he brought. I thought he’d be happier to see me because, I mean, he did tell me he loved me several times, but I think he was flustered because he was a little late and it was very hot. We came upstairs and I let him shower while I waited seductively on the bed He came out fully naked and paraded around a bit, showing off his perfect body and cute little ass, which is even cuter because he has this perfect tan line from a VERY small speedo. He came over to the bed with a jar of cream and said, “massage”. I was a little confused. The last time I saw him, I arrived late and flustered and really wanted a massage and he immediately started kissing me and we got right down to sex. Maybe he thought I paid for the escort course last time? This time I made it clear I wanted the massage course. I told him to just come and cuddle. Well, cuddling didn’t last long. One thing led to another and he got this bottom daddy to somehow be a top. I think he is more of a bottom than he is a top and he is definitely fuckable. It seems the two things he enjoys the most are getting fucked and face fucking. We also kissed a lot. After we both came, we spent the rest of our time cuddling, kissing, cuddling and spooning. I think we both even dozed off a bit. It was really delightful. It’s too bad his photos on the website really don’t reflect how adorable he is. I highly recommend him. I told him I’d see him again next Friday before I leave. He will be the last and probably only guy I’ll hire before I return to whatever is left of my country. I’m going to miss it here. Between the saunas, a few guys from Grindr, and the few guys I’ve hired, I have had a so much fun. If you decide to use Re:Born, I recommend hosting if possible. If you use their facilities the club room is better than the gym room. I don’t know about the fancy room in Shinjuku (I forget what it’s called) - it’s 3,000 extra. Their prices are better than the Monster cock agency and Gym K. They don’t have as big a selection as some of the other agencies, but Sakaki has satisfied me fully every time. I feel like I got a full boyfriend experience with him.

I booked Sakaki for more fun this afternoon and I was just looking at his profile. It mentions that he is a video model, so I guess that is him. It’s hard to tell from the photo. I’d have to watch one of the videos to know for sure. He’s definitely a pro and really seems to enjoy the work.

Indonesia is cheap enough that you can hire a driver, but I think a tour is fine if you like tours. I hope you have a great trip. I don’t know anything about East Java, but I think skipping Jakarta is a good move. Now you’ve got me thinking about going back to Indonesia. I love Indonesian ikat and thought for sure I’d be able to find someone in Jakarta. The best I could find was a book in the ikat museum (which if you like textiles and find yourself in Jakarta, was the one thing I did there that I actually enjoyed).

Not really the question you asked, but I looked at both tours and as a person who abhors organized tours, I’m wondering if you have considered creating your own itinerary and doing it on your own. Indonesia is an amazing country and their tourist infrastructure is well-developed and affordable. On my first trip to Sumatra, we hired a driver for three days. This was in the 90s, but it was something like $25 per day. When I went to Borobudur, I had someone from the resort there pick me up at the airport in Yogyakarta and then they took me to the Hilton, where I stayed for about a week. It was a five star hotel for about $25 per night (in 2019). It doesn’t look to me like you’d get to do the sunrise climb at Borobudur, which was absolutely magical and better than taking a cooking class or learning how to make a kris. So just throwing this out there for you to consider. It’s cheap, it’s easy to get around, and there is always a local with a car or a horse cart willing to take you around. We did all kinds of tours in Sumatra organized by locals. In Ubud, there is a dance or performance every night and people sell tickets on the street. I’ve never been to a country where it was easier to get around and to find something cultural to do. And it’s very cheap. Hope you don’t mind the suggestion to think about planning your own itinerary.

I was very disappointed in Jakarta. I love Indonesia. One of my best trips ever was to Sumatra. No sex because I was traveling with a female friend. Oh wait…after she left, I did have fun in Medan. Went to Borobudur for my 59th birthday and climbed the temple for sunrise on my birthday. Was surprised with a birthday cake by the staff at the little resort where I stayed. And I enjoyed Bali, but nothing “fun” happened there. Oh wait, there was the guy in the bathroom at the airport… Anyway, back to Jakarta. It had always been my dream to go there. A college friend and I used to smoke clove cigarettes - Jakartas or Djarums, so it had always been a dream to visit. And because I’d had such good experiences in other parts of Indonesia, I figured those who said Jakarta was a pit just didn’t appreciate the kinds of places I’m drawn to. Well, it was kind of a pit. And it did flood. And there really wasn’t anything interesting to do. It was impossible to walk around because the sidewalks were either in terrible shape or non-existent. I got excited about food because I saw a YouTuber go to this little food center and have fish fried rice that he raved about. I found the place and there were people singing awful loud karaoke and smoking, and the food wasn’t that good. To get away from my hotel, I’d take a taxi to a shopping center to get something to eat, and then taxi back to the hotel. The shopping centers had your usual chain stores. Nothing interesting. I’d say skip it. I’m not sure what East Java has to offer, so you might want to research that and do a comparison, but Jakarta, sadly, is not a place I’d return to unless it were a layover.

I’ve been in Japan for about 7 weeks now and I’ve been to a lot of non-gay onsen and sentos. It seemed to me that there was some cruising going on but I couldn’t quite figure it out. I saw lots of semi-hard cocks and even a few full-on boners, and of course a lot of really beautiful asses. I have to say Japanese young men have the most amazing asses (I don’t know what happens to them when they get older, but they definitely look like deflated tires). And while I’m not sure the white boys I’ve seen were all straight, I saw some incredible asses on some of the white boys at Thermae Yu, who I assumed were straight just by the way they looked and acted. Since it’s gotten hot, I’m not doing a lot of sightseeing anymore and I’m hanging around in my Airbnb in Tokyo. I injured my foot somehow and my back has been killing me, so I’ve been going to Thermae Yu in Kabukicho. The other day I saw this really hot white boy, tall, a beautiful ass, with a semi-hard cock sticking out in front of him as he walked around showing off. Two cute young Japanese boys seemed to be flirting with him. He was standing at the shower outside of the steam room with his back to the room and the two Japanese boys walked behind him and kind of giggled and pointed. They definitely wanted some of that. It’s been interesting to observe and on Sniffies, Thermae Yu is listed as a cruising spot, saying people take action into the toilets. I basically just went, observed and got horny (sometimes going to 24 Kaikan to get relief). Well, today that changed. I went to soak my foot. There’s a carbonated bath that has instructions on what to do for swollen feet. I saw a lot of really hot guys walking around. I was sitting on the edge of the bath and just soaking my legs per the instructions. One cutie sat in front of me. I could see him playing with his cock. Was it for me? Was he just entertaining himself? He didn’t give any indication that he was interested. He eventually got up and left. He was gorgeous. After about an hour of soaking, I went down for lunch. When I returned to the changing room, a cute little twink gave me “the look”. It was unmistakable. We all recognize it when we see it, and this was as clear as a flashing billboard. He seemed to be following an older white guy around. I figured that was his daddy. I just stripped and went to wash before soaking a bit more. I was sitting on the edge of the outside pool which has onsen water that is shipped up from Izu every day. From there, you can see inside the larger bathing/washing room. I saw the young twink coming from the locker room. He spotted me and came outside where I was sitting. Again, he very clearly gave me the look. It was so intense it was uncomfortable. Wouldn’t anyone see? I looked around and the few guys who were out there were sitting with their eyes closed. He came and sat next to me on the edge of the pool. Then he put one leg up on the ledge so that his legs were spread wide open. He had a nice dick. He was sitting so that if I turned slightly, I could clearly see his cock, but the guy on the other side of him couldn’t (if he looked). He was clearly showing off for me. Since I’ve had other guys who seemed interested but nothing came of it, I wasn’t investing a lot into this flirtation. I was really focused on soaking my foot. The water felt good though, so I slid down into the water and sat in a squat position, stretching my back. The twink did the same. Then he got up and I thought he was leaving. But instead, he sat directly across from me on the edge of the pool, his dick right in front of me. There was nothing subtle about him. Without realizing it, my dick got hard. Uh oh, now what? I kind of stretched and he could see I was hard, which made his dick start to grow. He kind of smiled/smirked at me. I was feeling so nervous and didn’t know what to do. This was all new for me. Finally, he got up and went to the washing area. He turned around and looked at me before he went to sit on one of the stools to wash. I wanted to see where this would go, so I got up and walked into the locker area. I stopped for a drink at the water fountain right inside. He appeared right next to me. I went into the bathroom and he followed. Someone was in the stall. It probably wasn’t the best place to play because it was busy and there was only one stall. When the guy in the stall left, the twink stood back from the urinal to show me his hardon, which again got me hard. Still not sure if this would happen, I went to my locker and started to get dressed. He did the same. I left the locker room, but he didn’t follow, at least not right away. I waited by the elevator. I was thinking we could go down to the relaxation area, which I thought was on B1. As the elevator opened and we both got on, two more guys jumped on. I pressed B1, they pressed B2. When we got to the 1st floor another guy got on. Boy, this was quite a crowd. Were they going to mess up my plan? The door opened at B1 and I was reminded it was the restaurant floor. I had just been there. The twink got off and headed straight to the men’s room. Another guy got off and went to the restaurant. I took my time walking to the men’s room. They have slippers when you enter the restroom and I was thinking if two guys went into a stall together, the fact that two sets of slippers were gone and only one stall was occupied would give it away. I noticed all three sets of slippers were still there and the twink was standing at a stall in bare feet. He was not new at this I imagine. I was nervous and figured we didn’t have much time before someone came in, so I went right into a stall behind him. He quickly joined me. From the looks of him, I thought he was probably a bottom and would want to suck me. He reached out and touched my semi-hard cock while pulling down his shorts. Then he let go of me and stood there with his hard dick waiting to be serviced. Wow, he just wanted a blow job. Long story short, he came, opened the door slightly to make sure the coast was clear and left. I waited a bit before I left. No one came into the restroom while we were there. It was the perfect crime. While I wouldn’t recommend going to Thermae Yu to cruise, I did want to file this report just to say it seems it is possible to cruise there and to hook up. Japanese toilet stalls, with their floor to ceiling doors, are perfectly set up for having fun. It was a nice little treat that I wasn’t expecting. I’m not anticipating it happening again, but wouldn’t mind if it did.

Too late to edit, but I hope you know I meant *pecs* not “pegs*.

Today I met Yutaka, who is also listed as Toyo, from Gym K. This agency has more men who are my type than the kids/boys agencies. I met Yutaka when I was here in February and he was one of the best tops I ever had sex with, so I decided to go with a sure thing since my success rate with the agencies is about 50%. After much back and forth on email, they were finally satisfied that he would be able to find my apartment in the maze where I live. A few minutes before our scheduled time today at 2, I got an email from them asking again for the name of the building. I told them I asked the host and there was no name. Thinking he might be near but lost, I went downstairs and he was right outside, ringing the intercom. He looked cuter than I remembered. He is an older guy, listed as 41 on the website, he may be a few years older than that, but he’s in amazing shape. He has a beautiful body, big pegs and arms and nice abs. And of course, a really big, thick dick. I had already showered and prepped before he came, so I let him shower alone and waited for him on the bed. When he came out, he climbed on top of me and started sucking my nipples. No small talk, he got right to work. I could feel his dick getting hard almost immediately. I’ll spare you the boring details, let’s just say he worked very hard to satisfy me and I was very happy with the booking. Thank you to whoever posted Gym K. I am thinking I might try one more guy from them before I leave. https://gym-k.com/sp/prof_yutaka.html

I’ve never really found Japanese guys to be that passionate. But I remember a Taiwanese guy I met here who was definitely a tiger. I told him I wanted to go to Taiwan after that!

Nope. Esim is still valid and I have data and an Internet connection while outside. I have cheapo Metro as my carrier so it’s either them or something with the WiFi in my Airbnb. I think it’s Metro because I was also able to make a call with WiFi calling from the street last month. Problem is I can’t call Metro because I can’t make calls and I can’t get into my account because I can’t receive the code they send to verify it’s me.

I don’t know that I ever noted that a shy Japanese can become a “tiger” in bed. That has not been my experience. What I have experienced is them becoming a corpse. Not sure if you have had that experience with them. They just lie there motionless. I’ve never really minded it until I was paying someone to be a top and he instead turned into a corpse. When I lived here before, I tried as hard as I could to things the Japanese way. On my return 20 years after I left, as a tourist and not a resident, it hit me - no matter what I do, I will never be Japanese. There are Koreans who have been living here for generations who will never be Japanese. It’s just not possible. I don’t think it’s about what we do or don’t do. It’s about how we look. They see a foreigner and some of them immediately put up a wall, for whatever reason. That’s fine. It’s their prerogative. The point of my post was really that for me, I have better luck at the sauna when there are more foreigners.

I’m not really a fan of that cinema, though it has been over 30 years since I’ve been there. I’m within walking distance of Shinjuku (staying near Okubo station), so ni-chome is easy for me to get to. My research suggests that the best times for me are Friday and Saturday afternoons. One of these days, I’ll check it out on a weekday later in the evening to see if there are more foreigners after five.

When I lived here in the 90s, I taught English at an American university and we would give a program-wide writing test, which we all scored. So many times, students would start off by saying, “Japan is an island nation surrounded by water” which we thought was hysterical, but in retrospect, I think it shows how much they are aware of what you are talking about (I’ve never heard that expression before). And it’s totally understandable. I can accept that people don’t find me physically attractive now at 65 or as a hot 30-something, but what bothers me is the way they will almost aggressively reject you, like the guy turning around and sitting with his back to me in the bath. I was on a lounge chair, a very safe distance from him, but he wanted to make it very clear that there was no way he was going to do anything with me. I know it’s my issue more than anything, but I’ve never faced that kind of rejection anywhere else. Only in Japan. Still, and I will keep saying this in defense of Japan, there are many good things about this country. I’ve just learned that if I want to have fun at 24 Kaikan, I need to go there when there are more foreigners. And one good thing about the tourism boom here, is that there are more foreigners than when I lived here before.

I tried that, but it didn’t work. Chat GPT thinks the issue is with my carrier, which could be the case, but I can’t contact them since I can’t call, and I can’t get into my account because I can’t receive the code they are trying to send by SMS. At this point it’s too late to stop the prescription from being sent. I was able to put my mail on hold, so if it is delivered by the post office, they will hold it, and my neighbor said he’d look out for it. Thanks though. It’s a total mystery since it was working in the afternoon and then didn’t work in the evening.