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I guess Apple has “morals”? Not sure about this workaround, I still can’t seem to view “too hot” photos on my iphone. Romeo is clunky, and already I’m getting hit by scammers, but at least it’s giving me something to do while I wait for Grindr to fix the real issue. Thanks again for the tips!

FYI - I looked to see if I could get Romeo Uncut and it appeared to be only for Android, so I asked Gemini and got this workaround. The actual standalone **"Romeo Uncut" app file (.apk) is strictly for Android**, because Apple does not allow sideloading external apps that bypass the App Store's strict adult content restrictions. However, **you can get the exact same "Uncut" experience on your iPad or iPhone** without downloading a special app. Romeo has a built-in legal workaround for iOS users. Here is how you unlock the uncensored version on your Apple devices: 1. Open Safari on your iPad and go directly to the **Romeo website** (romeo.com). 2. Log into your profile. 3. Open the sidebar menu (the three lines ☰) and go to **Settings** > **Privacy**. 4. Toggle on the option that says: **"Enable iOS App to show adult photos."** Once you flip that switch on their website, the restriction is lifted account-wide, and your standard App Store Romeo iOS app will automatically display all uncensored, adult material.

Thank you so much. I have been trying Romeo, which I have had for a while, and since I’ve been logging on, have been getting a few hits. I find it kind of clunky to use, but didn’t know about Romeo Uncut, so I will see if I can get that on my phone and try that. I’ll also look at your other suggestions. I think I am close to a resolution with Grindr since it is now clear that the issue is not my email address or account, but that they have tagged my devices. They need to clear my devices so I can create a new account, which I am happy to do at this point. I had good luck with Grindr last year in Reggio Calabria and it seems it is the app a lot of people use these days because it is so easy to use compared to some of the others. Thanks again.

Heard from Grindr again. They said my email address may have been pawned and this was all for my protection. I checked the link they provided and the email address I use for my account was pawned, in 2019, but Canva, a graphic design website. Has nothing to do with the current ban which was triggered by a bot that noticed I’d been signing in from multiple cities across northern Italy. Getting tired of waiting, I decided to try to create a new account on my iPad with an email address I have never used anywhere. Instantly banned. The issue is not my email address. It’s my devices. They have locked me out of creating a new account and accessing my paid subscription, all due to a sensitive bot that doesn’t know what it’s doing. Kafka never could have dreamed this scenario up. Is this our new world?

That’s my nuclear option. I’m saving that for when I return to the US. At that point, I think I’ll be done. I don’t think they will restore my account or whitelist my devices. I pay for Grindr Xtra because I can’t stand the ads, and $99.99/year is worth it for the hookups I manage to score. If I wanted to create a new account and a new subscription, I think I’d need a new device, new email (they already told me I need that) and even a different phone number because everything associated with my account has been tagged by them simply because I was logging in from multiple cities across Italy and that was deemed “suspicious”. But yes, to answer your question - a credit card chargeback is one of my options. Filed with the BBB the other day. Laws are stricter here in Europe and I have more protection, but bureaucracy is slow, and I doubt anything will get fixed while I’m here. If anyone has alternatives to Grindr that work here, please let me know.

Sending a PM

Maybe it’s a good thing Grindr banned me. I have only sucked one dick since I’ve been here - an American I met on Sniffies.

"Moving on" isn't an option even if I wanted it to be. Big Tech uses advanced device fingerprinting (IMEI, IP, Apple ID tokens, and hardware IDs). If you try to create a new profile on a flagged device, the automated system insta-bans the new account immediately. This may seem trivial to you, but it isn’t for me. I have a paid subscription and have lost access to all of my contacts, photos, etc. And thanks for your concern, but I am quite healthy.

She completely contradicts Eva’s reasoning for now allowing me to access my account. We’ve entered Kafka territory here.

Still fighting my ban by Grindr. They destroyed their own pretext by writing to me and letting me know I can restore assured that no one tried to hack my account and my data is safe. Phew! Now, if only I could access it. I’ve lost count of how many violations they have on multiple counts. Here’s Rachel telling me she’s sorry to see me go and instructing me on how to delete my account while ignoring the fact that I cannot access it. In Florence now. Maybe by the time I leave Italy, I’ll have regained access again.

My pressure campaign is working, but Grindr is still being ridiculous. A Grindr support rep responded to my emails saying they cannot restore my account because it was flagged for “suspicious activity”. The suspicious activity was me traveling and logging in from various places across Northern Italy. The worst part of this, is I finally met a really hot guy in Bolzano with a beautiful dick. He was going to come back for round 2 on Friday. I was banned right after he left my Airbnb that Wednesday. Anyway, Grindr came up with this ingenious solution. Since I have a subscription valid until December 2026, I could just log into my account and transfer the subscription. But I am banned, so that is physically impossible. I’m keeping the heat on, rejecting their silly offers and hoping the regulators eventually step in and make them do the right thing. The other danger here is if I go ahead with their suggestion of creating a new account (I need a new email address), my device could still be flagged and I could be immediate banned once I log in. I’m not backing down. If this has happened to you, or if it does happen (it is more likely now that they are using AI), don’t give in. I’ve found hundreds of guys on X, Reddit, Quora and other fora who have been banned and don’t know why. No wonder Grindr sucks so much. The bots have taken over and legitimate users are getting banned.

I’m putting this in the Europe forum because this is happening to me in Italy, and apparently there are some very strong consumer protection laws here that we don’t have in freedumb loving USA. Ironically, my ban probably also happened because I am in Europe, but that’s another story. I’ve been using AI - Gemini, Chat GPT and Claude for my legal resources. I also found another AI tool on Chrome that gave me an additional step to take that the others missed (Grindr legal). It’s day 8 of my being shut out of my account. Still fighting the fight. Claude wrote this summary. Read on… Grindr Banned Me Without Cause — Here’s How to Fight Back (and the Agencies That Can Help) Hi all — sharing my experience in case it helps anyone else who’s been arbitrarily banned by Grindr while still holding an active paid subscription. What happened: My account was banned by what appears to be an automated system, likely triggered by location changes while traveling internationally. I had not violated any community guidelines. In fact, after I submitted an appeal, a Grindr support representative confirmed in writing that I had not broken any community guidelines — yet the account remained restricted anyway, with vague language about “protection.” I am a long-term Grindr Xtra subscriber with a paid annual membership. Denying service on a paid account, without cause, is a breach of contract — and potentially a violation of multiple consumer protection and digital services regulations. The regulations Grindr may be violating: • EU Digital Services Act (DSA): Platforms must provide transparent, meaningful explanations for account restrictions and offer effective redress mechanisms. • GDPR: Users have the right to access all personal data held about them. • California Consumer Privacy Act (CCPA): Same data access rights apply to California residents. • General consumer protection law: Charging a subscription fee while denying service without cause is an unfair business practice. If this has happened to you, here’s where to file: 🇺🇸 California Attorney General (US users) https://oag.ca.gov/contact/consumer-complaint-against-business-or-company 🇮🇹 AGCOM (Italy / EU users — Digital Services Coordinator) https://www.agcom.it 🇪🇺 EU DSA Complaints (European Commission) CNECT-DSA-COMPLAINTS@ec.europa.eu 🇪🇺 EDSR (European Digital Services Regulator) dsa@edsr.eu 📱 Apple App Store Review Leave a factual review on Grindr’s App Store listing — Apple monitors these. Data access request: Send a formal CCPA/GDPR data access request to privacy@grindr.com demanding all personal data, photos, chats, and contacts associated with your account. They have 45 days to comply under CCPA. Follow the fight: I’m documenting this publicly on X at @peoplevsgrindr — daily updates, regulatory filings, and resources for other affected users. Happy to answer questions. You shouldn’t lose access to a service you’re paying for without cause or recourse.

Yes. Great fried chicken! Super cheap.

Shinjuku ni-chome is the gay area, but honestly, I can't tell you much about it. There are several bars that are new that are open onto the street that look like fun. When I lived there, the only bar we were really welcomed at was GB, which is on an alley down some stairs. It looks like it's still there. There is also a sauna - 24Kaikan, where I had a lot of fun, definitely worth a visit if you like saunas. That's about all I can tell you, but there are plenty of other posts about the gay scene.

Not sure how to explain the difference. Maybe by location or by host? This host made it very clear that there are no visitors. It's not just Cairo. I've run into it elsewhere - Colombia, and even Philadelphia.

unfortunately it's too late to cancel my Airbnb - I'm not expecting much to happen, but hopefully will find some ways to hook up with people - I will report back if I find anything. I'm curious about these hourly hotels. Might be an option if they exist in Cairo.

And if you were to find something when they are already inside? sounds like these men were not shot, would you confiscate their belt since that seems to be the main weapon used?

I just booked a month in Cairo - October/November. Will be staying in an Airbnb in Zamalek and planning on getting a monthly gym/pool membership. Looks like the Marriott nearby is my best bet. The Airbnb host has made it clear that no visitors are allowed. One slightly negative review got an angry response from her that the review was only negative because the guest tried several times to bring visitors past security. I'm not going only for sex, I understand it is Egypt, but I would like to have some fun. Will there be opportunities? Maybe massage guys with their own places? Not thrilled about the idea of car sex or driving out into the dessert. What can I realistically expect? Also, for those who know Cairo, I'm open to any other tips - things to do, places to visit, etc. Interested in off-the-beaten path spots. The tourist spots are easy enough to get information about (for example, just saw a video about a cafe on the 14th floor of an apartment building with an amazing view and super friendly people). Thanks in advance for your help.

Today is my last day in Japan. I had a great trip. Lots of adventures and lots of fun with the boys. I wanted to share some random tips for anyone coming for a visit. Each time I come here I love it more and I definitely will be back. Suica Card - this is a lifesaver. If you have an iPhone, you have Suica on your phone already under transit cards in your Apple Wallet. There are others, but I use Suica and can recommend it. Just add it to your Apple Wallet and then you can link it to a credit or debit card. Add cash and use it for trains (just tap in and tap out), convenience stores and many other things. It will save you standing in lines at ticket machines and trying to figure out fares. You can add any amount of money to it up to 10,000 yen total. I highly recommend it. Chichibu - one of my favorite places outside of Tokyo. I discovered it because I saw this train - LaView and wanted to ride it. It went to Chichibu. I didn’t know what Chichibu was, but absolutely fell in love with it. The train is absolutely beautiful. Designed by an architect with floor to ceiling windows it whisks you out of Tokyo into the mountains of Saitama prefecture in 80 minutes for about $10 one way (1600 yen). When you get to Chichibu, you can visit a few temples, Chichibu Shrine and then spend a few hours at a beautiful onsen/sento next to the station. I went twice on this trip and stayed overnight the second time. I sat in an outdoor bath in the onsen with cherry blossom snow falling on me. It was absolutely gorgeous. The Sakura Tram - speaking of cherry blossoms, there is this cute little street car that chugs along the backroads of Tokyo through small neighborhoods that is absolutely delightful. It was busy on this trip because of the name and the time of year - yes, it was cherry blossom season and Tokyo was packed. Last summer when I was here, the tram was less crowded on weekdays, used mostly by locals, and more crowded on weekends. One of my favorite stops is Koshinzuka. On the platform of the station is an old sweet shop called Ippukutei. It’s run by a mother and her son. They play US country music and you can sit and watch the tram come and go. They serve simple Japanese sweets and yaki soba with green tea or coffee. I sat there for an hour one day and had the whole place to myself. It is a really special place and I hope the influencers don’t discover it and ruin it. From there, you can walk to Jizo Dori, another very special place. It’s called “Harajuku for Seniors” and is basically and old shopping street that grew up around a temple. The temple - Kogan-ji - is believed to house a deity that removes physical suffering or illness. There is a Kannon statue that people wash. They pour water over the part of the statue that corresponds to the body part that they want healed. It’s a very active temple and it has a deeply spiritual feeling - unlike the carnival atmosphere at some of the more touristy places like Asakusa (I would definitely skip Asakusa and go to Kogan-ji instead if I had limited time). Jizo Dori is also just fun to walk down and browse. There are lots of traditioanl sweet shops, restaurants and a shop that sells red underwear, which is supposed to be good luck (for longevity). You can also reach Jizo Dori from Sugamo Station on the Yamanote Line, or hop on the Yamanote when you’re done wandering. You can get a day pass from the conductor on the Sakura Tram and hop on and off at different stations - the three I have visited are - Kishibojim-mae - a beautiful old temple dedicated to children and childbirth, Koshinzuka (above) - sweet shop and Jizo Dori, and Oji Eki Mae - a beautiful park that you can reach by taking this cute little bubble monorail up the hill. Taking the Sakura Tram is one of the best days of sightseeing I ever spent in Tokyo - you get to see the real Tokyo away from the crowds. A lot has been written about the sauna and gay venues, so I’ll just leave it at this for now. Feel free to PM me if you want more information.

In the spirit of research, I returned to 24 Kaikan last night to see how Thursday night compared to Wednesday. I arrived about the same time - 6:30 ish. The wet room was empty when I walked in, so I washed and got in the bath. It seemed much quieter. I moved to the dry sauna. A few guys were there. One Japanese guy was sitting across from me. He began making a jerkoff motion to me. I wasn’t really sure what he wanted, but we started playing with each other. Smallish cock, big thick body. He wanted to suck me off with a condom. I told him I wasn’t ready. I had just arrived. I saw one repeat customer. The night before, I had seen this guy standing in one of the shower stalls peeking out. He looked cute, so I went to see what he was up to. He had a huge dildo stuck to the wall of the stall. When he saw me approach, he backed up onto it. I touched his nipple and he winced in pain. Seriously girl? He kind of pushed me out of the stall, pulled his dildo of the wall and walked way in a huff. He seemed like he was Filipino. He was really cute, but not really sure what he was looking for since he came with his own entertainment. He was walking around last night with the bag they give you, I’m guessing his oversized friend was in his bag. There were two hot guys making the rounds. One Latino with a nice-sized dick which seemed huge in comparison to everyone else. For ease of reporting, I’ll call him Miguel. I did get to suck him off for a bit in the rain sauna and then the feeding frenzy started. One guy was grabbing at his cock so aggressively while I was sucking that I had to pull his hand away and slap him several times. Miguel seemed to be enjoying himself and really let everyone have their turn. But he’d get soft after a while and move on. He had a friend who I’m going to guess was Aussie. Cute white guy who walked around with a hardon. Not as big as Miguel, probably about 6 inches, uncut. He and Miguel liked to kiss when Miguel was getting his dick sucked or fucking someone new, but they didn’t really play with each other. I’m guessing Miguel had already sampled the Aussie. I sucked off one Filipino with a very fat cock. I could tell he was Filipino by that extra piece of skin hanging on his otherwise cut dick. He came in my mouth and then I kissed this guy Miguel was fucking in the sling room and gave him the cum. Miguel got a taste of that as well. I was thinking about it this morning and other than the guy who wanted to suck me off with a condom, there really weren’t that many Japanese there. There seemed to be a lot of Filipinos, at least one Korean, and quite a few white guys. It wasn’t packed, but it was a decent-sized crowd. Other than Miguel, there really weren’t any guys that I would consider hot. But, I still had a good time.

Honestly, Brazil feels overwhelming for me, but I will think about it. I don’t know where to start. Also, not too excited about a place where I have to rely on paying for sex and have to worry about meeting guys on Grindr because they might drug me and rob me blind. Maybe I need to do some research. Also, I need more than just the prospect of sex to lure me to a place. It’s definitely one of my criteria, but not the only thing that determines where I travel.

I haven’t been to Brazil yet. Well, once, to Buzios, a short vacation from Buenos Aires. Didn’t sample any of the local treats.

I’m still in Tokyo, I’ve been in Japan about 4 weeks now, it’s been raining, it’s crowded as hell, and I’m beginning to get bored. I did a 33 temple pilgrimage in Nagoya which was really an adventure, and returning to “normal” has been a letdown. Going back and forth on whether to hire a guy but also don’t want a mediocre experience…. People continue to hit me up on Grindr that I am not interested in. I go to sentos and see these people Japanese guys and fantasize… and then this guy hits me up on Grindr. “Daddy’s boy 21” he asks if I like kinky boys. He has a nice cock, beautiful ass and is really cute. I ask what kinky means, he says piss, shit, groups, blah blah blah…ok, too extreme for me. I am very vanilla and mostly just like to suck, will bottom for the right guy but and miss the days of cruising and toilet sex. That’s about as wild as I get. But he continues. “Do you like cruising?” - I ask where it is possible in Tokyo. He says, “Shinjuku, Ueno, Asakusa” - he’s not giving me any information. Is he just playing games? Finally, he mentions saunas. Yes, I’ve been to 24 Kaikan in ni-chome. He asks if I want to meet there, I say sure. He says he can be there around 8. Ok. Then he tells me to go early and have fun. Then he says he’s working and can’t respond to messages anymore (after he’s been checking on me all day). I begin to sense he’s not planning on going, but for some reason just wants me to go there and possibly waste my time. But I had already planned on it, and it was raining, and my new Airbnb is like three blocks away, so why not? I walk over to ni-chome, have some ramen and gyoza and go to the sauna. It is the perfect crowd for me. Not packed, but not empty. A nice mix of Asian and white guys (can’t tell if all of the Asian guys are Japanese or not - obviously some Filipinos, but not sure about the others). As I walk into the wet room, a guy in one of the tubs makes eye contact. He’s a really cute Asian guy. I wash, go into the dry sauna, and then go to the steam room. He eventually meets me there. He is very cute. His cock is on the smaller side, but he has a nice pumped body and we enjoy a little play. He wants to go to a room. I had just arrived, so I decline. I’m still waiting for “Daddy’s boy”. There’s an older white guy with a really nice body and cock. He plays footsies with me in the rain sauna and I suck his cock a little. He sounds like he’s French. He wants to kiss but has really bad halitosis. We eventually stop playing and I stand up to see this beautiful hunk, I’m guessing Brazilian from the way he looks, with a very major cock. A group of guys are circled around him and he’s in the corner on the way out of the sauna. No one is doing anything, they are just standing around him. I reach out and touch his cock and he gently brushes me away. Okay, message received. I leave. It gets quiet and I go check my phone. Daddy’s boy has messaged me. “Are you there?” I say ‘yes, but I don’t think you’re coming.” I go back up and it’s quiet now. I return to the sauna and there’s this tall, muscular guy who looks Filipino and the big-dicked hunk. They are sitting across from each other. I sit down. The hung guy stands up and puts his dick in the other guys mouth. He starts sucking. And not even a minute later, he stops, sighs this wimpy sigh, and makes a face. He can’t take it. I can’t believe it. He should be on his knees worshipping that thing. I mean, this guy was absolutely gorgeous from head to toe. I can’t help myself. I say out loud, “Are you serious?” - he motions for me to suck it. I say, “he won’t let me” and it’s true, he won’t. The hunk starts jerking off and I just think, ‘too bad for you because none of these guys are going to suck it the way you want’ - some guys get it - older men have learned through years of experience, a lot of these young twinks are wimps when it comes to serving a big dick…they think they want it, but then can’t take it. They both leave. I eventually find the original cutie. We go into a shower stall and fool around. He soaps up my dick and puts it between his legs (facing each other) and makes me cum. I check my phone. Daddy’s boy has not responded. I get dressed and leave. Once I’m back in my place, Daddy’s boy messages me to tell me he is there. Obviously a mis-communication, but I am okay with it. I am sure he had fun. I wonder if he met the guy with the big dick. I have always gone early in the day because I thought evenings were too busy and for me busy means too much competition, but I actually enjoyed it, and since I’m so close, I am going to go back tonight and try again. If nothing else, it actually is a good sento - the baths feel good after weeks of walking and it’s nice to sit in the sauna and sweat a big. And who knows, I might meet a guy with a big dick who understands that older guys give the best head.

Projecting?

In a previous post, I recommended Hotel Shu, an Airbnb building that you can also find on Booking.com. I stayed there before I went to Nagoya. The unit was small, but the location was very convenient. I just returned to Tokyo after a few weeks in Nagoya and returned to Hotel Shu. They had me in a different unit. When I entered, there was a horrible smell - kind of like a wet dog/body odor/smelly feet. I opened the window and door and messaged them. We went back and forth - they told me to use the deoderizing spray and open the window. They said the smell was not coming from the unit because the cleaner was just there. Finally I said I was paying over $2,000 for two weeks and their answers were not acceptable. They sent the cleaner up. he confirmed that it smelled, gave me more deoderizing spray, which I sprayed, left the window open and went out to dinner. When I returned, the smell was still there. I messaged the host and asked if they had another unit. They didn’t. I requested a cancellation and contacted Airbnb support. Long story short, Airbnb support was great, but the host was a major asshole. They changed the reservation to one night and when I asked when I had to check out, they said 10 am. I said, I haven’t even found a new place yet, I think the least you could do would be to give me until 3. They said they would have new guests checking in. When I questioned this, they withdrew their offer to change the reservation and told me to contact Airbnb support. Airbnb support was great, and they got me the refund. But Hotel Shu is a no for me from now on. In a country where customer service is top notch, I was shocked at how rude and uncooperative they were. I am in a new place a few blocks away. Still a good location. A little bigger and it smells clean rather than like B.O. I love Tokyo but accommodation here can be really problematic. I loved the hotel in Nagoya - Ibis Styles - big bed, great view, wonderful front desk staff, and cheaper for 18 nights than 14 nights in a stinky Airbnb in Tokyo. Last year I liked the places I found, but they were a bit far from Shinjuku. If I come back, I guess I’m going to have to decide if comfort is more important than location.