Hunting for FREE sex is basically a game in these times. It takes time, and it takes patience. And, I perosnally dont believe anything that anyone says onn websites, because the anonymity GIVES people the opportunity to lie. You just have to rely on your gut and invest some time and MEET if it gets to that. Most major city have venues or parties where you do pay admission, basically "sex clubs" so YES you are paying in a way, but if its sex you want, its sex you get, and you can SEE what you are getting. Will HE turn into your next ex-husband ? Probably not, but you never know.
As for smaller cities, there are gays lurking EVERYWHERE, you just have to be "in it to win it". Sitting behind a computer will not get you laid necessarily. You have to get out and be seen. You'll know when I guy is interested in you, you'll see it in his eyes... And every small city has infamous crusing spots. Dangerous, maybe a bit, but EVERYTHING has its risks. If its where the gays are, than its where YOU need to be....
The biggest necessity to meet is attitude and Confidence. If you KNOW you can get the guy, YOU WILL. I defeatist attitude and negative outlook doesnt give a guy a Boner. If you know YOU are a hot ticket, than HE will too !
Go out there and be "Gone with the Wind Fabulous"..........Getting Free sex is the easy part. Now if we are talking relationships, thats another story, but everything starts with baby-steps