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During my 62 day stay in Cebu (January / February 2025) in the Philippines - when I was lodging over on Mactan island - I visited 2 times the Mactan Shrine - where the Battle of Mactan is displayed. Back in 1521, the local people - led by Lapu-Lapu, killed many of the Spanish forces that were invading the area - killing the Portuguese explorer Ferdinand Magellan in the battle. This was the first killing of a European in the Philippines. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battle_of_Mactan When I discussed this history with many local Filipinos - how they replied was often consistent and a bit brainwashed (in my opinion). They were proud that they defended their land from the Spaniards (only successfully in that battle), but they also told me that the local people at that time were savage and without culture, religion, and norms - and so it was good that eventually the Spaniards returned to bring them culture, religion, and trade. So, it is as if, the Filipinos are condoning and endorsing: Kipling's view of colonialism that it was "the white man's burden" to improve - and thus westernise - native populations at the sacrifice of their own (pre 1521) culture and history.

This is SO true. I have used similar lines here in Pattaya - and they are often SO proud when I say that they are from Isaan. Since I am an edger (side) and I rarely fuck - I will borrow your line - as it fits me perfectly "suck and chuck...." I love it & thanks!!

wow - thanks for this great advice. And yes, you have observed me well. And each time that I allow myself to lose my anger - afterwards, I feel like a piece of shit for doing so. Even after 5 years of anger management, with an excellent psychologist - some people still get under my skin (nagging mamasans being one such category), and an occasional anger outburst will occur. But they are a lot less than the period of my life prior to those 5 years with the psychiatrist. My psychologist taught me to remove myself from situations that are escalating towards that point of an outburst. But, when I am paying to be in a gogo bar to have fun - I really don't want to exit the bar because of an annoying mamasan. Perhaps I can print some polite expressions in Thai that I can display to these nagging mamasans - so that they get the message in a polite way. Or, perhaps I could print messages that are strategically printed from level 1 up to level 5 - where each "polite" message is more terse than the previous one. Then I could measure its effectiveness to see how many mamasans push me to anger level 6 ??

I am also a victim with the mamasan thing. My BIGGEST failure was during my May 2024 @vinapu boot camp training on how he had just taught me on how to avoid the mamasan and not to employ their services and during our visit to Moonlight - I failed miserably when I let the lurch mamasan coordinate my off. My problem is that I don't know how to tell them to fuck off politely and the lurch mamasan is the worst. My problem is that I fear to after saying 2 or 3 times that I do not need your help and that I want to be left alone - my anger level will escalate from 0 to 100, where I might yell and tell them to fuck off in a not nice way - and I hate myselft when I become this monster. If only I could compromise at anger level 50 instead of going fully to the 100 anger level. There should be a nice and polite way to make the mamasans stay away - like a sticker that we can place on our person that says, "no assistance required", or "I will flag you over if I need your help", or some other mechanism - obviously all written Thai.

I remember back in the day when I started out my career in banking directly across the street from the World Trade Center (WTC) in lower Manhattan. One of the charms of this location was the nearby TKTS booth in the WTC South Tower up on the mezzanine level. What was great with TKTS was that you could take advantage of the bargain basement pricing to see a great Broadway show - as the overstock (unsold tickets) were made available in BOTH of the TKTS addresses in the WTC and also in Times Square on West 47th & Broadway. In my opinion, the WTC location was the best because you could do the transaction within the WTC (in case the weather was not good this was a big bonus) instead of the sometimes very long lines up in Times Square. As my banking career in Manhattan was only from 1981 through 1987 - I cannot remember the prices that we paid back then, but I remember for sure they were 50% off of the normal ticket price. We were able to see some great Broadway shows back in the day thanks to TKTS. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/TKTS

Is this a clue on when you will be returning to LOS? in 3 to 5 months to consume what you bought?

Wow PeterRS - this Baan LaLisa nursing home is right next door to where I live here in Jomtien over in the Grand Condotel complex. Perhaps that could be the solution I would be looking for. I will walk over there one of these soon days to check it out. Thank you so much!!

Many eyes and ears are now focused on Parliament House in Bangkok, as the long awaited censure debate commenced at 9:05am today. It is scheduled to be finished tomorrow - running through the entire night and next morning..... https://www.bangkokpost.com/thailand/politics/2986286/censure-debate-underway-opposition-slams-pm https://www.bangkokpost.com/thailand/politics/2985056/premier-laments-debate-timing https://www.bangkokpost.com/opinion/opinion/2985978/debate-a-crucial-test

Please share who was the lucky forum member to have such a lovely birthday surprise = Forum members singing like a church choir Happy Birthday to him....

I love getting coins - especially the 10 baht coins, as they are VERY useful when using the Pattaya bahtbus (songthaew) transportation system.

Short update on my visit to Koh Larn (lovely island off the coast of Pattaya) yesterday, Sunday 23 March 2025. Saturday night I did not go out so I woke up early on Sunday. I looked out my balcony window and the continuation of the never ending smog that is blanketing most of Thailand is not abating. I look over towards Koh Larn and it is hardly visible. I decide - fuck it - maybe the smog will be less out there off of the coast ? By 9:30am, I am already on a speed boat heading over to the Na Baan port in Koh Larn. The sea was totally tranquil with hardly any bumps along the way. When departing from the speed boat, I look back towards Pattaya and it is not visible - that is how intense the smog is. Yuck!! I walk over to my usual motorbike rental shop and I rent a lovely metallic blue Honda click: I rarely ride a motorbike here in Jomtien / Pattaya, as I still don't feel comfortable in the crazy traffic and there are so many other alternative safe ways to move around. But, over on Koh Larn - riding a motorbike is truly exhilarating - as the sense of freedom on the uncrowded streets of Koh Larn give you a great sense of freedom as you brisk around this small island to visit the nature and many of the beach sites. My favorite ride is over the narrow path that starts in front of Samae Beach and winds over the hills over to Tawan Beach - where I go to have my morning coffee and cake. That narrow path is both breathtaking and hair-raising - when another motorbike is coming from the opposite direction and you need to go as far left as is possible to let the other motorbike pass and to not fall down into the gully. On 2 separate occasions in the last year - I have had to stop my motorbike to help a stranded person who did not negotiate the narrow path well and ended up into the gully. So, there was a need to help him / her get out and up from the gully their person as well as their motorbike. Then my final destination for the day is to my favorite beach - Tien Beach - but at the extreme end where the beach ends in front of the 2 big pirate ships that have been placed up on the sand and now serve as sleep over lodging - run by the nearby HardTien restaurant and hotel. I note that the beach is quite empty for a Sunday. The last time that I went to Koh Larn was in December just prior to heading to Cebu, Philippines. Then Tien Beach was crowded with some larger tour groups - mainly Mexicans - which I found to be interesting and the usual Chinese and Russian tourists. Today, it was very sparse. Where is everyone on a Sunday ? Ah yes, it is now low season.... The highlight of my day was noticing a pirate type of entertainment vessel out off the coast of Tien Beach. I had never seen this ship before. So, to find some purpose for this morning - I asked Grok to help me identify this ship. Grok sent me on a wild goose chase inferring that this pirate type of ship was the "Pirates of Pattaya" ship - but that ship does not have the same markings and architectural structure as the above ship. But, Grok gave me some useful leads and I was able to find this rather new venture that is offered by the entity known as: Lord Yacht Club - who promotes / manages the above ship with the name - Black Pearl Pirate Ship. It seems from the marketing material that this ship departs from the Bali Hai pier - now that would be quite impressive to see a ship of this size docked within the city limits of Pattaya. However, I would imagine that it is physically moored over in the Ocean Marina Yacht Club down in the southern most point of Na Jomtien ?? Upon further exploration I see that Trip.com offers a one day adventure on this ship for around 1,900 baht. Not bad - so I would definitely want to try this out with the right group of fun people. https://in.trip.com/things-to-do/detail/88336150/ During the day, the smog slightly disappeared and when heading back to the Na Baan pier for the return trip to Pattaya - the skyline of Pattaya city and Jomtien was more visible - but still smoggy.

yes - this is my number ONE worry and it is now more so than where will my next orgasm come from. As @macaroni21 mentions - I could also move back to my home country - but I could not afford to - as my mother's monthly dementia costs in an assisted living care center specialized for dementia was around $10,000 USD per month. I could never afford this. Also, I visited her in this center many times and to live there would be like to go back into the closet in your last years of life. Why go back into the closet when I fought so hard in the 1980s to come out of the closet? So, I will stay here in South East Asia - as that is what I can afford and I would not need to be put back into the closet - at least here in Thailand. I want dignity in those last years and to be part of an elderly gay retirement community. @PeterRS do you know of any end-of-life care centers that are outside of Chiang Mai? Perhaps here in Chon Buri ?

I was the same. But, I notice as the years move forward, my butterfly wings have aged and don't give me as much flight like I had before when I was younger - because...... I am starting to reach that dreaded age when my mom's dementia started to commence - and in 2021 during the pandemic, she passed away from dementia. Her mother (my grandmother) died from dementia and now my mother's sister (my aunt) is in full bore dementia mode. So, my doctor told me to be alert - as this disease can be hereditary. So, now living in the retirement community of Jomtien and frequently visiting the Jomtien Complex (aka Supertown) and seeing all of the elderly retirees here with their designated Asian "helpers" (as I observe from a distance - I do not know their actual relationships - so I gave them the label "helpers") they all seem sorted out for their eventual demise and death here in Thailand. So, in light of the above, my heart is moving from the "incorrigible butterfly" to wanting a relationship, knowing that someone(s) will be able to take care of me IF I would also succumb to dementia. So, I feel that I still have 6 years to find that person - hence my initial sense of urgency - as this person(s) would need to be eventually given control of my finances to facilitate the cash flows to allow for my care until my demise and their care for taking care of me..... Since TRUST is the key operative word here - one needs time to understand who he can trust. Can I manage it within the next 6 years? So, my question to you @macaroni21 (and any other forum member) is: by being "allergic to relationships", are you willing to accept to die alone or to not have anyone by your side to take care of you in your last fragile years ?

wow @vinapu, I was also so confused. I inserted the below map to help explain my confusion. When I was in Phu Quoc back in December 2019 the fake Venice (VinWonders Phu Quoc) was not yet opened - as I believe that it opened in mid 2020. I did not even know that it existed and was under construction. https://vinwonders.com/en/vinwonders-phu-quoc/ So, the ONLY fake Italian place that I saw was the one in the southern part of the island with the name of: Sunset Town - which was still under construction. It was the fake Italian town at the base of the overhead cable car. https://sunset-town.com/en/ So, when you were discussing the "fake Venice" - I just assumed that it was an addition to the already existing Sunset Town - which was already a fake Italian seaside village. I just could not imagine that they would build 2 distinct fake Italian replicas on 1 small Vietnamese island - as this is after all Vietnam.....Go figure.... What is the obsession with Italy in Vietnam ?

In the last year, I have seemed to moved from #4 to #1. I met my #1 (massage guy) because I liked his massages and I then commissioned him to organize 2 of my 3 to 4 weekly four hand massages for me. He was so good at it I found myself falling in love with him. But, it has not been easy - because the lifestyle of an "ex-money boy" is not exactly aligned with my lifestyle - especially when it comes to how we utilize the 24 hours in a day. Often when I am waking up in the morning he is returning to his room to go to sleep after being up all night over on Jomtien soi 12. So, this often creates friction - as I cannot do anything with him prior to 3pm. But, where we are aligned - for the nightlife it is often great and so much fun. It's those daylight hours that I long to have a partner with me. A good friend of mine told me that I need 1 more boyfriend to fill in the gap for the daylight hours - I said, NO WAY, as I would go broke..... So, I am not sure that this will last over the long run - even though I am envious of @Min and @jason1975 as they both seem happy in their relationships - as they were the ones who gave me inspiration to give my ex-money boy a try for "A simulacrum of romance......"

Wow - a Great idea... very Bangkok. I don't see why it could'nt work here in Pattaya 🤔 Where can these money garlands be purchased?

@BjornAgain Wow - some of us here in the forum thought that @Olddaddy was just a ficticious character that only lives virtually in this forum. Like a keyboard warrior. Can you attest that you met the real one and only @Olddaddy and not a hologram?

As a follow up - we went to the M2M 10:30pm cabaret show last night, Friday 21 March 2025. This is our first return to M2M AFTER the new Candy Bar has been opened. We wanted to see: With the transfer of a couple of key stars from M2M over to the Candy Bar if it would be noticeable?, What is the crowd size - in light of there now being 3 different cabaret show bars in the Jomtien Complex (aka Supertown)? What we noticed is that the remaining M2M performers had to pick up the slack - meaning that they had to perform more numbers during the 90 minute show. What is the impact? Less variety of performers - BUT - the existing team did an excellent job last night and I/we could not notice any degradation in the show performance. The crowd size was at around 75% to 80% full. So, not a substantial loss of customers due to the arrival of the Candy Bar competition. Prior to the Candy Bar opening, there were many nights where M2M was only 80% full. Perhaps the noticeable difference is that we were able to reserve 5 seats when we stopped by M2M at 8pm on the same day of the performance. In the past, this was not always possible. But, we are now in the low season - so I am not sure if it was easy for us to obtain 5 seats because of the competition of the Candy Bar and/or because it is now low season?? The main noticeable differences between the 2 venues are: both shows start at 10:30pm - but the Candy Bar cabaret show has I believe a 10 to 15 minute intermission, whereas, M2M does not - so you get uninterrupted 90 minutes of entertainment, the Candy Bar space is bigger and newer, and the M2M space is smaller, but more intimate with the performers, the Candy Bar program varies depending on the day of the week with shows ONLY on Wednesdays (Fun and Games Night), Thursdays (Perfect Pop), Fridays (Burlesque), Saturdays (Classic Camp), and Sundays (Icons, Anthems, & Divas). They are closed on Mondays and Tuesdays. M2M offers a show 7 nights each week - where they tend to be a repeat of the previous days show - BUT - they often announce special themed nights in advance via their social media outlets (FB, Instagram, GaySupertown Twitter feed, etcetra). At this juncture, I still cannot say who is number one. Previous to the arrival of the new Candy Bar, M2M has always been my favorite (when it was compared to The Venue cabaret venue - which was the only alternative in the complex). But, I am starting to like the new Candy Bar more and more. Perhaps, there does not need to be a Number ONE - and that both can be Number ONE. Anyone here have an opinion ? The great Freddie Mercury impersonator performed in last night's M2M performance, and he is one of my favorites, and one of my Thai boyfriend's BEST friends, who was with us last night and it was his first time to visit the M2M, he was mesmerized by Freddie - and it was great to watch their interaction. Excellent Freddie Mercury rendition 1742650685621.mp4

Especially in the morning !!! 😜😋🍆

I guess this was good for international relations between Vietnam and Thailand. Also good for me to get used to this type of music as my 4.5 months adventure to Vietnam is rapidly approaching...

I am elated that you enjoyed their services. All of the time that I have now known them, I had believed and thought that they were a gay couple. I don't know how I was misled - but I am glad that you shared this information so that I can now modify my approach with them in the future....of course in a good way - for example, I could feel free to mix and match them with other guys that I like to receive 4 hands from.

If I remember correctly from what you told me, you tend to win 2 types of different types of games each morning. 🍆💦 🫅🤴

That would have been super incredible to see. The distance across Second Road is quite far. I wonder how many "flying vegetables" missed the plate being held by your waiter? 🤔

and I thought the same thing - because that is the sofa on the outside of X-Boys Pattaya where the guys who work there often sit between skits to relax or have a smoke. So, you were lucky that sexy #17 was not offed while we were watching the fuck show....

I loved that cable car ride - if I remember correctly it traverses a couple of islands before arriving at its final destination.... any pics to refresh my memory?