I just wanted to say the same and good you were first. Broadly we can say that most of OP requirement can or can't be met based on given therapist preferences. And they may be tailored to customer i.e. guy who refuses to kiss me may gladly agree to that while with somebody else. Same goes with other tricks, BJ, HJ and full monty to name a few.
There's a lot of variations, one of massage guys I'm familiar with by his own admission will never bottom while in the spa but will when taken home.
So OP, which stands for Original Poster, take a heart, talk to guy discreetly and see what happens, that chase is actually best part of experience.