Guest shyatfirst Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I am going back to Thailand on 14 march for 1 month holiday. I do not want to go to Pattaya or Chaing mai so I am looking for suggestions from members on this site as to alternative destination to go. I am looking for somewhere that has affordable hotels or guest houses ( 600 to 800 THB per night ) and has availability of " boys " and or is gay orientated , bars ,gogo places etc.either in or out of Thailand I am flexible in my travel plans and I have read on other forums about Laos , Cambodia etc. is it worth while me trying there ? I think that there would be some gay people on this site that have "been around" and know where to go and where not to go. I have moved on from my upset and problems I recently have had with a thai boyfriend , and now I intend to be a confirmed butterfly . Never again will I give so much for getting nothing in return, A very bitter and costly lesson leant the hard way. Quote
Guest SpermAholic Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Laos is still a Communist country and it is illegal even to be with a girl in a room if the door is closed. There are gay Laosians however gayness is still not accepted there so you wont find any type of boyztown there. Cambodia (Phnom Phenn, Sianukville) etc has a better gay scene and both are nice places to visit. Phuket also has a gay scene and is beautiful but for that reason room prices etc are more expensive. Even Koh Chang (Elephant Island) 3 hours south of pattaya is my favorite place to go because of its beauty and beaches etc and there is a gay scene there also. Google is your friend. Quote
kokopelli Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 shyatfirst; Wasn't your first post enough? How many more suckers do you want to con? Where is a mod when you need one? Quote
Guest Guideneeded Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I am still waiting to hear this story you were gonna post. We were all ready to help and nothing came back from you. Would you care to explain? ------------------------------------ #15 shyatfirst Newbie Members 3 posts Gender:Male Location:australia Posted 06 January 2014 - 03:21 AM thank you to all that have replied. I have taken notice of all that has been said and I will tell it all that's been going on. But please I must emphasise that I am genuine , that I am not attempting any sympathy. I am not mental and don't feel the need for psychiatric treatment. But I know that I am somewhat depressed and have been for some time now and I don't intend suicide or self harm just very upset and feel so down for being so trusting and stupid,. at the same time for not listening to my instincts and my suspicions over the last 3 years about "him".. It will take me hours to type it all out so please bear with me people thank you Quote
Guest SpermAholic Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Ok sorry I am a newbie here. Now I see this guys posts are fake. lol Quote
pong Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 For In TH there is hardly any choice left, that holds to all criteria you mention. Places with cheap rooms are everywhere, but the organised gay life will be missing. Phuket might fill the bill-but its not cheap. Or try to arrange some GR-meets. Even though I stay myself in BKK most of the time, ChMai is my favorite place and has all you need. What is the reason you skip it from the list? I myself do not like and thus do not do beaches-others need to tell you more about that. DO note that the TH NewYr=Songkran is at 14/4 and starts a few days before with a mass-exodus. Then the water-throwing comes-take heed! Quote
Guest shyatfirst Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 hi. I take a bit of offence being referred to as a fake poster on this site, the reason why I did not proceed with my story is because I settled down after a week or so from it all and as it was going to end up a lengthy article I guessed it would have become a bit boring to read it all. however if you and others are really wanting to hear it then I will post it. but I do realise from what someone else had posted that I would not have been the only person that has been scammed lied to and cheated by a thai guy that was considered a boyfriend. to give you personally just a little insight to what happened . last year he talked me into buying a house in his village si that we could live there each time I was in Thailand. After I bought that house (in his name ) I came back tpo Australia , when returned to Thailand I discovered that he had moved his while family into the house, consequently no room for me.I have been sending him so much money by western unioun amounting to no less that 390000 bht over the last 16 months. then as a final blow to the deception by him I was going back to visit him in December 18th. when I was on phone to him on the 16th December he informed me to put off coming there until march as he would be busy CARING for his thai friends ENGLISH BOYFREIND for a couple of months. ( the English guy was arriving on the 20th December and staying for 2 months. so I ask you haw the f**k would you feel if supporting someone for 2 years with so much money , buying property for him , then being told he was busy caring for some other guy . who he tells me there has nothing been going on between thenm both.. man oh man there is so many other things as well . including a 4 year ol;d kid that suddenly came on the scene that I was told was his sisters kid and she working in Bangkok. then 2 months latter find out the sister is actually in monkey house (prison khon kaen for dealing drugs. and it goes on and on ..., DO YOU WANT TO HEAR MORE ?? please withdraw your comments you posted against me, I really don't need any more upset. ive cooled down and now trying to move on from that disaster relationship. Quote
Alexx Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Ok, assuming you're genuine, whatever you do, don't meet this guy again. While that might seem obvious to you anyway, I know how tempting it can be to "get some closure" or whatever. Don't do it, you'll regret it. vinapu 1 Quote
Guest shyatfirst Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 thank you williewillie . for your posting. I can go on and on about it all but im worried that it would become boring . however I will now give a lttle more insight to the problem , yes I finally got the courage to say goodbye a while back after finding out he wanted to care for someone else for 2 months. I mentioned about the 4 year old kid that suddenly arrived intpo the household. and was told it was the sisters kid, now so many things didn't add up I rather suspect that it is actually his kid and there is no sister , I think he is married or the girl in prison is actually his gf or whatever,. And yes in the last 3 weeks I have been plagued with sms messages from him asking for help telling me his grandmother (looking after that kid ) is sick in hosp[ital. and he needs 6000 baht to pay for the room in khon kaen hospital. then 1 week ago he asks again for another 8 000 this time its for a supposedly 5 acre sugar cane farm he owns in udon than and the money is needed for fertiliser for the cane. OH and more about the house I bought that I was tricked into buying . was initially told that it was his grandmothers house but his mama forged the grandmas signature on the papers and borrowed from a loan shark in the village, I smelt a rat about that part because I went with him and this so called loan shark to the government office to change over the title deeds and the loan shark( incidentally he did not strike me as a loan shark but in fact was a wealthy retired business person in the village ) spoke a little English and just happened to say to me when the bf went to toilet , "that he was a bit sorry having to sell the house as he had been trying to sell it for 6 months and he wanted to try and keep it in the family if he could , but as my bf was pestering him to buy it he relunctantly agreed to do so.adding TO HELP THE BOY OUT now that he had a farang BF (ME) Oh wait theres more in fact much more to the lies and deception this prick laid on me while I was his pet ATM... AAAGGGHHH whats the use of crying after one has been scammed. but I will tell you this , never ever again will I be so trusting and free with my money as I have been with that PERSON. LOVE ITS ALL BULLSHIT . ONLY LOVE PART OF IT IS "HIS LOVE OF MY MONEY AND STUPIDITY Quote
Guest shyatfirst Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 now you all know why I asked about some where else to go on 14 march.. he is back in pattaya caring for this so called friend only ... the English bf of his best thai friend. sure I am positive that guy is number 1 or 2 in the scheme of things. much much more to everything . that's what got me so pissed off and upset when it all started to come together which promted me to post what I did in the first place. don't worry I have dug in and will not answer the phone or reply to any of his sms.. which has been total of 43 in last 2 weeks alone.I cant afford it .. I had to dip into my term deposit to pay for that house for him. and my balance is now only 30% of what it was 2 years ago.... Quote
kokopelli Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Shyatfirst, I accept your explanation of events as your are not the first or last to being scammed. But do understand that many of us on these forums have also been scammed by trolls who get off by posting enticing stories. As a result we can be leery especially if by a newbie. Probably we regulars are too chagrined to post the details of how we were once scammed. Quote
vinapu Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Strictly adhere to Alexx advice above, chalk off your loss as there's no way of recovering anything, sounds harsh but this is what it is. Cut off all contacts, do not count his sms , phone calls, e-mails etc, just erase everything without even looking into it, hang off the phone, change number if you need to. Sooner you forget about him and your loss better for you, your soul and your pocket. Avoid any contact as you may be tricked again- in this relationship you know who was smart and who was not, sorry for being blunt but you asked questions so answers are flowing. As consolation think that you helped poor Thai family to lift them out of poverty so you earned merits and hope your karma will improve. Sounds cynical and sarcastic but I actually believe in what i said. As for places to go since you don't want o go to Pattaya or CM, Phuket is too expensive and in neighboring countries gay life is not developed as in LOS, stay in BKK, rent an apartment for a month for 15000 and you will never be bored, guaranteed. Quote
Guest shyatfirst Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 UPDATE. yes this is a very bad situation I find myself in. Its on my mind 24/7. I am taking notice of everything that is suggested by you guys here and it does help with having someplace to let it all out on. I really will have to consider changing phone number and break off all communication with him. Just to give you some update on things, I mentioned about him asking me recently for 6000 for his grandmas hospital room in kohn kaen, well being the fool I am I actually did send it to him 1 hour after he asked me for it. I have copied and pasted his actual request to me but its in thai so I had to translate it on google. I also mentioned just a few days ago he asked me for another 8000 this time for a 5 acre sugar cane farm he reckons he has in udon thani. this is the first I ever heard about that cane farm but I told him NO way could I send him just at present. Then he completely lost his temper and kept screaming at me on the phone saying I HAD TO COMMIT TO HIM 100% and kept saying it over and over again and he was completely irrational and kept saying commit to him .. in the end I hung up and not said another word since to him. that was on the 15th January. then on the 16th January I got this sms from him. this time it was in English so I imagine he had someone write it for him because he cannot write English. only very little, most communication by sms or emails I have to translate into english on google. here are some of the things I have been subjected to lately. (I copy and paste them here to try and prove the truth about what ive posted. Quote
Guest shyatfirst Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 ( about wanting another 8000 for sugar cane farm ( never knew about any farm until now) 16. Jan. 2014 - 22:08 It you sure to sen me money for that I will go to see you for sure but I dot think you can do. 12 .Jan. 2014 - 11:20 ( 4 sms this is about 6000 bt he asked and I sent him, supposedly for his grandma in hospital. ) เขาป่วยมากผมส่งเขาไปขอนแก่น ผมขอยืมเงินคุณก่อนผมจะส่งคืนให้คุณในเดือนมีนาคมเพราะผมตัดออย ตอนนี้ค่ารักษา 6000 บาท ถ้าไม่จ่ายก่อนเทียงวัน จะเพิ่มขัึ้น 2000 ต่อวันเป้็ค่าห้องน ได้โปรดช่วยผมด้วย โปรดให้คำผมด้วยผมจะได้โทรบอกรถมารับ Quote
Guest SpermAholic Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 ok ok stop !!!!! We get it. You were in love, you are a fool to keep sending money etc etc etc. MANY of us have been there done that. Although love is not easy to end, in your case it seems the love is one sided so don't just walk away.......RUN AWAY !!!!!! Lot's of fish in the sea leterally here. Quote
Guest abang1961 Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 8000 thb or 8000 USD? If he has a sugar cane farm that needs 8000 thb alone, then it is definitely a bluff. What can you do with 8000 thb.. buy fertilisers? You now know that you are nothing but a TAP.... stop the damage immediately. You dont have to change a number..just block his number.. Quote
Guest shyatfirst Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 0 warning points Gender:Male Location:australia Posted Today, 09:18 PM The final update. I take this opportunity to thank everyone here who gave me the advise on my position. I overlook those comments that were no flattering to me but hey I can understand why some would think it to be over the top and not factual. I have heeded the advise of many and have removed and destroyed both sim cards from my 2 phones and now have a new number. I have deleted every email and set up a new yahoo email a/c. So people I want to put it all to bed and behind me and do not want to continue boring everyone here with it all any longer. The more I keep writing about it all just gets me more cranky with myself for being a complete idiot for so long. From now on I have the experience to understand about thai boys and what their real agenda is in wanting a "farang boyfriend". and I will take everything that' they tell me with a grain of salt. Hopefully any future postings by me will be happier postings. Now I have to come to a decision where to go for the holiday from 14 march. as much as the thought of just staying in Bangkok sounds ok on the surface, however I don't know a thing about there and being alone would be a bit of a challenge I think because I do not know any places and finding suitable hotel / guest house close to where the "action is could be a bit of a worry. so now I want to put it all to bed forever once and for all ... THANK YOU AGAIN EVERYBODY. Quote
vinapu Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 . I have heeded the advise of many and have removed and destroyed both sim cards from my 2 phones and now have a new number. I have deleted every email and set up a new yahoo email a/c. Finally !, and make sure you really did, forget about everything and just move on Quote
Guest shyatfirst Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 yes I have and thanks for your interest and comments, now I am starting to smile again, Quote
Guest travelerjim Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 0 warning points Gender:Male Location:australia Posted Today, 09:18 PM The final update. I take this opportunity to thank everyone here who gave me the advise on my position. I overlook those comments that were no flattering to me but hey I can understand why some would think it to be over the top and not factual. I have heeded the advise of many and have removed and destroyed both sim cards from my 2 phones and now have a new number. I have deleted every email and set up a new yahoo email a/c. So people I want to put it all to bed and behind me and do not want to continue boring everyone here with it all any longer. The more I keep writing about it all just gets me more cranky with myself for being a complete idiot for so long. From now on I have the experience to understand about thai boys and what their real agenda is in wanting a "farang boyfriend". and I will take everything that' they tell me with a grain of salt. Hopefully any future postings by me will be happier postings. Now I have to come to a decision where to go for the holiday from 14 march. as much as the thought of just staying in Bangkok sounds ok on the surface, however I don't know a thing about there and being alone would be a bit of a challenge I think because I do not know any places and finding suitable hotel / guest house close to where the "action is could be a bit of a worry. so now I want to put it all to bed forever once and for all ... THANK YOU AGAIN EVERYBODY. Come on down to Pattaya... I suggest you stay in Jomtien Complex area... many hotels and guest houses...500 Thai baht + Close to "all the action" and beach too. Easy access to Pattaya itself...10 baht ride... Put your experience behind you... We have all been there one way or another... This is Thailand TIT... Enjoy ... tj Quote
