Travel Buddy for Chicago guy

[Guest haring222]

As a first post, the odds are good that i won't do this correctly....but here goes.

 

Me: fun average fellow, interior designer, living in Chicago.  Sexually I am a top and I have a fixation on Thai men.  I have been thinking on the idea of a visit to Bangkok and spend a week or so enjoying all of the saunas, massage places, and evening activities with the residents.

 

Honestly, though, the idea of actually going there on my own intimidates me and all of my friends just wrinkle their nose when I bring up the idea of it. 

 

Is there a way to meet some friends virtually who are perhaps experienced in all of it and like to enjoy the fellows and would like to meet up and hang out with a newbie in Bangkok for a week or so?  I am not looking for a sexual thing between us.  My finances are not overly generous at the moment and I would need to be budget aware but would make money available to indulge in my vice for asian fellows.

 

Thanks

David

[kokopelli]

Although cannot help you with your request, I do suggest you extend your visit a bit and visit Pattaya.

[MrBill]

My friends wrinkled their noses as well, until they see the pictures I brought back and hear about how much better and cheaper medical/dental care is here. Also few appreciated how modern Thailand is in many ways. Their BTS rivals Chicago's El and they can trump you by adding a subway as well. But you got Da Bears. As a Red Wings fan I I am forbidden to utter the name of the hockey team "youse guys" got.

 

You didn't mention what age range Thai men interest you. I tend to play around Gay Romeo a month or two before I am scheduled to travel. That gives me time to see how interested and interesting people are and who's out for just money. I have chatted with several college students and some employees, mostly in the hospitality industry who would welcome a non-sexual relationship, even temporary one, with a Western man. Some do it as a way of improving English skills, others because it gives them some experience in their chosen (hospitality) field and other out of love and pride for their country. Continuing an ongoing chat on Skype can also be helpful in getting to know someone from here.

 

I do agree with Kokopelli, a visit to Pattaya for a few days is worth it.

 

The first time I came to Thailand I was intimidated too, but that seemed to melt away when I stepped off the plane. The biggest thing I struggle with now is the whole negotiation thing around goods and services a 10 bht trip in a tuk tuk, songtaew or taxi can cost you a hundred to a thousand or more if you're not careful. Front desk staff at your hotel can be invaluable in providing info about how much things should cost and knowledge you'll need, so always play nice with hotel staff.

 

I have found much of the signage is in English as well as Thai (though Pattaya seems to be replacing English with Russian) so finding directions or reading menus etc. are not a problem. If you do make one trip, I doubt it will be your last. Pleasant travels!

[ChristianPFC]

Have you been to Thailand before? When I came here for the first time (2009), I was on my own, all preparation I had was some reading on the internet. I had no problem to get around and do the standard sightseeing and participate in tourist-oriented gay nightlife. There is nothing intimidating, I would say everything is straightforward. Now I have moved on to explore attractions far off the beaten track and visit gay venues where I am sometimes the only farang.

 

On my first holiday, I met some interesting people (Farang and Thai) at the Malaysia hotel. Unfortunately, that scene has now dried up, as the last sight of a moneyboy outside the Malaysia hotel was months ago.

 

If you have to control your spending, Pattaya is a good place to go as most things are cheaper there.

 

When do you plan to go to Bangkok? Do you intend to use the service of money boys?

[vinapu]

 

 

If you have to control your spending, Pattaya is a good place to go as most things are cheaper there.

 

 

I found that personal lubricants are 120 in PTY versus 99 in BKK so you are right with  'most ' instead of all 

[Guest haring222]

Nerdy as it seems, I find the fact that I can toss up a note on a message board one day and come back later to find fun and informative responses to it.

 

I will poke around and reserach Pattaya.  I have read lot's of info about Bangkok, but was not really aware the Pattaya even existed. 

 

The negotiation tactic is very difficult for me to wrap my head around.  I am solidly middle class here, but the buying power in my wallet outstrips the great majority of people in Thailand.  Hence I think I will have a lot of guilt negotiating anything with a Thai person who does not have the same opportunitis as me.  I will have to temper that will my need to keep a check on finances and saving money to pay for for lot's of overnights visits with cute guys.   

 

Back in the late 90s when I was in university I actually funded my lifestyle by escorting (this was back in the days of AOL chatrooms) and turned out to be rather good at it...finding a profitable sideline and a way to take care of the constant hardons that one is blessed with in college.  Though I am now skipping into the land of 'average middle age' and have not traded cash for money in over 10 years I find the entire rentboy / sex for money thing to be highly interesting. And a total turn on.  Not to mention the money that you have to pay out for a completely awesome sexual encounter in Thailand falls far short of what you have to pay stateside for a mediocre encounter. 

 

I kind of love the idea of staying at the BBB guesthouse and being immersed in that entire world.  I think the opportunity to see the people in the halls who are actively engaged in the sex side of thailand would be awesome.

 

I appreciate the tip on gay romeo, and will poke around on there some more.     

[vinapu]

 

I kind of love the idea of staying at the BBB guesthouse and being immersed in that entire world.  I think the opportunity to see the people in the halls who are actively engaged in the sex side of thailand would be awesome.

 

You will find BBB quite a normal hotel, just staffed entirely by the men. It's  not that sleaze is poking out of every corner there. You will see massage boys in the lobby but for days on you may not to see this farang  / Thai boy pair on the corridors or lobby.

I found it quite discrete, it's why I love the place. But is good for immersion as Soi Twilight, center of gay Bangkok is just behind the hotel , no need to cross the street even,

[t0oL1]

Actually Bangkok reminds me lots of Chicago in summertime. But being from the midwest that is the only huge city I really have to compare it to. 

 

I found my first time in TH to be exciting more because I went there alone. Go anywhere, do anything any moment I felt like it.

I think you will have a great time, and the time spent alone is good also for you. Dunno about your phone plan/roaming, but I have a Thai GPS for my iPhone I would like to try out myself this year.

 

Coming from the cold area of the USA, I would also recommend Pattaya for the sun/beach as well as the bars/boys. Reminds me of Florida weather.  

 

Heck with negotiating, just have fun + fork over a little cash. Budgeting I usually allow ~$150/day with a little exception for the first day or two in BKK, but i get companionship a little infrequently. You should find Pattaya easier to budget as tips/beers are a little less expensive, depending on where you are partying. This is spending money- hotels go on credit card to deal with when I get home. If saunas guys are your thing you will save lots.

 

With all the hassle of traveling, you would want to plan for more like two weeks there to justify the plane trips. Hotels are really inexpensive and really makes the most of the cost of a plane ticket if you stay longer. Warning- you may be really sad  the days before you have to go back home as your vacation ends. (Read: desperate to change your return date to way later)

 

Plane ticket prices rise after January for the spring break crowd. I always shoot for departing in mid- February and try to come back when the worst of the winter has passed.

 

Wish I was closer(3 hours away) to Chicago so you could have a go at interior designing my home

(or stage it for sale so I can move).