The boys savings

[Guest monkleigh]

Where do the bar workers keep their tips from farlangs? I had the opportunity last trip to see several rooms where the workers were staying. Some had 12 to a room with several bunk beds in.

 

The rooms were very basic, & I

[TotallyOz]

I have known many boys who live with others and things get stolen. Too often, they are unable to place blame on anyone, as it could be a number of people. I don't think keeping the money in a room that has 3-8 people is smart. But, what are the alternatives?

 

Most of them do not save the money. They seem to spend it as it comes. It is not like they are rolling in cash like American escorts. They are paid about the same price, as a pizza at Pizza Hut with a few friends would cost. They have to pay rent, utilities, transportation and food. Regardless of what we think, they are not getting rich off of the work they do. They are able to live a much great life financially than most of the people in the country but by no stretch of the imagination are they getting rich.

 

Most don't save up the money to buy a cell phone. Some will and some will work to get larger gifts than just cash. I had one boy who didn't want me to pay him baht but to buy him gold after every so many days or weeks. This way, he had something of value that he could use later on.

 

Cell phones and gold are very easily stolen and sold here.

 

I have always asked that if I have a regular that he get a bank account in HIS name and I will put money in it for him. Why? If you put money into a family members account, they sometimes take it. If you put in the boys girlfriend or ladyboys account, it also may disappear. I ask each of my guys to get their own account and if they give it to someone after that, it is up to them.

 

I found the easiest way to get my guys money while I am away is a paypal ATM card. This is something they can use and they need the pin for anyone else to access it.

 

I know the guys work very hard for their money and it is sad when one of their friends steal it from them. I don't have any solution other than to tell you to offer them advice if it is a regular.

 

[Guest noy9000]

I have a feeling that most of the money goes into the bank. That's probably why their wallet is always empty but the atm card is around. Unless you bring the guy back to their room, how will you know they don't make a trip to the bank outside the street?

 

I'm on phaholyothin soi 4x, and there're 4 banks within 1km walk from my place. (from the main junction that is) And for the record, there's 2 K-bank branch within 1.5km. CASH DEPOSIT by the machine is 24hrs available. I know Thais are careful with their money, even, if they're going to waste it. They won't allow it to be stolen (except cell phones, maybe?)/

 

F*ck it. Is it going to be rude if you request to see their bank book if you want to get serious with them? there - straightforward & honest, did they have other boyfriends or etc. I find myself now in a very difficult situation, and, I was so rudely shocked yesterday.

 

He was 1 hrs late, &, didn't bother to spend 5 minutes to look for me in Big C department store. Incoming SMS "I have something for you.but can't give to you. HAPPY BIRTHDAY". He didn't meet me, can't call me?! I called him, but, he already left (straight within 1 minute of the 'bye bye' sms, which is, irony that he just notify me of his arrival less than 4 minutes ago!).

 

F*ck it. I'm not worth looking for - for 5 minutes, for my birthday celebration? I told him, I'm not going to see him again, period. I'm glad he was simply stupid. rather than playing an emotional game with me. Phew!

 

If he were to contact me again. I want it to be honest and on the table, to, do an impromptu bank account check (he has 2 bank books) & also the emails. I know this sounds rude, but, I really can't think of any other way to be really sure I'm not going to waste my time.

 

Actually no. I don't think I want to renew this at all - that imho - is not forgiveable.

[Guest gonefishing]

Is it going to be rude if you request to see their bank book if you want to get serious with them? ... I want it to be honest and on the table, to, do an impromptu bank account check (he has 2 bank books) & also the emails. I know this sounds rude, but, I really can't think of any other way to be really sure I'm not going to waste my time.

 

I don't think I want to renew this at all - that imho - is not forgiveable.

 

Noy9000,

 

what you propose is not "rude", it is unacceptable and pointless in equal amounts.

 

It is unacceptable because you do not "own" your boyfriend - how would you react if he asked for the same courtesy (to check all your bank accounts / statements and your personal e-mails) to make sure he is not wasting his time?

 

It is pointless since the only boy who might agree to the inquisition you propose would be one who could easily conceal other bank accounts / e-mail addresses, etc. from you.

 

While you may be hurt about your boyfriend apparently not caring about your birthday, what you suggest would simply ensure that you cannot get a "boyfriend".

 

GT,

 

you are 100% right that "it is sad when one of their friends steal (money) from them"; regrettably this happens all the time and although I can accept that theft happens, there are few things lower to me than someone who steals from their friends.

[Gaybutton]

F*ck it. I'm not worth looking for - for 5 minutes, for my birthday celebration? I told him, I'm not going to see him again, period. I'm glad he was simply stupid. rather than playing an emotional game with me. Phew!

 

I'm sorry your birthday was spoiled. I hope the next one will be a happy one. I know this is no consolation, but if I knew I would have definitely wished you a happy birthday.

 

In a way, it is a happy birthday. In your previous posts I had a feeling this relationship would not work out in the end. I'm sorry it didn't, but for your sake I'm glad you got out of it before you were completely trapped. It may be difficult now, but you'll quickly get over it and be able to move on with your life. That may turn out to be the true birthday gift.

 

I agree with gonefishing. While mutual trust is very important in a relationship, asking to examine someone's bank account is not appropriate. You had mentioned that you were financing his education. I do think checking up on that is appropriate because you're the one who was paying for it. But a person's bank account is a completely different thing.

 

In any case, I think you have learned not to rush into a relationship with anyone and not to be so generous with someone you hardly know.

[Guest Aunty]

Dude, they stash their money down their undies, you should check it out the next time you

[Guest noy9000]

Actually for my case. There's something that happened before I asked him to meet me on my birthday, not totally irrelavent, but he has the impression that 'I need sometime to think over it' - because I wanted a 1 month break from him to be a big butterfly.

 

Than out of the blue, i send him my invitation. So he may got the impression that I may be happier alone, go figure why I did this and that.

 

Other than that, it's really very fine. He is saving money for me than spending it for me, my electricity bill was brought from 7thb/ unit to 5thb/ unit. because he got fussy with the landlord. He's settling for 7k p/ month + I'm paying for his university fee + AUA fees.. not too greedy. never requested to buy this, buy that.

 

I'll keep the thread posted on how it turns out.

[Guest gonefishing]

noy9000,

 

you are old before your time and growing older quicker than anyone should be at 23! For your own good, get on with your life before you start drawing your pension prematurely.