Doubters Beware!

[TotallyOz]

Back a few years ago, I said I met the love of my life at Tawan. Well, there were many naysayers. But, here is the thread:

So, skip forward a few years, we are still together and doing great. He has been an amazing addition to this old man's later life. He keeps me busy, on my toes, and entertained. Not easy to do, but sometimes, you just know on the first meet.

The BF of over 20 years, I knew that day. And, we are still together (kinda) as he has a farm now and lives with his family but talk daily. When I call, he comes that day. When I need him, he is there. When he needs me, I'm there.

As for the love of my life, he has been a true joy. Don't let the people tell you that romance dies at a certain age or that every bar boy is the same. They are not. They are often diamonds in the rough and it takes patience, love, attention, and money.  

[floridarob]

You know my sarcasm, gotta get over the 3 yr hump before I'm onboard, bad luck to change your status on social media to married also, sarcastic and superstitious...what a mix 😉

A "3 year hump" in relationships refers to a common period of challenges and potential conflict that often arises around the three-year mark, where the initial "honeymoon phase" of a relationship wears off, leading to increased arguments, boredom, and a feeling of taking the partner for granted, potentially causing strain on the relationship; essentially, it's a point where couples need to actively work on communication and deeper connection to overcome the "itch" and move forward together.

 

 

https://www.verywellmind.com/three-year-relationship-problem-8663224

[bkkmfj2648]

1 hour ago, TotallyOz said:

As for the love of my life, he has been a true joy. Don't let the people tell you that romance dies at a certain age or that every bar boy is the same. They are not. They are often diamonds in the rough and it takes patience, love, attention, and money.  

I am totally with you @TotallyOz with what you wrote above. Thanks for sharing it with us.

Especially the part about the "diamonds in the rough" - especially if it has sharp edges from a bad upbringing and/or unfortunate MB experiences --> or both.

Those "sharp edges" can wound the both of you - but the potential emotional rewards and happiness can be unparalled.

[Olddaddy]

1 hour ago, TotallyOz said:

Back a few years ago, I said I met the love of my life at Tawan. Well, there were many naysayers. But, here is the thread:

So, skip forward a few years, we are still together and doing great. He has been an amazing addition to this old man's later life. He keeps me busy, on my toes, and entertained. Not easy to do, but sometimes, you just know on the first meet.

The BF of over 20 years, I knew that day. And, we are still together (kinda) as he has a farm now and lives with his family but talk daily. When I call, he comes that day. When I need him, he is there. When he needs me, I'm there.

As for the love of my life, he has been a true joy. Don't let the people tell you that romance dies at a certain age or that every bar boy is the same. They are not. They are often diamonds in the rough and it takes patience, love, attention, and money.  

Beautiful ❤️ ❤️ 💜💜

I love to hear stories like this

[TotallyOz]

2 hours ago, floridarob said:

You know my sarcasm, gotta get over the 3 yr hump before I'm onboard, bad luck to change your status on social media to married also, sarcastic and superstitious...what a mix 😉

A "3 year hump" in relationships refers to a common period of challenges and potential conflict that often arises around the three-year mark, where the initial "honeymoon phase" of a relationship wears off, leading to increased arguments, boredom, and a feeling of taking the partner for granted, potentially causing strain on the relationship; essentially, it's a point where couples need to actively work on communication and deeper connection to overcome the "itch" and move forward together.

 

 

https://www.verywellmind.com/three-year-relationship-problem-8663224

LOL Not referring to you at all. Everyone thought I was just bullshitting when I said that. But, I knew.  You know, sometimes you just know. At my age, I don't get many chances and 3 years is a lifetime. I just hope for 3 more months and I'll be happy.

(But, still I am as cautious as a hawk)

[Londoner]

I am with you, TotallyOz.  These partnerships aren't easy for either party and among all their problems one, though not the most significant, is the  cynicism they sometimes encourage. On both parties, I hasten to add.

P and I celebrated our twentieth anniversary in January of this year.There have been  bad moments, I confess; times when I doubted him and occasions when he, I know, was disappointed with me.

But it has worked for both of us, if in totally different ways. I hope it continues for you, too. I wouldn't presume to offer advice but I do urge patience and  realistic expectations., for you both. 

[TotallyOz]

BTW: I think I met the love of my life again yesterday at JJ Market. But, it wasn't a boy this time.

Beautiful white cockatoo. I could not stop thinking about him all night. Just hoping when I return next weekend, he has been sold.

[reader]

7 hours ago, TotallyOz said:

You know, sometimes you just know. At my age, I don't get many chances and 3 years is a lifetime.

For me, the moment came nearly eight years ago. The happiest years of my life have followed. Thanks for reminder that hope springs eternal.