Don't be too shy. Things will get better!

[vinapu]

3 minutes ago, Olddaddy said:

 

Of course most are dying off now which isn't a bad thing as it brings in a newer modern generation 

you are soooo cheerful  !

[vinapu]

13 minutes ago, Mavica said:

Yes, living someplace is very different than visiting that paradise ... as a tourist.  Many expats have learned that lesson.

it's why wise people advise  to live somewhere for about a year  before making final decision 

[Olddaddy]

Just now, vinapu said:

you are soooo cheerful  !

Vinapu ,these old Pattaya expats farangs were nothing like you !

They all had completely no sense of humour 😅😂

Looks they all had given up.on life , sitting outside bars more bored than a banana 🍌

[vinapu]

Just now, Olddaddy said:

Vinapu ,these old Pattaya expats farangs were nothing like you !

They all had completely no sense of humour 😅😂

Looks they all had given up.on life , sitting outside bars more bored than a banana 🍌

I know what do you mean. Somewhere in this forum there's my report from my first visit to Pattaya   in  Nov 2014 and I recorded my first impression that city seems to be full of sad looking farangs. I was ready to give up on Pattaya but some wise members advised me to give Pattaya a chance , I did and now see her advantages although I'm firmly in Bangkok camp. I don't like sea but like rivers

[bkkmfj2648]

1 hour ago, Olddaddy said:

I like to dance, I like to laugh.

I did this in Pattaya and got some strange looks from expats

😳"Aren't you too old to be dancing , one asked in Pattaya 

Yes I said ,I should sit here being miserable with you 😜

Oh fuck it...I will dance instead 

You made my day @Olddaddy

Too many of the expats here (Pattaya / Jomtien) forgot how to have fun, stay healthy, and create a positive attitude.

Dancing is good for your health and morale.  Sitting in those bar chairs night after night with the standard uninnovative and unexciting bar manager mantra of "farang sit and farang drink" is just SO boring.

@Olddaddy please open a cool fun dance place in Jomtien.

I know many of the readership prefer Bangkok - but there is no sea to look at and the air is so much fresher and healthier out here at the seaside.

[bkkmfj2648]

44 minutes ago, Mavica said:

Yes, living someplace is very different than visiting that paradise ... as a tourist.  Many expats have learned that lesson.

Yes, add me to that list.  Pattaya and Jomtien as a paradise ... as a tourist ... heavily influenced my decision to retire here.

But the reality of living here is not a paradise ...

My original plan was to retire in Italy (as I also have an Italian passport).  But some years back on the gay Roman beach I saw some situations that turned me off of that idea to retire in Italy.  The elderly retired gay Italians on the gay beach are often despised by the non-elderly gays.  On some occasions, I saw with my own eyes old retirees who had sand kicked on them when they tried to strike up a conversation with the other younger gay Italians.

After I saw those incidents - I remembered that I NEVER saw this type of behavior in Thailand - especially at the gay Dongtan beach here in Jomtien.  The elderly are very welcome.

So, I guess our retirement locations have good and bad.  For me, living here is too transactional - but I would rather have that problem than having sand kicked on me because I am old and the young gays despise us gay elders - because their hostility towards us is their own fear of getting old.

 

[vinapu]

1 hour ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

the young gays despise us gay elders - because their hostility towards us is their own fear of getting old.

 

very wise

[Min]

20 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

@Min I love these intimate updates as they give back the lost hope that living in Pattaya has become too transactional.  It is nice to hear and learn first hand that traditional real love still does exist here.

10 hours ago, floridarob said:

Take money out of the equation and see how it goes..... does the love even have a chance to start without it?
The age old story..... no money, no honey 🥺

Let's make one thing clear: I'm not trying to romanticize anything. I'm trying to tell things as it is. I don't even let myself be dragged into pretty pointless (to me) arguments, such as "what is real love" or "Transaction-based relationships are not real" blah blah. I never deny that money is important in JC "love stories". Please, those working boys come from poor family, of course, money always matters! To many of them, money is not just a means to achieve goals, money is the goal itself.

I always look at it this way, to quote my favorite character from my favorite show (The Big Bang Theory)

Bert: You guys are nice, but I'm just gonna buy Rebecca a Jet Ski and see if that gets her back.
Raj: (once Bert left) I feel bad for Bert.
Sheldon: So he's using his money to attract a mate. Is that any different than me using my intelligence to attract Amy? Or Leonard using his power of groveling to get Penny?
Raj: Sheldon, what did Amy have that attracted you?
Sheldon: Oh, so many things. Her mind, her kindness, and especially her body.
Raj: Really?
Amy: Relax. We're the same blood type. He knew he could harvest an organ.

Ask yourself this: why the boy chose me among paying fellow customers? Because of my good look? my personality? the way I care? I give him more money? Or because nobody else was interested? Or a little bit of everything?

Whatever the reason, you obviously have something to offer that others don't, at least, at that moment in time and place. So what if you entice the boy, first and foremost, with your money? At least, you have money. And later on, if he finds out about your other endearing qualities and grows more attached to you, doesn't it make it even better?

I once half-jokingly asked J. what else, apart from my money, made he fall in love with me. His answer is brief and, as clichéd as it may sound, still moves me "because of what I feel when I'm with you."

About two months ago (we were in a hotel in Vientiane at the time), in the middle of the night, J. suddenly turned to me and hugged me so tight, his whole body shaking, he woke me up (he was never a clingy type when he sleeps). Then he stopped and I went back to sleep. The next morning, I asked him about what happened. "I had a terrifying nightmare. That's why I hugged you. I now don't remember much about what I saw in my dream, but as soon as I hugged you, I feel safe again." Should I ask for more?  

[jason1975]

3 minutes ago, Min said:

I once half-jokingly asked J. what else, apart from my money, made he fall in love with me. His answer is brief and, as clichéd as it may sound, still moves me "because of what I feel when I'm with you."

About two months ago (we were in a hotel in Vientiane at the time), in the middle of the night, J. suddenly turned to me and hugged me so tight, his whole body shaking, he woke me up (he was never a clingy type when he sleeps). Then he stopped and I went back to sleep. The next morning, I asked him about what happened. "I had a terrifying nightmare. That's why I hugged you. I now don't remember much about what I saw in my dream, but as soon as I hugged you, I feel safe again." Should I ask for more?  

🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

[Keithambrose]

10 hours ago, vinapu said:

at least you have clean beaches and world class entertainment

Clean beaches?

[Keithambrose]

6 hours ago, Olddaddy said:

You have to admit you don't get many Pattaya gay expats as the happiest to talk to,😠of course different from the Bangkok gay expats 😅

I find the straight expats much better to be social with so usually end up on Soi Bukhao or up at Canterbury tales bookshop 😻

At the moment I would rather remain a tourist.

I never forget John aka LMTU let me tell you writing about the "bitter and lemon faced🍋 expats" of Pattaya 

Of course most are dying off now which isn't a bad thing as it brings in a newer modern generation 

But does it? I thought there was a lack of younger expats?

[Keithambrose]

6 hours ago, Olddaddy said:

Vinapu ,these old Pattaya expats farangs were nothing like you !

They all had completely no sense of humour 😅😂

Looks they all had given up.on life , sitting outside bars more bored than a banana 🍌

I didn't know a banana was bored? It has several uses!

[Keithambrose]

6 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

You made my day @Olddaddy

Too many of the expats here (Pattaya / Jomtien) forgot how to have fun, stay healthy, and create a positive attitude.

Dancing is good for your health and morale.  Sitting in those bar chairs night after night with the standard uninnovative and unexciting bar manager mantra of "farang sit and farang drink" is just SO boring.

@Olddaddy please open a cool fun dance place in Jomtien.

I know many of the readership prefer Bangkok - but there is no sea to look at and the air is so much fresher and healthier out here at the seaside.

I agree about the air, if you get out of the centre of Pattaya. 

[bkkmfj2648]

53 minutes ago, Keithambrose said:

I agree about the air, if you get out of the centre of Pattaya.

The key to having a fresh air life here is to live OUTSIDE of Pattaya city.

I live in Dongtan beach at Jomtien = fresh air every day.

[vinapu]

5 hours ago, Keithambrose said:

I didn't know a banana was bored? It has several uses!

indeed , some people claim it can even be eaten, apparently needs to be peeled off before consumption

[bkkmfj2648]

https://www.theguardian.com/artanddesign/video/2024/nov/21/worlds-most-expensive-banana-fetches-us52m-at-auction-video

 

Sell the banana 🍌

[floridarob]

19 hours ago, gayinpattaya said:

Been together 11 months. All good. Go fuck yourself. 

Would he say the same thing, when you have your Bipolar outbursts, I know they're not just reserved for me, so I've heard 😳

[vinapu]

5 hours ago, floridarob said:

you have your Bipolar outbursts

you are telling us gayinpattaya likes girls  too, it can't be ?

[10tazione]

On 12/7/2024 at 4:47 AM, gayinpattaya said:

Nice cap, made in China

[reader]

All Trump memorabilia made in China, including US flags!

[spoon]

50 minutes ago, reader said:

All Trump memorabilia made in China, including US flags!

Its okay, trump will make sure US will charge tariff on those too

[Keithambrose]

17 hours ago, vinapu said:

indeed , some people claim it can even be eaten, apparently needs to be peeled off before consumption

Or insertion?

[Min]

18 minutes ago, Keithambrose said:

Or insertion?

Or inserted first, and then eaten

[Min]

A week ago, a customer offed both J. and his friend from his bar in JC to continue partying in Boyztown. About 10 minutes after he arrived, J. sent me a message "I'm going back. I don't like it here". My first thought was: the customer forced J. to do something he didn't want? Should I be alarmed?
 

I sent him a message, asking what happened but got no response. 30 minutes later, when he's finally back to JC, it turned out the customer only took the two boys out to watch that erotic show in X-boys, whose sexually explicit content was offensive to J.. It looks like one year working in JC hasn't acclimatized him to this kind of stuff yet.

 

That little incident probably gives you some clues. J. is hopeless traditional when it comes to sex. And by "traditional", I mean "farmer housewife traditional". Sex should only be carried out properly in the bedroom at night, with all the curtains down and lights mostly out (I once tried it in the bathtub, he seemed to enjoy it but was reluctant to do it again). Something like rimming would be unthinkable. For some reasons, he also came up with a "no more than one f*cking per day" rule. Actually, he would not allow me to say "f*ck" out loud. "It's not appropriate in Laos culture. You should say "together in the room."

 

So when we are "together in the room", much as I'm turned on by his body (perfect to my liking: symmetrical, well-developed chest with lean muscles, the kind of muscles you got through good genes and physical hard work, not pumping yourself up in the gym, very lean waist, cute buns and long lean legs), the sex was getting old pretty soon.

 

So I thought, it's totally up to me to spice up our sex life. It's a good thing that J. never fakes orgasm. He only moans when he indeed feels good. So I used his moaning as guidance when exploring his body and finding his G. spots. As someone who only tops and whose basic moves used to limiting to "fast-forward" and then "stall", I ventured to try out more positions, carefully calculating the angle and tempo changes in each case to achieve the maximum results (i.e., the loudest moaning).

 

I even learned how to do cum-control in order to last longer (those daily cardios in the gym helps too. Actually each day with J. is always like working out twice if you know what I mean😉 ).

 

My efforts paid off. Since I'm someone who feeds off greatly on his partner's pleasure, the more J. enjoys the sex, the more turned on I am. In the past, if I sensed that the boy was in pain or just wanted to get it over with, I often lost interest quickly and couldn't even get hard again. That's why I always preferred a boy who was also into me.

 

I ended up having some of the best sex in my life with J., although to an outsider, it may look like my partner was just lying there and moaning. To see that a little farmer housewife sometimes sounding like a cat in heat gives me a sense of achievement too.

PS. Once, my male ego forced me to ask J. "Do I give you better sex than your ex-boyfriend did?"

He looked the other way, blushing a little but was vague with his answer "I don't know."

Is that a yes or he was sparing my feelings? 
 

A few days ago, J. got angry with me for something (probably) quite trivial. Being passive-aggressive, he didn't want to talk it out. So he undressed and got into bed. When I joined him, he allowed me to do whatever I want but played dead. Sensing his resistance, I told myself "Challenge accepted!"

 

So I really took my time, trying to be as gentle as I can, and started by paying visits to those G. spots with my tongue. As people say, the body doesn't lie. J. used his right hand to push down the little J. who was claiming loudly it should have its own life (and fun) too. He even gritted his teeth, determining not to let out a single sound. But he could hardly control it as the sound leak became more and more noticeable. Eventually, when I started upping my tempo, it's like he finally gave up and the moaning business was back to usual. So I thought "Mission accomplished!"

 

I was wrong. After we finished, J. got up immediately (no usual post-coitus cuddling), got dressed and went home. He didn't even stop to collect his fee, which I laid out on the table next to the door. He was THAT angry.

 

Although I wasn't sure why he got angry, being a good boyfriend, I sent my apologies for whatever I did wrong through message (of course I didn't say "whatever" in there). I was forgiven the next day though.

 

PS. Speaking of fake orgasm, there is this Laos boy whom I offed just once about 2 years ago. We had barely even begun it when he started moaning loudly and saying all those "come on baby" "oh yeah" "f*ck" "feel so good" whatever. He couldn't hold his conversation in simple English (we used google translation most of the time) but obviously he has a very good command when it comes to those phrases.

 

It was so distracting I had to tell him to tone it down but he begged to differ "That's my way. I was always like that with my ex boyfriend back in Laos."

 

A few minutes into it, my already hard cock got soft and could not recover, so I just let him go with the promised fee. I nicknamed him "the porn star" and the sobriquet sticks. Everyone in the bar knows about his tricks and calls him "porn star" as well. Now come to think of it, he would make a perfect cast for @Olddaddy if his self-made porn idea ever materializes.
 

I run into the Porn Star, who is now freelancing, once in a while and got his feedback on how his acts would work on other customers. It turned out it works for some and for those who hate it, he has learned to cool it. He promised if I off him again, he will now lie completely still in my bed, without making a sound. Do I look like I'm into necrophilia to you?

[bkkmfj2648]

16 hours ago, Min said:

He only moans when he indeed feels good. So I used his moaning as guidance when exploring his body and finding his G. spots. As someone who only tops and whose basic moves used to limiting to "fast-forward" and then "stall", I ventured to try out more positions, carefully calculating the angle and tempo changes in each case to achieve the maximum results (i.e., the loudest moaning).

 

I even learned how to do cum-control in order to last longer (those daily cardios in the gym helps too. Actually each day with J. is always like working out twice if you know what I mean😉 ).

 

My efforts paid off. Since I'm someone who feeds off greatly on his partner's pleasure, the more J. enjoys the sex, the more turned on I am

I LOVE it.

This is also my preferred modus operandi.

Bravo!!