Is it mind over matter?

[Olddaddy]

Strangely when I'm not in Thailand and back in my home country I'm lusting for Thai / Asian boys 

When I'm in Thailand I'm not horny 😳

Sounds weird I know , I have had 4 guys ,3 paid bar boys ,1 free ( tourist) the last week 

Last night I fell asleep at 8pm , I wasn't in the mood and that's the problem , I felt guilty ,I'm only here for a few more weeks so need to fuck more ,or in my case get fucked more !! 🍑

Seems to be every second day now for me  ,but for some guys on here it's 2 boys a day !😮

I bought a bottle of Zinc and have taking 6 tablets a day still hadn't worked 😁

But today I will see what happens 😉

 

 

 

 

 

[vinapu]

41 minutes ago, Olddaddy said:

 

I bought a bottle of Zinc and have taking 6 tablets a day still hadn't worked 😁

 

it's that zinc which makes you celibate, drop it and start drinking to regain your horniness

[reader]

Think I recall that you have already experimented with testosterone and that didn’t help. Perhaps it’s because you’re confronted with so many choices it’s a case of sensory overload.

Before you turn in your wings and default to non-sexual future, ask yourself why you keep returning to Thailand. If it’s sexual adventures then you might try hiring a guy to help you gently through any adversity that seem to get in your way of fulfillment.

[Verchiele]

Human mind is a funny thing. Imagine you are at a party that you have been so looking forward to, then the host said to you: “You must have fun!” And evey 5 minutes, you must laugh. Same thing with sleeping. If you tell yourself I must sleep… the harder it becomes to sleep…. . Human mind doesn’t function this way.

I think maybe its the performance anxiety. Why dont you just really take it easy - horny or not - see what happens. The reason you are in Thailand is just to enjoy yourself, at your own pace, at your own time, no need to force anything to make it “worthwhile”. Yes, its counterintuitive- but sometimes we just need to get out of our way.

[floridarob]

21 minutes ago, reader said:

Think I recall that you have already experimented with testosterone and that didn’t help. Perhaps it’s because you’re confronted with so many choices it’s a case of sensory overload.

This happens to me, when there's too many choices....I prefer a  bar/club  where it's clear the ONE that I want, less stress, lol

[Verchiele]

13 minutes ago, floridarob said:

This happens to me, when there's too many choices....I prefer a  bar/club  where it's clear the ONE that I want, less stress, lol

I have not arrived in Bangkok and I am already overwhelmed with the choices from the massage line. After sometime, the faces start to look more or less the same, and the daily bombardment of ads/promotion is making things less exciting lol. 

[vinapu]

1 hour ago, Verchiele said:

Why dont you just really take it easy - horny or not - see what happens. The reason you are in Thailand is just to enjoy yourself, at your own pace, at your own time, no need to force anything to make it “worthwhile”. 

+1

my way exactly. take a boy, treat him with meal or drink perhaps and in the room take it slowly seeing how situation develops. And it develops, rest assured

[vinapu]

1 hour ago, Verchiele said:

I have not arrived in Bangkok and I am already overwhelmed with the choices from the massage line. After sometime, the faces start to look more or less the same, and the daily bombardment of ads/promotion is making things less exciting lol. 

then don't force yourself to look at every picture because you may saturate yourself before you even get that stamp in passport.

Mitigate your expectancies in respect of boys you see in those ads. When you contact spa  boy A won't be available that day, boy B went home and will return day after you depart from Bangkok, boy C is always arriving at work at 7 pm and you want massage at 2 etc. Then you settle for boy D who may or may not look exactly like in those pics - not necessarily bad thing as quite often they look better.

 

[a-447]

I think it was during Songkran 2 years ago that I suffered a medical incident and had to take myself to hospital.

I had an over - filled bladder which had to be drained, add I could not piss at all. The doctor told me I had an enlarged prostate and gave me some tablets called Tamsulosin

They solved the problem but had 2 unfortunate side-effects; I stopped feeling horny and although I could orgasm, it was nowhere near as intense add before. Also, often I didn't produce any cum at all. 

I've been a hugely horny bastard all of my life - I put that down to my upbringing in Japan - and to suddenly lack the desire was a real shock. (Although to be honest, at times I thought it was a relief from being constantly at the beck and call of my cock; now I could get on and do other things instead of thinking about sex.)

So I did what guys love to do  - watch some of my favourite Asian porn. And that solved the problem. I guess it's like the bar guys who watch porn to get hard before the show, or some of my offs who watch it while we're having sex. (I don't have a problem with that).

While I'm on holiday I try to stick to my twice a day sex routine - the opportunity is too good to waste. (I have less sex when I'm home). If I find I'm a little tired late at night, I'll just look at some of my favourite pics, get hard and then take it from there. 

As I've become accustomed to Tamsulosin my libido has returned and I'm now horny as ever. I still enjoy porn but not just to get horny.

 

 

[Londoner]

i was offered drugs for an enlarged prostate which was having a disastrous effect on my sleep patterns. However, I checked carefully on the side effects and loss of libido was chief among them.

Accordingly, I put up with  the problem. At my age, I've not many years of sexual adventuring left and I'll be d****d if I do anything to spoil the last hurrah.

A word of encouragement to a-447; the symptoms subsequently suddenly disappeared for no apparent reason. Someone up there loves me!

By the way, like others, my libido is also at its  most active, demanding and urgent when I am far away from  the source of release. This is, as those raised on  Evangelical and Fundamentalist readings of the Old Testament will confirm, the result of Original Sin. Look it up.

[Keithambrose]

37 minutes ago, Londoner said:

i was offered drugs for an enlarged prostate which was having a disastrous effect on my sleep patterns. However, I checked carefully on the side effects and loss of libido was chief among them.

Accordingly, I put up with  the problem. At my age, I've not many years of sexual adventuring left and I'll be d****d if I do anything to spoil the last hurrah.

A word of encouragement to a-447; the symptoms subsequently suddenly disappeared for no apparent reason. Someone up there loves me!

By the way, like others, my libido is also at its  most active, demanding and urgent when I am far away from  the source of release. This is, as those raised on  Evangelical and Fundamentalist readings of the Old Testament will confirm, the result of Original Sin. Look it up.

Original Sin seems to be blamed for many things!

[Shonen]

I have orgasm almost everyday when im away from Thailand, usually watching porn.

But in Thailand I have one maybe once every ten days. I like to stay horny when I’m there and I have performance anxiety so I usually will screw a guy but not come because it takes too long.

 

i think watching porn has made sex much more difficult for me. I like to edge watching it and it’s so hard to actually orgasm for me. Although I’d like to come, it’s fun going a long time. Usually the boys get impatient though.

[kokopelli3]

Why not try Viagra/Kamagra or Cialis to bring back your libido?

 

[Olddaddy]

1 hour ago, kokopelli3 said:

Why not try Viagra/Kamagra or Cialis to bring back your libido?

 

Does it ?

[Londoner]

I'm no doctor but those drugs, as I understand it, only affect performance, not desire.

[Keithambrose]

8 hours ago, Londoner said:

I'm no doctor but those drugs, as I understand it, only affect performance, not desire.

The blurb says that the pills only prolong your stimulation. They don't bring it on! You have to do that yourself!

[reader]

4 hours ago, Keithambrose said:

The blurb says that the pills only prolong your stimulation. They don't bring it on! You have to do that yourself!

Or ask someone else for assistance in the matter. 😊

[kokopelli3]

14 hours ago, Olddaddy said:

Does it ?

Only you can answer that by trying it. I have a friend who is on three meds for prostate problems including Flomax/Tamsulosin and with the addition of Cialis and has good/uplifting  results.

[emiel1981]

On 10/21/2024 at 6:23 AM, Olddaddy said:

Last night I fell asleep at 8pm , I wasn't in the mood and that's the problem , I felt guilty ,I'm only here for a few more weeks so need to fuck more ,or in my case get fucked more !! 🍑

Seems to be every second day now for me  ,but for some guys on here it's 2 boys a day !😮

😉

Remember, you're on holiday so you should do what you feel for. Don't live by the idea in Thailand you need to have sex with a boy everyday. Of course for many of us Thailand is the place where more sex happens than probably at home. But still there should be no "obligation" to anything in your mind. 

While some in this forum will find it a day wasted when not having a boy, I think there is absolutely no need to do it every day. You should do it whenever you feel like it.

For me, the first few days in Thailand I have boys every day. But after that, it changed to maybe every other day. 

What is this obsession with "need to be horny and have sex everyday"? Off course pills and other stuff are good for when you really have libido problems. But not for when sometimes there is a day you don't feel horny. I think it's more natural to sometimes not be horny and don't wanna have sex than be horny and have sex multiple times a day, everyday. 

While on the other hand there is absolutely nothing wrong with our forum members who do have multiple boys each day in Thailand during their whole stay. But just wanna say there is nothing wrong if you don't. 

[Olddaddy]

Yes I had 2 boys on Saturday,then 1 on Sunday,none since 

[bkkmfj2648]

39 minutes ago, emiel1981 said:

While some in this forum will find it a day wasted when not having a boy, I think there is absolutely no need to do it every day. You should do it whenever you feel like it.

I think that this forum peer pressure for us to have sex everyday, for who are here, who are doing trip reports - is that said forum members who are home or not in Thailand - want to live vicariously through our in-Thailand adventures - and therefore their @home (not in Thailand) desire is to influence our in-Thailand trip to post more about 1 or more encounters (offs) each day to satisfy their need/frustration for not being in-Thailand right now.

Thoughts ?

[Keithambrose]

3 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

I think that this forum peer pressure for us to have sex everyday, for who are here, who are doing trip reports - is that said forum members who are home or not in Thailand - want to live vicariously through our in-Thailand adventures - and therefore their @home (not in Thailand) desire is to influence our in-Thailand trip to post more about 1 or more encounters (offs) each day to satisfy their need/frustration for not being in-Thailand right now.

Thoughts ?

I entirely agree. Trip reports setting out sex 3 times a day, are bound to induce envy etc.  Perhaps they are not always completely accurate? As an older top, it would be miraculous  if I could cum twice every day, and I don't expect to. Or try to! If you just want sex once a week, fine, and enjoy the  rest of the time. You can always have a massage, admire the masseur, and get the masseur to cum, much less effort, and quite tasty!

[Olddaddy]

Yes I love the Thai blind massage in the Jomtien complex 

I have been feeling guilty, I just can't get fucked two or three times a day every day 

[vinapu]

4 hours ago, emiel1981 said:

Remember, you're on holiday so you should do what you feel for.  there should be no "obligation" to anything in your mind. 

 

My vacation attitude exactly , that's the difference between vacation and real life and why we need a break from time to time .It's after all why we see " breakfast all day"  plastered in many restaurants 

5 hours ago, emiel1981 said:

 

While some in this forum will find it a day wasted when not having a boy

that will be me. Although men is much preferable to a boy . It comes from good heart , it's my way of reducing unemployment and spreading world's wealth more evenly.

[vinapu]

4 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

I think that this forum peer pressure for us to have sex everyday, for who are here, who are doing trip reports

perhaps that pressure comes from reading too much from those trip reports. I'd not blame reporters for that.