Guest fountainhall Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Flying to Hong Kong this afternoon, I started to wonder if other posters have experienced problems when they take their Thai bfs with them on overseas holidays. I am thinking not of cultural differences as much as the looks you and your partner might sometimes attract, especially if there is a large age difference. Not to beat about the bush: older white guy, younger Asian - no doubt, dirty old man with prostitute. I have always had younger partners; yet, I guess it was only about 8 years ago that I first became aware of the age issue. Mostly, my bfs were thrilled to be travelling and too busy looking at new sights and enjoying new experiences to notice what other people might be doing. But in my fourth year of a relationship with a Taiwanese, and after trips to Japan for our first anniversary and another to Paris, we spent 10 days ‘doing’ Italy from Rome up to Venice. I adore Italy and have had the wonderful fortune to have visited many times. I so looked forward to sharing my enthusiasms with the man Ioved. At breakfast in our relatively modest hotel in Venice, I could tell he was uncomfortable but wouldn’t tell me what was bugging him. It was only when we got back to the room that he asked why I had not noticed so many people looking at us. The fact was, I hadn’t noticed them. For whatever reason, he had, and said he knew what they were all thinking. I was so surprised, the more so in view of our time together in Hong Kong and our various holidays. Thereafter, he spent much more time looking at other people and feeling uncomfortable. I have no doubt that this was one of the factors which eventually helped bring the relationship to an end. I wonder if young Thai guys sometimes feel the same way when travelling with their older bfs? Quote
Bob Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 I've traveled with the bf to Singpore, Luang Prabang, Kunming, and Kuala Lumpur and I don't remember any momentary incident where anybody even looked funny at us. And, yea, hate to admit it but I'm 30 years older than the young lad (he's 32). The bf has never expressed any concerns to me about it before and he's not shy at all about telling me if something's bothering him. My guess is that one might see some funny looks in the west but I'm not even sure about that. The only time I can really recall getting some very weird/bad looks (which caused us to leave immediately as I knew what was coming) was in an establishment in Thailand which had too many drunk Russians in it. Quote
lexusgs Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 I have been with my Thai guy for around 18 months now. He was asked a couple of questions at Immigration in Hong Kong in July but no problem. He joined me in Nigeria in March this year for work for two months. No problems there in fact the locals loved him . Right now he's in Dubai with me for work again and only one awkward moment a few days ago when we were in gym. I thought it was going to be a problem when two Arab guys were staring. They actually just wanted some fun Quote
