Could you accept any aspect of working in a gogo bar

[Guest]

Assuming you had the figure, could you be a gogo dancer job?

 

Standing on stage in my swimwear -no problem. That part's just the same as being at the beach. Pay 5x my salary & it might be an interesting option even now.

 

The part I couldn't accept is getting intimate with hairy overweight people twice my age.... No way.

[KhorTose]

Assuming you had the figure, could you be a gogo dancer job?

Standing on stage in my swimwear -no problem. That part's just the same as being at the beach. Pay 5x my salary & it might be an interesting option even now.

The part I couldn't accept is getting intimate with hairy overweight people twice my age.... No way.

Go without things you would like to own and things you would like to buy (like food) long enough and then tell me that overweight hairy guy is really that ugly.

[Guest jomtien]

Go without things you would like to own and things you would like to buy (like food) long enough and then tell me that overweight hairy guy is really that ugly.

 

 

Both my parents, and millions of others during the depression, went without things they would like to have....including food.....and they never found overweight hairy guys do-able.

[Guest]

Both persuasive arguments.

 

Equally, during the depression, I'm sure there were many other people working as prostitutes. Incidentally, in my eyes they had/have every right to do so.

[Guest gay_grampa]

 

The part I couldn't accept is getting intimate with hairy overweight people twice my age.... No way.

 

Humans don't live that long

[Guest]

Humans don't live that long

 

Oh they do..... I only passed 50% of the AVERAGE UK life expectancy 3 years ago.

[Guest lvdkeyes]

When I was young and thin and jobless I decided that the only way I could survive was to hustle. I went to a well known street corner and tried my hand at it. I couldn't bring myself to go with unappealing guys and I couldn't bring myself to ask for money from the appealing ones I did go with. Thus ended my career.

[Guest xiandarkthorne]

Assuming you had the figure, could you be a gogo dancer job? Standing on stage in my swimwear -no problem. That part's just the same as being at the beach. Pay 5x my salary & it might be an interesting option even now. The part I couldn't accept is getting intimate with hairy overweight people twice my age.... No way.

 

As a young man, I had to turn a few tricks to survive, too. The humiliation of offering myself like a piece of unwanted meat was worse than the 'getting intimate with people I found less-than-desirable' - but I lived with it and I lived through it as there was simply no other way of raising the money I needed.

 

As a true Baba, whenever I had to go with one of these people, I simply lay back and thought of England as, so I have heard, some people were advised to do in the event of rape.

 

Xian

 

PS

The Babas and Nyonyas were known as 'the Queen's Chinese'.

[Guest RichLB]

How odd I must be compared to most posters here. While I would not relish being forced to have sex with anyone I found distateful, as I understand the conditions confronting the guys who work the bars, no force is involved. I've been told, and see no reason to disbelieve it, that the guys are not obligated to go off with anyone they choose not to. I suppose for those guys who have very limited tastes in who they find acceptable, this would result in a very short career. But, for those of us with cosmopolitan sexual tastes, being sexually desired and sought after has an appeal.

 

In my youth, I knew several guys who worked the street and asked them how they were able to do that. The successful ones told he they had developed the ability to find something attractive about even the most physically unappealing customer. If I worked in a gogo bar, hopefully I would develop that skill, too.

 

I also remember, during the days when i thought of myself as hot stuff, engaging and enjoying occasional bouts of "courtesy sex." There was something oddly fulfilling about going home with someone whose physical appearance was below my usual "standard." The afterglow of knowing I had gifted that person with a sexual experience he was unlikely to have had in years made me feel good.

 

Even now, I find many of my older farang friends are just downright nice guys. I suspect that if I worked in a gogo bar, I would enjoy a sexual experience with some of them - not because they are physically studs, but because I would enjoy the shared intimacy.

 

So, for me, I think I would not find working in a gogo bar unpleasant.

[Guest fountainhall]

I doubt if I could have done it. Certainly there would have been guys I probably would have paid to take me out. But even if I had had to scrounge for a living, I think being a gogo boy would have been near the end of a not very long list.

[Guest luvthai]

As long as I had control over who I sat with talked to and went off with and what I did on the bed.

I hate it when the boys have no say in how they are made to act.

[Gaybutton]

I hate it when the boys have no say in how they are made to act.

But when would that actually occur? I know of no bars that try to force boys to go off with a farang if they choose not to. Many farang make clear to the boy what they want before taking him off. The boy can either accept or reject what the farang wants to do. If nothing was made clear in advance, once the boy is in the farang's room, he still can refuse and just leave if it comes to that.

 

I also know of no bars that penalize the boys if they turn down an off or walk out on the customer if they don't want to do whatever it was the customer wanted to do.

 

When it comes to the fuck shows or similar presentations, the boys participate voluntarily. They're normally paid more for their participation, but nobody is forcing them to be part of those shows.

[Guest chiangmaidude]

Assuming you had the figure, could you be a gogo dancer job?

 

Standing on stage in my swimwear -no problem. That part's just the same as being at the beach. Pay 5x my salary & it might be an interesting option even now.

 

The part I couldn't accept is getting intimate with hairy overweight people twice my age.... No way.

I did some gogo and street hustling in my 20s, out of economic necessity. Like one of the posters mentioned above, I would look for something about the man that helped me connect with him as one vulnerable human being to another. And I would remind myself that it was likely some very simple twists of fate that led these men to purchase intimacy...twists that anyone might experience. I would humanize them, rather than objectify them - and by doing so I could offer genuine caring in the form of sexual activity.

 

The OP sounds very young...I say this because I think only a young person would speak so publicly and insensitively regarding a group of people that he doesn't find attractive. I'll point out to him that many people marry or find themselves after many years married to old, hairy, overweight people - with whom they have satisfying and rewarding sex - because for many people, sex is about much more than just gratifying one's own selfish mental preferences. For many people, sex is about comforting, satisfying, and caring for one's partner (even nameless partners just met)...no matter what age or type of body their partner may find themselves appearing in during this lifetime. No one chooses their body - this is something that many Thai intimacy workers understand very well, and for me this is what makes so many of them attractive. It's a very mature and compassionate understanding of sex, not yet corrupted by media standards of attractiveness.

[Guest]

The OP sounds very young...I say this because I think only a young person would speak so publicly and insensitively regarding a group of people that he doesn't find attractive. I'll point out to him that many people marry or find themselves after many years married to old, hairy, overweight people - with whom they have satisfying and rewarding sex - because for many people, sex is about much more than just gratifying one's own selfish mental preferences.

I am middle aged. To a young guy I may appear as relatively old, fat & hairy & can take that description without any need for counselling. Equally, there's no harm in self depreciation.

 

Selfish mental preferences are an interesting topic. For example, in most countries straight people like slim women, but in some places the opposite is true & the women deliberately fatten themselves up.

Now I just have a selfish mental preference for slim Asians & wouldn't really consider going to bed with a near clone of myself.

 

This "selfish mental preference" evidently creates a market for people who are prepared to pay for sex with younger fitter guys. So why not question how it might be for them to earn a living "entertaining" people like me?

[Guest TOQ]

I hustled a little bit when I was in my late teens and early twenties. Desperation and hunger had nothing to do with it.. I was a slut and loved it.. Simple as that :)

[Guest globalwanderer]

If i was young and thinner and the economics were right yes. If I could earn a weeks money for a short time with GB then....

 

oh wait a minute

[Gaybutton]

oh wait a minute

You better plan on waiting a lot longer than that . . .

 

When I was young I tried hustling too. Nobody was interested.

[Guest beachlover]

Wow... Surprising to see how many members hustled in their youth here. Or maybe not surprising. I don't know. Anyway, nice that you are honest.

 

I always wondered what it would be like to be a gogoboy... I don't think I could sleep with someone I wasn't attracted to, but then I've never been in a situation where I needed or wanted (for the money) to.

[Guest GaySacGuy]

Wow... Surprising to see how many members hustled in their youth here. Or maybe not surprising. I don't know. Anyway, nice that you are honest.

 

I always wondered what it would be like to be a gogoboy... I don't think I could sleep with someone I wasn't attracted to, but then I've never been in a situation where I needed or wanted (for the money) to.

 

I don't think many of us really know what we are capable of if put in a corner. I would think that there are a lot worse things for a young Thai than sleeping with someone they weren't attracted to. It is too bad that that is the case, but on the other side, there are some of these guys who are having a good time while looking for a sugardaddy!

[Guest beachlover]

That's true... There's lots of things we would do if cornered.

 

Yep, I can imagine it being tempting to young guys with no money or means. I know when I hankered after cash when I was making little money in my teens.