Spies Among Us

[TotallyOz]

Be careful what you do as most of us live in small cities and even if we live in larger ones, the scene is still small.

 

I remember years ago going with my ex to a few bars and he wanted to drink with his friends while I went to a few gogo's. I did not want to take someone back to my place so I got a short time room over the bar. I took 3-4 boys up for a little fun. I paid the bar and left and walked back to the ex and he said, "did you have fun with the boys you took for short time?" I said yes. I asked how he knew. He said, "there is nothing you can do in Pattaya that I don't know about." I laughed and knew he was right.

 

Yesterday the current Boyfriend and I were talking and I was teasing him that I had taken a few ladies and ladyboys over the weekend to my place (he was home for the weekend). He laughed. I inquired why he laughed as he knows I would never bring anyone to my apartment and I am not that into ladies. He said, "you went out 2 times on Saturday and 3 times on Sunday and you were out alone and came back alone and no one visited you." I said, how do you know. He said that he was friends with the security (one was once a doorman at Kaos). I laughed and remember back to my first boyfriend in Thailand and the short time story.

 

Yes, we live in a small place but the boys talk about us as much as we talk about them. Be careful what you do if you are trying to hide something. Me, I have never once lied to the boyfriend and he knows I only have eyes for him (with an occasional short time BJ).

[Gaybutton]

I'm surprised you never came to that realization before. These boys have such an incredible grapevine that the CIA would do well to take lessons from them. They know everything. It would come as no surprise at all if every boy who knows you also knows exactly where you are and who you are with at this very moment, and if you happen to be having a turd right now I wouldn't be surprised if they know that too.

 

You must have seen that so many boys are on their phones almost all the time. If you overhear, even though you don't understand much of what they are saying, I'll bet you've noticed them saying the word "farang" quite often. I'm convinced that a significant portion of those conversations is information trading.

 

I don't think anything is wrong with it. It's just something to be aware of and I find it amusing. A lot of those boys are just as much gossip queens as so many farang are.

[Guest Patexpat]

indeed yes - when my then bf was a monk in Buriram, I received a phone call late one night from him 'why you go to bar 'x' in Jomtien tonight then go boys town?'

 

Yup, you can't make a move .....

[Guest lvdkeyes]

And why is it that when a farang tells another his bf is screwing around he often is not believed?

[Guest HeyGay]

He is not silly of course he don

[ChristianPFC]

Yes, the gay scene is small. I prepared my last holiday on gayromeo and after one night in Silom I got two messages from members who recognized me, but I didn't see them despite the fact that I'm looking for people I know when I'm there. Another friend told me later that he saw me with someone and that he was with someone as well.

 

When I check my Thai friends' friends on facebook, I sometimes recognise someone I saw in DJ or on gayromeo. The other way round as well: in DJ I see someone I didn't met before but I saw his profile on facebook or gayromeo.

[Guest]

And why is it that when a farang tells another his bf is screwing around he often is not believed?

This I understand. When you care for someone, you don't want to think about this lying to you. It is often easier to hide from the truth than it is to face it.

 

He is not silly of course he don't want another guy to mussel in on his Big Spending Punter, he is just protecting his interests, as you would put a lock on your door ,if you don't want a thief to steal your crown jewels.?

I like the lock analogy.

 

When I check my Thai friends' friends on facebook, I sometimes recognise someone I saw in DJ or on gayromeo. The other way round as well: in DJ I see someone I didn't met before but I saw his profile on facebook or gayromeo.

You must be a busy man Christian.

[Guest lvdkeyes]

This I understand. When you care for someone, you don't want to think about this lying to you. It is often easier to hide from the truth than it is to face it.

Ah!, But the person you care about is not the person you think they are if they are lying to you and screwing around behind your back. Hiding from the truth will only come back to bite you in the ass later. When someone lies to you they are, in reality, telling you that you are stupid and will believe anything. That shows little or no respect. Honesty and respect are imperative for a relationship to really work.

[Gaybutton]

Hiding from the truth will only come back to bite you in the ass later.

I agree. It bit me! I am among those who absolutely refused to be convinced by what my friends were seeing with their own eyes. I never thought my friends were lying. I convinced myself that they were misinterpreting what they saw. I learned the hard way, as usual for me. But I did learn.