Guest HeyGay Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 When I read on these web sites "My Boyfriend" what do they mean. I would have thought a Guy who has constantly got his hand out for money for doing very little is a sponger no more that a kept Escort. I personally have been keeping Boys for years and spoiling them as I would do my son no doubt, and asked for very little in return apart from sex when I want it. I have also found over the years the more you spoil them and the more money you give them the less they respect you, they just suck up to you more if you continue to had out cash. So to find the happy medium I now make sure my boy special goes to college does his chores and keeps his room clean if he does not stay in my bed as the latest one does. It works you can tell you are getting more respect and if they want money keep it to Thai minimums not farangs if they want more they work for it for you. The main thing is when they are good let them know about it and when there bad fine them in some way they understand that more so than any way we could punish them. I works for me very well what about you? Quote
Guest laurence Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 When I read on these web sites "My Boyfriend" what do they mean. My Boyfriend means whatever the farang wants it to mean. For me it means I would not come to Thailand if not for him. Quote
Guest RichLB Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 I agree that a "boyfriend" is whatever you define it to mean. Frankly, I would not call someone who was being paid for delivered labor a boyfriend, but that's just me. My take is that one should contribute to another's welfare simply for selfish reasons - namely because it makes you feel good to do so. Such offerings are not salaries, they are gifts. When it no longer generates warm feelings in you to give your partner anything, it's time to stop doing so. If it makes you warm and fuzzy, then keep doing it. It's really not complicated once you take it out of the realm of "payment for services". Quote
Guest lvdkeyes Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 For me a boyfriend is someone with whom you share mutual love and respect. With love and respect everything else just falls into place. Money is not even in the equation. Quote
Guest thaiworthy Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 Boyfriends are not spoiled children in a truly loving relationship. There is no need to reward or punish them, just communicate as best you can. The only way to gain respect from a Thai boy is to treat him as you would wish to be treated. Quote
Guest HeyGay Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 Boyfriends are not spoiled children in a truly loving relationship. There is no need to reward or punish them, just communicate as best you can. The only way to gain respect from a Thai boy is to treat him as you would wish to be treated. Yes your right thaiworthy, but how can it be love if your having to pay for there affections, if as you say he is earning his own living or your sending him to College to learn a trade and your paying his expenses, fair enough, I’m talking about how can a guy love you, if you keep giving him money, just for being in attendance and telling you how good a man you are, that is not a boyfriend, its a paid companion, I can assure you, he would be gone as soon as you stop paying, I don't call that a boyfriend. a true boyfriend would not be bothered how much money you had or did not have. don't you think? Quote
Guest xiandarkthorne Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 ...a true boyfriend would not be bothered how much money you had or did not have. Don't you think? A true boyfriend is whatever you pay him to be truly... Quote
Guest laurence Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 The main thing is when they are good let them know about it and when there bad fine them in some way they understand that more so than any way we could punish them. I works for me very well what about you? Yes, that is what the rolled up newspaper is for, "Bad Dog", whack, whack. Quote
Guest laurence Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 I can assure you, he would be gone as soon as you stop paying, I don't call that a boyfriend. a true boyfriend would not be bothered how much money you had or did not have. don't you think? You mean like a wife? For sickness and in health, for richer or poorer and all the rest? Quote
Guest kotter Posted June 28, 2009 Posted June 28, 2009 You mean like a wife? For sickness and in health, for richer or poorer and all the rest? I heard a Thai person in charge of quite a lot of employees, in the entertainment local industry, say they are all like "Naughty Children" and are treated as such. Go figure!!!!. Quote
Guest laurence Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 . a true boyfriend would not be bothered how much money you had or did not have. don't you think? Good for you HeyGay! Now what is your point? I think you received enough answers to your post to satisfy yourself that you, and only you, know the true meaning of a boyfriend and you, and only you, know how to "manage" him. Lucky you. Quote
Guest Posted June 29, 2009 Posted June 29, 2009 A paid "boyfriend" who offers a combination if friendship, sex & possibly a few other odd jobs in return for money is not a sponger in my view. The person handing out the money is making a choice to do that & must evidently think that is worthwhile expenditure. No the real spongers are the people in social market economies who choose to be unemployed & live off the unwilling taxpayer. Many of these spongers breed at an irresponsible rate, leaving even more mouths for the poor taxpayer to feed. Now that's sponging. Until very recently, there were jobs in the UK for everyone who wanted to work & my comments are aimed at people who chose to be unemployed at that time, not those who cannot find a job at present. There's nothing wrong with a young guy in Thailand being supported by a wealthy older person, who chooses to do that. Even better if the young guy is trying to get an education, or doing something else constructive with his spare time. Quote
PattayaMale Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 I never gave this subject much thought, but after reading other posts, I like RichLB's reply. Very good Quote
Guest Posted July 2, 2009 Posted July 2, 2009 I use the term BF only for one guy who has been with me for many years. I really only view him as a BF as I know he loves me for me and not my money. hehe I actually think the history we have together and our collective experiences help me to define the term for him. I have lived with many other guys over the years but I often term them as Boy Special. I sometimes use the term interchangeably as often many don't know the later term. It is your life, call your special guy whatever you so desire. We all know that we have more money than most Thai's we would date. It is similar throughout the world in gay and straight culture. I wonder what the Kings of England called their wives who were prearranged based on alliances? Does it demean their position or title? Do not men and women the world over do the same? If a husband cheats on his wife does that make her less of a wife or unable to use the term? A word is only there to help others understand. Your life. Your term. Quote
