Guest xiandarkthorne Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 If only there'd had a poll like this for me to see back when I first came to LOS...*sigh Xian PS Feel free to post where you think a newbie SHOULD look for true love in LOS. Quote
Guest thaiworthy Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 I don't like the choices. I picked "disco" only because I don't go to discos. Love is where you find it, (including discos). But there wasn't a choice for that. I probably shouldn't have voted. Quote
Gaybutton Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 Love is where you find it I'm with Thaiworthy on this one. I don't think you're doing yourself any favors by singling out places not to look. Actually, I don't think you should look for love at all. It's when you're not looking that you're most likely to find it. I still prefer the safe way. I've posted this several times before, but I still believe it: Richard Burk, from the Amor Restaurant, says, "If you want love in Thailand, rent it." I do usually avoid the massage parlors, but that's only because some of those boys just rub me the wrong way . . . Quote
Guest Oogleman Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 You dont look for love. It comes along and gets you when its ready. When you least expect it usually. Quote
KhorTose Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 You dont look for love. It comes along and gets you when its ready. When you least expect it usually. I think it would be a lot easier for love to find you if you speak the language of the country where you are looking. Quote
Guest GaySacGuy Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 I would say that looking for love in Thailand probably will leave you disappointed...but if love falls in your lap, then pick up the love and run with it!! Quote
Guest kotter Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 G/B Not sure what to make of your reply. To say the least it sounds ambigious. I thought that the selection, of where the majority of punters go would be to those places to search for "love".( Particuarly for those that do not live here on a long term basis). So by selecting "all' of the answers covers a multitude of sins. I am assuming from the Richard Burke's comment he has never found any form of love and doesnt intend to. Or he hasnt given out the right vibes in the first place. Could this be applied to you from your comments. Are you still searching? Or you have the love of your life alongside you!!! I am also assuming that your comment on massage parlours was meant tongue in cheek when you suggest that the massage boys 'Rub' you the wrong way!!!!!!!!!!!! Quote
Gaybutton Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Not sure what to make of your reply. I am also assuming that your comment on massage parlours was meant tongue in cheek when you suggest that the massage boys 'Rub' you the wrong way!!!!!!!!!!!! That's ok. I'm not sure what to make of it either. Congratulations, you're assumption is absolutely right. Apparently you're the first one to figure out that I was joking. Pun intended. I was hoping for some moans on that one, but I didn't get any. Back to my reply. If you're talking about enjoying those 'sins,' and nothing more than that, then you don't have a problem. The problem is when an unsuspecting farang comes here, finds the boy of his dreams in the bars, falls in love with him, and convinces himself that the boy has also fallen madly in love with him, that's where the trouble starts. I'm not saying true love can't happen. Sometimes it does happen. I don't deny that, but it's definitely a risk. That's why I said the safe way. It does happen, but if you had seen and heard as many horror stories as I have, then you would know what I'm talking about. I think a holiday maker coming to Thailand for a couple weeks, and is also looking to fall in love with one of the boys, will get his wish. But you know the old saying - 'Be careful what you wish for. It might come true.' I'm not much for old sayings and clichés, but I do agree with that one. Certainly he will find love if that's what he's looking for. That's not the problem. The trouble is that in most cases that love is really infatuation and in most cases it's one-sided. Guess whose side. Many of these boys are experts at making a farang feel as if he has found true love, but what they're really after is a sugar-daddy, often multiple sugar-daddies who have no idea that the boy has racked up several, and they'll take all the sugar they can get until they bleed you white. As for Richard Burk's love life, I don't know and I wouldn't say even if I did know. As for my own, at present I am butterflying and enjoying the hell out of it. I do have a few on my top five list, but I'm not looking for anything permanent. But if I do find the one I think is just perfect for me, at least I'll have quite a bit of experience in Thailand behind me and I'm in a much better position than the average holiday maker to know what I'm doing and what I'm getting myself into. I'm sorry if I sound cynical, but that's the reality of what goes on here in a great many cases. One of my favorite phrases I hear all too often from farang is, "Not this boy. He's different." In short, if you're looking for love, when you think you've found it be realistic. Take off the rose-colored glasses, shed yourself of naivety, and think with your head instead of your crotch. When I (and Richard Burk) say, "If you want love in Thailand, rent it," in most cases that's the safe way and also the smart way. Very few farang, even the ones who actually did find true love, managed to do so without being burned at least once or twice along the way. Enjoy your time with the young man, help him out financially before you leave, and leave it at that when the time comes for you to return home. Unfortunately, there are an awful lot of people who now wish they had listened to that advice. Quote
Guest lvdkeyes Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Congratulations, you're assumption is absolutely right. Apparently you're the first one to figure out that I was joking. Pun intended. I was hoping for some moans on that one, but I didn't get any. I got it last night, it was so obvious that the pun was intended that I found no need to comment on it. Quote
Guest Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 It all depends on where you look and what you are looking for. If you are looking in most of the places mentioned, you are just as likely to find love as you will a virgin. Feel free to believe that you have found one but the actual reality is that if you are looking in a place that money is being exchanged, it is not likely to happen. It does happen on RARE occasion. When a relationship starts with money, it will most likely always be about money. If you are OK with this and you go into this with full knowledge, you can have a wonderful experience. Just don't be fooled with the word "love". It is used too much and not often the real thing. Quote
Guest jomtien Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Just don't be fooled with the word "love". It is used to much and not often the real thing. Does this mean you don't really love me? Quote
Gaybutton Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 I got it last night Then I stand corrected. You were the first . . . Quote
PattayaMale Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 "As for my own, at present I am butterflying and enjoying the hell out of it. I do have a few on my top five list, but I'm not looking for anything permanent. But if I do find the one I think is just perfect for me, at least I'll have quite a bit of experience in Thailand behind me and I'm in a much better position than the average holiday maker to know what I'm doing and what I'm getting myself into."...........GB Be a good sport and post the pictures of your top 5. I wonder if they are also in Geezer's top 5............come to think of it, they might be in my top 5. Geezer, would you mind posting your top 5 also? Quote
Gaybutton Posted June 23, 2009 Posted June 23, 2009 Be a good sport and post the pictures of your top 5. Sorry, but no way. Quote
