Reflections on Ageing and Changing Desires

[vinapu]

5 hours ago, PeterRS said:

.... in the hope of resolving our differences.

sometimes it's impossible and it's better to learn to live with them.

I like my sister dearly but there's one issue we are fighting for last 55 years and we will never agree on it:

 where family friend Gene was standing in our kitchen when she told  our mother she is pregnant. ( She was 19 and unmarried at the time so it was kind of sensation) 

I swear and never yield she was standing by radio stand, my sisters claims she was by kitchen sink and is not planning to change that in this life and three next ones.

We once asked Gene to mediate  but she only made more mess claiming she was sitting on the sofa in living room so we agreed she simply lies and doesn't remember anything. So from grave disagreement, amicable agreement emerged and we could return to our dispute.  

[a-447]

10 hours ago, abidismaili said:

Because when you get older getting hard on command isn’t as easy. I do wonder however how they prepared their ass for bottoming. I tried it a few times and find it very painful. 

After being a top all my life I decided to become a bottom about a decade ago.

I did so not because I couldn't get it up, but because I had always thought I had been missing out on something - afterall, the guys I was fucking were obviously enjoying the experience. I wanted to know why.

I found the whole idea a little daunting, but took the advice of a friend on one of the forums and practised every day with a dildo, starting with a small one and then gradually increasing the size.

I had my first experience as a bottom in a sauna in Japan. I found the sensation weird, but in a good way.

On a subsequent trip to Thailand I find myself completely liberated when dealing with the guys. No more worrying if the guy would bottom for me - if he wouldn't, then I would. The will he/won't he dilemma disappeared and I could choose any guy I liked the look of.

I then took my ass up to Chiang Mai to test it out with the hung hunks at Adams Apple. It passed with flying colours - I was able to "accommodate" some very large appendages. Now, if I'm going to bottom, I want a big cock to service me.

And of course, the more I bottomed the easier it was to take a cock without any pain. But if I go without bottoming for any significant period of time, it can be a little painful for the first few times until I get back into it. (Actually, until he gets back into it!)

Back in April I had to take myself to hospital in Bangkok and see a urologist, who diagnosed me with an enlarged prostate. He put me on a drug called tamsulosin. Suddenly I find myself waking up with a hard-on in the middle of the night. My erections now are stronger and last much longer. This comes as no surprise as the doctor told me that tadalafil - the ED drug - is also used in the treatment for an enlarged prostate.

Talk about killing 2 birds with 1 stone!

[floridarob]

27 minutes ago, a-447 said:

I was able to "accommodate" some very large appendages. Now, if I'm going to bottom, I want a big cock to service me.

Have you been to Brazil 😉

[abidismaili]

8 hours ago, PeterRS said:

I do not know - and am not asking - how old you are. But as you tell us you are not retired, I am a little surprised you find getting hard (or at least suggest it might become difficult to become hard) as you get older. Certainly this is true for some guys, especially those who might have medical issues. Since the brain plays a part in erections, I very occasionally used to find it hard (sic) to get hard. I once tried viagra and decided never to use it again. I found the blood pulsating in my temples very prominently and did not enjoy it. On the other hand, after a friend recommended cialis, I never had a problem. I use it rarely but whenever I do it works a treat - and goes on working for at least the 36 hours the makers claim. I have never felt a need to be a bottom and the guys I am with, including my partner, do not wish me to change from being a top.

I wasn’t talking about me. The other guy to which I replied wrote that he noticed most men transition from top to bottom when they get older. My reply is: yes because when you get older it’s harder to become hard on command. This is not a statement about me. And indeed I am still working. My retirement is far away. 

[Olddaddy]

Poppers are not very effective for me ,do you other bottoms use poppers?

[Olddaddy]

8 hours ago, vinapu said:

sometimes it's impossible and it's better to learn to live with them.

I like my sister dearly but there's one issue we are fighting for last 55 years and we will never agree on it:

 where family friend Gene was standing in our kitchen when she told  our mother she is pregnant. ( She was 19 and unmarried at the time so it was kind of sensation) 

I swear and never yield she was standing by radio stand, my sisters claims she was by kitchen sink and is not planning to change that in this life and three next ones.

We once asked Gene to mediate  but she only made more mess claiming she was sitting on the sofa in living room so we agreed she simply lies and doesn't remember anything. So from grave disagreement, amicable agreement emerged and we could return to our dispute.  

What country did this happen in?

[Travellerdave]

1 hour ago, Olddaddy said:

Poppers are not very effective for me ,do you other bottoms use poppers?

I am mostly bottom these days, although for 15 years of visiting gay Pattaya I was 95% a top.

being now of more of an advanced age I really only participate in sex during my regular boy orientated trips to Pty. This means that for the first encounters with top boys the problem is the pain when being penetrated, particularly by large cocks. Later after being stretched a few times the discomfort is not there to the same extent. Poppers are very useful before then during the “conditioning period”. I sniff before and whilst being ridden, ceasing only when the boy has cum. The mind wanders and I loose focus on the discomfort.

 

[a-447]

5 hours ago, Olddaddy said:

Poppers are not very effective for me ,do you other bottoms use poppers?

No.

I spoke to the bottom who performs in the fuck show at xboys in Pattaya. He was sitting outside having a cigarette at the time. I asked him how on earth he was able to take such a huge cock and he said "poppers."