Stole his heart....and his Gold!

[zombie]

 

A Thai man filed a complaint with the police in Samut Prakarn province near Bangkok yesterday after his boyfriend stole over 200,000 baht of gold accessories.

 

The victim, a 69 year old man named Songchai “Noobird” Maicharoen, allowed reporters from Channel 3 to visit his house to conduct an interview regarding the theft case. The house of the alleged thief’s boyfriend, a 28 year old man named Geng, is located only 50 metres away from Noobird’s home.

 

Noobird revealed that he and Geng had been in a relationship for about six months, and had no idea that Geng had a habit of stealing as he was introverted. On the day of the incident, Geng was at home alone because Noobird visited a neighbour. Upon returning home, he discovered that Geng was already gone, along with his valuable assets.

 

Noobird further disclosed that Geng knew where he kept all his gold accessories. The stolen items included three gold bracelets, one gold necklace, one gold ring, and a watch worth over 200,000 baht. Geng has not returned to his house and blocked Noobird’s phone and social media accounts.

 

 

Man is heartbroken after boyfriend steals over 200,000 baht of gold accessories | Thaiger (thethaiger.com)

[iendo]

2 hours ago, zombie said:

Geng had a habit of stealing as he was introverted.

Say what?

[khaolakguy]

10 hours ago, zombie said:

Noobird...had no idea that Geng had a habit of stealing as he was introverted.

So he didn't hear socially that Geng was a thief, unfortunately.

[Gaybutton]

12 hours ago, zombie said:

his boyfriend stole over 200,000 baht of gold accessories.

Why am I not surprised?

[vinapu]

3 hours ago, Gaybutton said:

Why am I not surprised?

I didn't know you know that Geng

[gayinpattaya]

1 hour ago, vinapu said:

I didn't know you know that Geng

I think I know that Geng! 

[reader]

Had no idea that introverts were prone to stealing gold.

[Gaybutton]

20 hours ago, vinapu said:

I didn't know you know that Geng

I wish I had 1 baht for every time I've heard similar stories over the years - farang losing fortunes to boys they trusted with their lives.  And straight men losing fortunes to girlfriends and even wives.  I love it every time I hear a farang say "Not this boy.  He's different."  Yeah, right . . .

 

Miller:  "You don't trust anyone, do you?"

Stavros: "That is why I have lived so long."

-  Miller (David Niven), Stavros (Anthony Quinn), 'The Guns of Navarone'

[Londoner]

Undoubtedly true...and I know a number of falang men who met the loves of their lives in Thailand  and thank God everyday for the blessings that followed. Some of them are members of this forum.

 

 

[vinapu]

2 hours ago, Londoner said:

Undoubtedly true...and I know a number of falang men who met the loves of their lives in Thailand  and thank God everyday for the blessings that followed. Some of them are members of this forum.

 

 

including you

[Londoner]

Yes. And I've also met three more in Pattaya with their LTRs, friends of P from his performing days. Two from the US, one from the UK. We may be a minority but we're real!

[reader]

14 hours ago, Gaybutton said:

Miller:  "You don't trust anyone, do you?"

Stavros: "That is why I have lived so long."

The answer is in not trusting everyone but be open to trusting some. Otherwise, like Stavros, you may indeed succeed in leading a very long but very lonely life.

[Gaybutton]

9 hours ago, reader said:

The answer is in not trusting everyone but be open to trusting some. Otherwise, like Stavros, you may indeed succeed in leading a very long but very lonely life.

I disagree unless you can give me a good reason why a Thai boyfriend, or anyone else for that matter, should have access to your money, gold accessories, or any other valuable temptations - and why protecting your assets means you may end up living a very lonely life. 

Do you have someone you trust so much that the possibility exists for something similar to what happened to the OP could happen to you?  Is that what it takes to avoid leading a lonely life?

[reader]

Dear Gaybutton,

I did not suggest that "a Thai boyfriend, or anyone else for that matter, should have access to your money, gold accessories, or any other valuable temptations."  You said that.

What I did say was that if we lead a life in fear of developing trusting relationships we risk leading a very lonely one.

Not every facet of friendship involves money or gold. I truly hope that you have some trusting relationships--ones that don't involve "valuable temptations".

If we believe that others desire our friendship only because they covet our possessions, we erect emotional barriers that get ever higher as we age.

I acknowledge that some some foreigners have fallen victim to scams like the individual described in the OP. But I also believe that they represent a small minority of those who come to Thailand and manage to enjoy what it offers., including healthy and rewarding relationships.

[Londoner]

Of course, some  falang visitors are easily seduced by their first encounters with beautiful Thai guys; I certainly was. And I've no doubt that some, overwhelmed  and desperate for a partner, speak too soon of "love."

Nevertheless, I'd suggest that most  of us who are now happily in such relationships don't come into this category. It's probable that more, like me, were old hands at the game before  meeting the right guy. And that the Thais, similarly, were not straight off an  Isaan farm but had some experience of that  "game."  Genuine relationships are less likely to develop after a night or two of unbridled passion than over a period of time. 

I can understand why some are cynical.  There are tourists who have been  taken for a ride and have ended -up disappointed. Perhaps many. Equally, there are Thais whose falang boyfriends have been only too happy to find a younger guy when it suits them, destroying their hopes for a secure future .

But I stand by my original post....and I'm echoing another forum member when I say this;  a genuine relationship, despite difference in age, culture , religion and race can endure and flourish over decades, and prove to be (and here I quote) one of the best things that have happened in that person's  life.

[Gaybutton]

13 hours ago, reader said:

What I did say was that if we lead a life in fear of developing trusting relationships we risk leading a very lonely one.

"Trust, but verify"

-  Ronald Reagan

 

What, in your opinion, constitutes a trusting relationship?  Just how far and to what extent are you willing to let that trust go?  I too believe in developing a trusting relationship, but I'm not going to be naive about it.  I've seen too many times when farang became totally comfortable with their relationship, completely trusted the boyfriend, and was certain nothing could ever go wrong.   Then it went wrong.  Lives were ruined.  So, if you truly believe it is a good idea to trust the boyfriend to the point where he has access to your money and valuables, fine with me.  After all, in a million years he would never dream of doing anything like that. 

Famous last words:  "Not this boy.  He's different."

Does anyone remember Richard Burk, who was the owner of the Amor restaurant in Boyztown?  I always loved his advice.  I'll let you folks decide for yourselves whether I abide by it.  But I think many of you at least will understand just why he advised it - and he meant it:

"If you want love in Thailand, rent it."

[Boy69]

1 hour ago, Gaybutton said:

"Trust, but verify"

-  Ronald Reagan

 

What, in your opinion, constitutes a trusting relationship?  Just how far and to what extent are you willing to let that trust go?  I too believe in developing a trusting relationship, but I'm not going to be naive about it.  I've seen too many times when farang became totally comfortable with their relationship, completely trusted the boyfriend, and was certain nothing could ever go wrong.   Then it went wrong.  Lives were ruined.  So, if you truly believe it is a good idea to trust the boyfriend to the point where he has access to your money and valuables, fine with me.  After all, in a million years he would never dream of doing anything like that. 

Famous last words:  "Not this boy.  He's different."

Does anyone remember Richard Burk, who was the owner of the Amor restaurant in Boyztown?  I always loved his advice.  I'll let you folks decide for yourselves whether I abide by it.  But I think many of you at least will understand just why he advised it - and he meant it:

"If you want love in Thailand, rent it."

Yes I agree most of the relationships between falang and Thai collapse eventually and it doesn't matter if it's because the Thai boyfriend was a gold digger or because the falang found new younger model to replace his current Thai boyfriend, maybe there are some 'happy ending' cases but they really the minority and not the majority.

[khaolakguy]

It all depends so much on the circumstances and the individuals.

If you only believe in renting then you are unlikely to ever have a partner in life, and maybe you never wanted one. On the other hand you are more likely to keep your bank balance to spend on yourself. 

However I don't think it is fair to categorise Thais as somehow inherently dishonest in relationships. I can offhand think of at least twelve Thai/Farang couples who have been together for at least ten years, some based in Thailand and some in Europe.  I actually can't think of a serious thai farang couple who broke up. As far as I have observed in these couples I think that Thai partners are especially thoughtful, tolerant and caring. 

The vast majority of the couples originally met in Thailand, so if the farangs had been applying the "if you want love in Thailand rent it" guideline they would not now be enjoying many years of happy partnered lives. 

In fact the saddest farang friend that I have is wealthy and lonely having spent most of his time in Thailand treating his sex partners as paid employees, but is now looking enviously at those friends with loving Thai partners.

Different strokes for different folks.

[reader]

9 hours ago, Gaybutton said:

"Trust, but verify"

-  Ronald Reagan

Yes, by all means trust the man who couldn't even say AIDS during the years when it was devastating the gay community.

9 hours ago, Gaybutton said:

So, if you truly believe it is a good idea to trust the boyfriend to the point where he has access to your money and valuables, fine with me.  After all, in a million years he would never dream of doing anything like that.

Again, Gaybutton, I've never said that. You're the one who keeps repeating as if it's some sort of obsession. This may come as a revelation, but it's actually possible to have relationships that don't involve giving another person access to your valuables.

But I know when you're not busy quoting Dutch you're actually a hopeless romantic at heart. 🙂

 

 

[Gaybutton]

1 hour ago, reader said:

This may come as a revelation

It came as a revelation . . .

[Gaybutton]

2 hours ago, khaolakguy said:

I can offhand think of at least twelve Thai/Farang couples who have been together for at least ten years

Why do I think few, if any, of those successful (so far) relationships began as customer-bar boy?

[Boy69]

I don't know how many of the 'serious' long term relationship between falang and Thai based on true love, I assume many cases based on interest : The falang needs someone by his side  not to be lonely and the Thai want to get out of the sex industry for example, and there're many other reasons why the two decided to establish long term relationship not based on mutual love.

[Londoner]

13 hours ago, Gaybutton said:

Why do I think few, if any, of those successful (so far) relationships began as customer-bar boy?

I don't know. What I do know is that Dreamboys, Pattaya, circa 2005, was the meeting-place  for  a number of guys who established successful LTRs.   Previously, I said I had met  three but we met another couple, an American ex-pat living in Jomtien and his ex-Dreamboys dancer only last month. I was also given the names of others from posts in Facebook etc.

As for "love", I wouldn't presume to be able to offer an answer but would point -out that, for centuries, traditional , straight marriages have been made for many different reasons, not all of which conform with romantic notions of love.