Skittish & cancelled a date …

[Riobard]

Imma be a bit cryptic as far as screenshots about a recent experience, but interested in takes. 

Spanish language context & prostitution legal in terms of a one-to-one arranged date outside of exploitation or organizational illegality as per usual for countries with flex around commercial sex trade. 

Met at a setting with gogos & private dances. Took a private dance with one of the staff and all went well. I provided my contact and we connected quickly via WhatsApp. I am fairly experienced in these matters. 

On a follow-up day we arranged a love motel date via WhatsApp. It seemed to be a brief correspondence and I offered an amount that would be typically generous and commensurate with the transition from club private canoodling to a one-hour get-together in the motel (close to the club, as it happens). I redacted the amount in the attachment. I had written in simple terms (those parts not attached below) that my expectations were that our interaction would be consistent with the intimacy playbook at the club. He is, in my view, a real hunk and seemed nice at the club. I had approached him; in contrast, the other dancers had been aggressively seeking performative labour with customers including me. I gave him a gratuity beyond the standard private dance fee that he evidently found to be generous. (No, I did not want change from the cash bill format I provided.) 

I thought the deal was sealed for our later date. I append the end portions of the correspondence. I became suspicious when he point-blank asked if I had offered him the referenced amount. Of course I had … what else? It seemed to be a question that sought to confirm I had proposed paying him a particular amount for sexual services. It got me to wondering if he was setting me up to be bamboozled over soliciting, or to convince me that I would need to work out an arrangement of financial terms to extricate myself from having compromised myself, notwithstanding local law.

The x amount American had been clearly related to money because in previous sentences I had suggested that he be compensated in cash, but USD as opposed to local currency. In that context the American cash would be no less appealing to a provider.

I decided to quickly back-pedal and thought it would be fruitless to engage further in order to ascertain what the dynamic was, what was behind his apparent superfluous confirmation-seeking, or if he thought he should have been the one to throw a fee amount into the ring.  

Of course this may have been a ‘lost in translation’ issue but my spidey sense took over. He may actually be guileless while I was left hot guy-less. 

Thoughts?
 

[floridarob]

I think you cxl'd too fast.....had you offered him something else in person?

I always offer in local money, how many people on this board have problems figuring out currency conversion never mind some stripper in a 3rd world country 😳

[Riobard]

No.

I generally think of everything and I had actually equivalized the amount for him, in writing, to the local currency, so it was a clear x-times multiple of the club dance rate. I had also offered the payment in local currency and had also asked him to quote what he expected, in either denomination. These first parts of the texting were not copied and pasted in my post. Never did he actually propose an amount, counter, etc. Believe me, my big head was reluctant to override the little head. It may be reductionist on my part but I think he may have either been overly anxious about getting paid, or he was about to take a piss, inn’t … our text passes seemingly unilateral regarding the transactional factor. 

I had previously historically made dates with other providers in the same location, smooth and without incident other than the typical upsell attempts. 

I follow the venue’s social media and my sense is that he may be relatively new at this. This is sometimes exemplified by a dancer’s choreographic moves in private, that is, literal dance moves when you need to coach them to slow down and be more sensual. I suppose that I want to give him the benefit of the doubt, but one is always faced with second-guessing possible manipulative motives. He would similarly not know I cannot easily be taken for a ride.

[KYTOP]

On 2/13/2023 at 12:46 PM, Riobard said:

Of course this may have been a ‘lost in translation’ issue but my spidey sense took over. He may actually be guileless while I was left hot guy-less. 

Thoughts?
 

You should always follow your senses over your little head, no matter how hard that can be