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I am a big fan of this site.  It's given me some great information and some of the guys have been super generous with their time and information. 

Thank you!

But lately, after perusing some of the threads....sadly I am often seeing a pattern of the following:

  • Bitching about how expensive everything is
  • Complaining about things like economy airline seats that aren't wide enough to accommodate their girth
  • Pointing out how life (boys, mamasans,etc) is always trying to cheat them
  • Going on ad nauseam about topics (usually themselves or other bits of nothingness) that aren't relevant with what this site is all about

Again, I love this site.  But if some of the guys might think about what this site is really all about and leave a lot of their postings to time with a therapist, it might be beneficial to all.

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6 hours ago, Connery43 said:

But if some of the guys might think about what this site is really all about

although many would say the core subject matter here is male escorts, “working guys”, garotos (or whatever term is culturally appropriate) and travel - usually both at the same time, there is clearly no consensus. 

This is an anonymous “forum” , open to almost anyone at no charge w sex as a frequent topic - of course it will draw trolls, lurkers, stalkers and unwell people.  There are dozens of posts that will tell you exactly that. The “unwells” spend a lot of time phishing for information (public posts & pms), reactivating old controversial threads and posting irrelevant comments for a reaction.  Unfortunately, they are part of the landscape and they are here - just best to place them on ignore and move on. 

There’s also some great information here from people with experience in places that are not so easy to navigate for first time visitors. After a few weeks, it’s easy to identify those who provide real useful information.  Take what you want & leave the rest.

Oh - and if you need someone to tell you how to spell Colombia and that the locals there speak Spanish - you’ll get that too.  Just don’t ask about Mexico - because there’s absolutely nothing on this site about that country. 

 

 

 


 

 

 

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11 hours ago, Connery43 said:

 

  • Bitching about how expensive everything is
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  •   But if some of the guys might think about what this site is really all about and leave a lot of their postings to time with a therapist,.......

time with therapist so expensive too, specially with hunks offering long time

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16 hours ago, Connery43 said:

leave a lot of their postings to time with a therapist,

many of the recent posts that you reference, in context of seeing a therapist, have to do with a common theme of gay men & aging - and how that affects life changes.  It’s an appropriate topic because this forum caters to gay men who are aging and actively pursuing sex.  Perhaps it hasn’t been addressed so specifically before, but that kind of honesty & vulnerability is welcome change given the typical banter about free Grindr hookups.  Gay men & aging is a topic w real substance & those posts and various comments are the best things I’ve seen on here in months. 

Maybe you’re a young guy & this topic hasn’t becomes an issue for you - yet. But it will someday.  And for those who are older and prefer to avoid the subject - well, it’s coming for you too.

Its been said before - but the authors of those points should be congratulated for bringing up some taboo or uncomfortable topics - that obviously struck a chord with many, resulting in very interesting & authentic feedback.  

I know - gay men supporting each other in a positive way is a foreign concept to many. Let’s try to change that 

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10 hours ago, Slvkguy said:

Just don’t ask about Mexico - because there’s absolutely nothing on this site about that country. 

 

Who are you blaming for this?

 

 


 

 

 

 

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Perhaps it is important to draw more recent members to this Board's Mission Statement and Code of Conduct. They have been in operation for many years when the Board was mostly about Thailand issues. Since they are clearly stated, I assume they apply equally to other countries on the expanded Gay Guides network and not just Thailand.

Mission

The Gay Guides Message Center forums are provided as a venue for the discussion and exchange of information about Thailand and other related issues. It is a place to submit queries and share experiences, information, concerns, news, and views, and maybe even a little humor for the benefit of members. Responsible, non-abusive, free and open dialog is fostered between members and between members and  guys in support of the Gay Guides site mission. Abusive posts shall not be tolerated.

Code of Conduct:

Gay Guides membership is restricted to Adults Only. That Message Center members shall be expected to behave as adults is not an undue burden. The expected conduct standard for the Gay Thailand forums is the same as that observed every day in society by adults in our neighborhoods, towns, and cities. It is based on straightforward mature behavior, civility and courtesy that you find in a neighborhood Pub or Tavern where neighbors and acquaintances joined by occasional strangers come together to socialize in good temper, to share conversation, and to hoist, in moderation, a glass of favorite beer or wine or a cup of coffee or tea.

These forums are NOT presented for abusive arguing and name calling, score-settling, thread stalking, or general cyberspace blood sport for the chronically bored.

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9 hours ago, Latbear4blk said:

And you are using the feminine as an attempt to insult? Adorable

these type of comments are correctly titled “micro-aggressions” - meaning the comments are not intended to be interpreted literally - just in the exact circumstance the perpetrator wants to manipulate.

the “micro-aggressive” comments & use are designed to dehumanize the target and to further marginalize the target, yet still have plausible deniability for the perpetrator.. So, when the behavior is called out, the aggressor claims ignorance and turns it back on the target, again.

it’s insidious, very sick, vey twisted, very common

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