Daddy Has Died

[Lucky]

Realizing that for some there is no love lost between Daddy's forums and Oz's forums, I submit that we can recognize Daddy for creating a very popular forum which has a multitude of participants and offered many of us a place to post our thoughts and interact with like-minded posters. Many of us left that site and came here. I did too. But I have learned to like both sites.

The future of Daddy's site remains unclear. It may be an opportunity for this site to gain members. I suggest we be supportive of those wishing to join here, and not begrudge those who don't.

At any rate, I met Daddy several times, some good, some not so good. But I sure hate to see how he suffered in his last month. RIP, Daddy.

[TotallyOz]

That is very sad news. RIP

[BiBottomBoy]

what did he die of?

[flguy]

He was found unconscious on his apartment floor a number of weeks ago.  Upon admittance to hospital he tested positive for Covid and placed on a ventilator.  They attempted to remove him a number of times but were unsuccessful.  

[BiBottomBoy]

Fucking covid.

[Guest]

I don’t know the history of the “other site” or the controversy with the owner - but, we should all mourn those who pass...especially from Covid as most of this disaster was preventable and fault lies squarely w the former US political administration.  RIP Daddy.

We will never really know how many died in the US or around the world as there are so many deaths not formally counted as Covid.  I just finished reading several NYT & Wapo articles about the continuing Covid/humanitarian crisis in Brazil - and I know so many on this site love Brazil, the Brazilian people and have many friends there.  I am in contact with a special friend there and just last week he asked me to wire money as the situation is so dire.  Of course, I made the arrangements the next day & will gladly send more.  To all of you who have these same friendships, reach out & offer to help.  It’s much worse there than we can possibly imagine. A little goes a long way.  The healthcare system and the country are literally collapsing.  God help Brazil.

[Lucky]

Daddy eventually died of heart failure. He had many medical issues, but this is the one that finally did him in. It's a reminder to all of us, not only to take care of our health, but have the papers ready for someone to step in while you are not able to act on your medical and legal decisions.

Since no one could access Daddy's apartments, we don't know if he had these papers, or a will directing the future of his website.

[Lonnie]

So sad to have had such a painful death...hopefully he's at peace now and a real reminder to get our affairs in order.

[Riobard]

The funeral meats have not yet gone cold, but yes there is the matter of succession. I am not qualified to give an opinion but apparently in his state, without a last will & testament or even distant living relative ... probate court likely obligated to search harder for kin so many times removed than the hospital did for a decision proxy (friend) ... but the property is deemed escheat and goes to the state. So the site’s future may be at slot-machine odds. 

[Riobard]

... by “in his state” I meant geographically in the USA. The site domain registration was renewed to 03/24/2022 and did not crash, but other host/server details likely need to be worked out. 

[RockHardNYC]

I've decided to break my copyright rule. I know, that took about two minutes. If anyone objects, I totally understand if this post disappears.

I don't know what the future holds. I recently read a moving post from the escort, peterhung85, and I wanted to share his words here. If the other site disappears, I thought his excellent writing should live on as long as possible.

 

RIP Guy Fawkes/daddy

I have just seen this topic. I still don't want to believe it...

It was 2009, San Francisco, and my first ever review was published on Daddysreviews by a long-standing member here. I had no idea what this site was so I went to check it out and shortly after my cell phone rang. A gentleman introduced himself as "Daddy" and told me that my review got published on his website. He asked me a few non-intrusive questions that were geared towards finding out whether the money I make through this means is being invested for my future. Again, and I must emphasize this, he did that in the most non-intrusive way as one possibly could have. I felt that he just genuinely wanted to ensure that I am on the right path to creating financial independence for myself in the long run. We covered a few other aspects of the industry and he offered me a helping hand in case I ever needed a piece of advice.

Soon after my first published review came the second, third --- 20th, and 30th, and my business has exploded and I was full of quality inquiries. Surely, providing a great service doesn't hurt but without the ability for people to research their next "date" on a platform like his, how would anyone know about my abilities?

But business (while obviously in our lives is key) was truly NOT what Daddy was all about. He was in it to help people. Genuinely.

I had the pleasure to meet him on numerous occasions at a variety of restaurants and many times at his apartment in Las Vegas. We even met during the pandemic (the chair was waiting for me at the entrance to sit on) while he distanced himself from me by being in front of his computer on the other side of the apartment and we were both wearing masks. The "HOW" never really mattered, but every meeting with him was always highly insightful and entertaining.... and very genuine. Many of you probably didn't get the chance to truly know who was behind this nickname/website and I am very grateful that I had the pleasure of conducting more than just superficial chit-chats with him.

For those of you who don't know, he was a computer whiz and had incredible talents at forensics and used to be retained as a forensic expert in multi-billion dollar lawsuit cases back in the day. This speaks volumes of the in-depth knowledge he had about certain fields in computers.

Talking about talent, he used to be an escort himself (waaaaaaaaaaay) back in the day. He wasn't always overweight and was rather hot. He told me so many funny stories about providing services in LA/Beverly Hills to some of the Hollywood elites. They were extremely entertaining stories.

He never cared about the money. He went as far as to flat-out decline highly lucrative promotional/marketing/advertising offers if he disagreed with how the company conducted its business in the gay world, whether we are talking about advertising practices, treatment of others, or the mission the company stood for. He was a principles guy, yet - needless to say - non-judgmental.

Every time we talked - without an exception - he had his "routine" questions:
- Are you happy?
- Do you put a certain percentage of your money aside and invest it?
- Do you take time out to have fun and enjoy life too?

This should tell you about the type of person Bill was.

(With names redacted), he showed me all kinds of escort inquiries where the guys offered him free sessions in exchange for promotion/bad review removal/self-review postings. He NEVER abused his position and always maintained his integrity.

He was a big fan of Latin guys with muscles and cute butts. Who can blame him, right?! Yet... never ran out of compliments for me when we met.

We talked about a few side projects of his too. Some of you may not know, but a few years back he was running a website that was teaching the transgender community about proper accessorizing / makeup / wigs and how to start out. He was also running it on his own dime and received no compensation for it.

On my last in-person visit during COVID, we actually started discussing either a joint business venture or a certain promotional opportunity about a website that would have served as an extension of DaddysReviews. We have never finalized the details and sadly, that will not happen anymore. It would have been great to work with him I am sure.

I just want you gentlemen to understand how this person sacrificed most of his life to help our community. He never asked for anything in return and I know exactly how much of his life he sacrificed for others. He changed my life, and probably many of your lives I am certain or the very bottom line, his work made your life a little easier in this crazy world.

I hope that he is in a good place now, his contributions, his helping hand, his guidance, and the amount of care and love he put out for all of us will be remembered (at least by me) for a LIFETIME.

When @Cooper reached out to me, I was shocked to hear that I was probably the only person who knew his address. He was so loving, welcoming and open that I thought he kept company often times at his home. I also would like to take this opportunity to thank Cooper for taking immediate actions and for keeping everyone posted. I am so truly sorry it ended this way. :-(

THANK YOU BILL/DADDY/GUY FAWKES WITH ALL MY HEART! ❤

 

If anyone doubted why many escorts and clients remained loyal to Daddy, peterhung85's words should put those doubts to rest. 

 

[flguy]

Peter's thoughts were well written and shows more empathy than our world has seen for a time.  Glad to see it

[nynakedtop]

A figure who did not fail to provoke controversy.

A death too soon and too painful for anyone to have to endure.

He will be missed by all and mourned by many.

[JKane]

I had long ago decided I didn't like the way he ran his message board (or how he got it) but I still appreciated, until the end, his curation of interesting news stories.  They had been one of my main connections to gay culture and were a point of view I will deeply miss.  It is tragic that the final one is "The nurse says I have a cold", even now that I finally know I still go by habit, hoping it'll suddenly start updating again like in the past. 

You only fully appreciate something when it's gone.  

 

 

[Latbear4blk]

Here goes my tribute.

https://ilikepinga.com/2021/04/03/daddy-has-died/

 

[Latbear4blk]

It looks like both websites went just down.

[azdr0710]

yeah, both are currently down for me, too.....5:10pm, Monday, MST/PDT

[jrhoutex]

yep, same here - both sites are down. Sorry to see it go.... 7:05pm, CST, Monday, April 19, 2021... an end of a era 

[azdr0710]

it may be back soon......perhaps a bill needs to be paid......or maybe a temporary check on something by the mods??......I hope!!

[Riobard]

Based on the long thread there, now gone unless the sites boot up again, on what could go wrong and hypotheses about how to deal with an intestate situation and salvage the sites, it’s head-spinning. But there was a basic contingency plan for some involved to maintain communication and continue problem-solving attempts behind the scenes if the sites were to go dark. 

Moderators of sites like this would do well to have a simple mostly inactive social media account (Twitter the easiest because you can create as many accounts as you like without revealing your true identity), for backup communication about what is happening. 

[azdr0710]

whew!!!....it's back.......

[Candyman]

It is back and working. I have been a member of both sites for many years. I appreciate all the Hooboy, Daddy and totallyoz have done. I have been reading the thread about what they moderators are going to do with the site now and it is a bit of mess. Why has oz not stepped up and helped in this situation?

[TotallyOz]

6 hours ago, Candyman said:

It is back and working. I have been a member of both sites for many years. I appreciate all the Hooboy, Daddy and totallyoz have done. I have been reading the thread about what they moderators are going to do with the site now and it is a bit of mess. Why has oz not stepped up and helped in this situation?

It is not my place to step up. The site's issues, if any, are easily solved in multiple ways if the moderators have access to the forum admin panel. The entire forum can be backed up and restored in a new location (with consent of the estate). They do not need me to help them with this. If they did, I am sure they would have reached out to me and I would have helped them. I will assume they are waiting for the estate to approve their plans. If Daddy left no will or plans, you must assume he meant it to be that way.  I have met many members of that site. As someone who is truly interested in persevering the content of sites like this, I'd be happy to offer technical advice. However, I am not interested in getting involved in any estate issues, including the domain names. @Candymanif you wish to step up, feel free. 

[RockHardNYC]

6 hours ago, TotallyOz said:

As someone who is truly interested in persevering the content of sites like this, I'd be happy to offer technical advice.

I think preserving may be more the intention than persevering, although both are important. 

6 hours ago, TotallyOz said:

The site's issues, if any, are easily solved in multiple ways...(with consent of the estate)

Given what I've read, sounds like a nightmare to me. Good luck to those who wish to salvage that mess. No shortage of people willing to throw cash at a dead horse.

7 hours ago, TotallyOz said:

If Daddy left no will or plans, you must assume he meant it to be that way.

Precisely.

Frankly, it surprises me. For a long time I believed he had prepped Deej and Cooper for this transition, leaving them with a solid foundation for donation begging. It now appears Bill left them with nothing. And that's the thanks you get for being a decades long moderator with no pay.

When the owner of an enterprise (hobby) doesn't plan for his death, it means he didn't place much value on his creations. If it's not worth anything, why take the time or energy to plan for its long-term vitality? It seems to me, the forum and review site were Daddy's pet. It was his "thing" and no one else's.

7 hours ago, TotallyOz said:

I am not interested in getting involved in any estate issues, including the domain names.

Good grief. Nothing worse than trying to resolve poorly planned estate issues. Even when you think you acquired something legally (which can take years), something always rears its ugly head months or years later. It's even more complicated when a man lived a loner lifestyle and family members can't be found.

I would think the domain names have the least value. It seems they were created to distract from attention. Most of those queens never have to worry about finding the site if the name changes. Too many wannabe Nancy Drews among them.

[Lucky]

@Rockhard says: "I would think the domain names have the least value. It seems they were created to distract from attention. Most of those queens never have to worry about finding the site if the name changes. Too many wannabe Nancy Drews among them. "

 

Those people. Why must you insist on insulting others?