More Gay Over Time?

[BiBottomBoy]

Anyone else find homosexuality is progressive?

In my 20s I liked girls and was just "curious" about guys - thought I did end up being with three men.

In my 30s and into my 40s I thought I was split bisexual - up for girls and boys.

Now that I'm in my 50s just the idea of naked girls grosses me out and I'm all about men.

Am I unique or has anyone else experienced this?

[TotallyOz]

Interesting. I started out straight, went to gay, and then bi and then gay again.

I am not sure what I am now. I do like guys 95% of the time. I also like an occasional lady. But, I also like ladyboys from time to time. I guess my gay is about as liberal as my politics.

[BiBottomBoy]

Ha! so maybe pussy will come back into my life at some point!

I liked ladyboys in my 20s but have gone off them a bit. I think that's because I've found that when I'm with someone with a dick I want to bottom and being with a ladyboy who wants to top just seem incongruous to me.

Of course during lockdown my sexuality is mostly theoretical anyway.

But I find if I try to watch straight porn it seems to be "too much" when a girl takes off her top or bottoms, but gay porn just seems so natural and beautiful.

It's interesting. If I was allowed to see my shrink I'd talk to her about it, but like so many things that's banned by the French lockdown so I sit with my three cats and try to figure this stuff out.

[Vessey]

It is a huge relief to find that I am not alone in my ever morphing sexual preferences. I put on my tag on other forums that my interests are 'anyone who make my cock hard', and that is pretty much it. I am bisexual, but at the moment at least the gay side predominates.

From adolescence in the 1960s and 70s I was aware that I had an awakening sexual interest in both sexes; an all boy grammar school no doubt was part of that. But peer pressure and social convention kept the gay-side closeted away, aside from the occasional platonic obsessions.

Pattaya changed all that, my first trip in 2009 was all girl, but 'noticing' and feeling curious about ladyboys. Second trip early the following year was principally a girl one, but introducing a couple of (for me) life-changing ladyboy experiences into the mix, and following trips girls and ladyoys. My home life, for various reasons, remained effectively celibate. 

Then in 2015 a walk of curiosity through Boyztown ended up with my first full gay sex in Scandic Massage (I still see that same boy as one of my 'regulars'), by 2017 my trips were maybe 80% boy with the occasional ladyboy and girl experience thrown in. 2019 and mostly boys but with the occasional girl thrown into a threesome mix.

2020 was a year of internet porn at home, mostly gay, but also bisexual threesomes and the odd ladyboy. Like I said, anyone who makes my cock hard!

Hopefully I can return later this year, who knows, and who knows who will be sharing my bed this time?

[BiBottomBoy]

That's a great way to look at it. And yeah it is like sexuality changes in you as you get older.

And lord knows I've been celibate this  year with the lockdowns.

[Guest]

9 hours ago, BiBottomBoy said:

 I sit with my three cats and try to figure this stuff out.

That's my kind of pussy.

I'm about 99% gay, boys only.

The only lady boy I've met was one I knew before the two lumps of silicon were inserted.  I don't rule out meeting others, but most of the ones I see on Grindr seem to have atrocious use of botox or other procedures and are a right turn off for me.  After spam messages, I took to blocking all of them in Pattaya.   Apparently Grindr allows 10 blocks per day, so it's efficient to keep on top of matters by blocking as soon as they create a new profile.  Since I don't entirely rule out meeting an exceptional specimen, I did look at each one prior to blocking and almost all seem to suffer from botox, cosmetic procedures or photoshop.  

Incidentally, one of my Laos friends in Bangkok was talking about what he might look like with t*ts. I then showed him my blocked list on Grindr, mostly lady boys, plus a few other spammers.   He then showed me his blocked list, which was 100% lady boys and went on and on and on.......

Trying female company is rare.  Once every few years, if there's nothing else around and that usually reminds me why I don't.  I did make my first visit into girly gogo bars in Pattaya in 2020 and was quite impressed by the full on nudity and more life than in the gay bars, but had zero interest in offing anyone. 

In terms of progression, I went from not bothering at all to boys.    This is inefficient, as there were a few wasted years.

I've seen quite a few people on these boards refer to ex-wives and kids, so perhaps there is some progression or perhaps pressure at an early age.   A poll might be an interesting way to get answers.

[BiBottomBoy]

yeah. these days I sort of find the idea of vagina a turn off. but I can remember when it used to turn me on. It's weird.

[Pete1111]

 

I am aware of two people, both F to M transitioned,  where they identified their sexuality, who they are drawn to, had changed.  After transitioning, each liked men.  Before, they had each liked women.

To me, sexuality is so interesting and mysterious.  

In college there were several guys that showed interest in me but ended up family men, with wife and kids.  One could say they were curious.  But they were definitely drawn to me, my body.  

As a boy I liked looking at naked pics in Playboy, large breasted women.  They excited me.  But by the time I was 14 I was becoming drawn to guys.  Perhaps as a boy if I'd seen beautiful, seductive pictures of men, that would have excited me.  I think so.

 

[BiBottomBoy]

it's interesting how movable sexuality is

[spoon]

I dont have really fluid sexual tendency, just stereotypical gays that like men since as long as i can remember. Even watching straight porn, i focus on the guy. Im at a point where my family is expecting me to get married and i cant possibly do that to any girls, to marry a guy who had no feeling towards her at all. Having said this, when watching straight porn, im not at all repulsed by seeing women naked, but not excited by them, or more like feel indifferent. Even my preference for men are those straight-acting manly men. 

[vaughn]

I'm probably 95% into guys, and 5% into women. I generally prefer guys who are slim-toned and on the twink-ish side, but i have never been with a ladyboy.

I have been considering exploring nana plaza and soi cowboy when i return to bangkok just to test the waters, but it will be hard to pull me away from the allure of the boy bars.. maybe i will find a forum member who is around at the same time to get some backup on that mission haha

[BiBottomBoy]

see when it comes to men I'm not into twinks. I like they to be very manly and a bit (not too much) hairy.  a lady boy might be nice because I'd be able to avoid vagina which is something I'm trying to do these days (though of course I say that and then tomorrow could end up with a crush on a girl and want to see her naked.)

[numerito]

I started out as straight, but I always had a gay vibe in the back of my head. I had sex with girls not really understanding the fascination: to me, it was grossly overrated. I did a little fooling around with my best friend when we were both 15-16 (it did get to the cock-sucking stage once), and I finally had sex with a guy in my late twenties. Boy, that was a discovery, a great Epiphany   I’ve never come back. If I were to rate myself now,  I would say 99% gay, and probably even 100%. I am no longer attracted to women at all, and I am sure I wouldn’t be able to get hard with one. 

[BiBottomBoy]

yeah getting hard for a girl now feels nearly impossible for me. but a guy can get me so worked up. sucks I'm in lockdown, but soon we'll all be out!

[Riobard]

Gay is progressive but not progressive for me ... when the attending yanked me from the birth canal I slapped his ass and never looked back at the vag. 

[BiBottomBoy]

Ha!