TotallyOz Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 "Beauty is only skin deep" or at least that is what I am told. Yet, I seem to pick the boyfriend based on this attribute. Walking around in Sunee last night, there were few I really wanted to get to know but there was one that intrigued me and I really would like to get to know him better. He is not educated at all but his looks were killer. A 19 year old boy from Issan and speaks little English. After the breakup with the last boyfriend I wonder if there is a better way to select the next Mr. Right. (True I have a Boy Special that is with me but he is not in Pattaya and hates the city so I try to keep him at a distance and save him for myself and other trips) If I chose based on brains would I be as happy? Is there a middle ground? I often doubt that I'll find what I am looking for in a bar. Sitting with a friend last night, he said, "yes, but you always say the same thing when you break up and you go and do the same thing over and over and never seem to learn your lesson." This is true and perhaps I need to adjust my sensor for what I am looking for. Since college my favorite poet has always been John Keats. He said, "Beauty is truth, truth beauty," - that is all Ye know on earth, and all ye need to know. If you follow this, do you think you will find the perfect partner? Or, is there more to it? Is beauty enough to secure your happiness with a guy? Quote
PattayaMale Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 Also "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". In my opinion, you can have both. But for some of us, we are never satisfied. Quote
Guest fountainhall Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 And don't forget Ralph Waldo Emerson - "It's beauty that captures your attention; personality which captures your heart." - or the more cynical George Bernard Shaw - "Beauty is all very well at first sight; but who ever looks at it when it has been in the house three days?" I tend to agree with both. Beauty makes the heart race and can led to extraordinary experiences. Without some brains behind it, though, the attraction does seem to wither. Brains alone? Don't think I could ever handle that! Quote
Guest GaySacGuy Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I think beauty, looks, education, etc., etc., etc. are all ok...but in one word I think what you must have in a boyfriend is HONESTY Most of the bad breakups I have witnessed involved the boy lying. If you have Honesty, you might be able to work on the rest!! Quote
Guest laurence Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 Is beauty enough to secure your happiness with a guy? No! You ask why? This is why, because he is he, and I am I. Quote
colmx Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 HI GT One thing that has always seemed strange to me is your penchant for straight guys! If you are looking for a true BF or BS it would help for a start if he was: -Gay -Into Farang -Does not have a current BF or LB or GF on the side Thats my opinion on it anyway... Quote
Guest luvthai Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I am always attracted to the personality, a nice smile and a twinkle in the eye. My picks for beauty seem to be one nighters only. Quote
Guest MikeGeorg Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 After 2 years nonstop in Thailand i found my beauty with brain, but not in pattaya:-) He study Political Science at the Chulalongkorn University,Bangkok. Ter speak, thai, english, mandarin chinese, spain and now german my bf ter, 21y/o, 186cm tall at the viennese ball in bangkok with my model daniel from italy at his left side the ambassador of austria left side, ex major general thai army with his wife, right side the military attache from the german ambassy Quote
Guest xiandarkthorne Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 Truth is beauty? Beauty is truth? Then why do so many hide themselves from it? Why are so few prepared to face it, naked or otherwise? Anyway, snakes are beautiful, as are many species of spiders and other equally venomous creatures like the blue-ringed octopus - a truly lovely little thing with the ability to change its colours andpatterns. I don't think I'd take any of them to bed with me, much less try to set up house with any of them. I never chose any of the guys I fell in love with in LOS (as opposed to lusted obsessiively after - whichI've done all too often andmistaken for the other passion) based on their looks. I was just lucky that it simply happened without my actually trying to do anything about it but having said that, I can't complain that I didn't like the way they looked either. The sad thing is I think they must have felt something for me ,too...otherwise why take the trouble to tell me when they had to leave me? Xian One left me because his family converted and his father wanted to move to a more 'rpo-their-religion' area...the other had to go back and get married. I still remember them fondly after all these years. Quote
KhorTose Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I am always attracted to the personality, a nice smile and a twinkle in the eye. My picks for beauty seem to be one nighters only. YES, YES, YES, personality and brains over beauty any day. At least for the long term. I agree, beauty is great for the night, but in the long haul you want someone with whom you can connect with. Quote
Jason1988 Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I doubt that you can seriously find a BF in a bar or club. Quote
PattayaMale Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I doubt that you can seriously find a BF in a bar or club. It may be difficult but I have several friends that have long term BFs that they meet in bars. None of them continued to work in bars after they were with their farang. Quote
Guest laurence Posted January 10, 2009 Posted January 10, 2009 I doubt that you can seriously find a BF in a bar or club. I have, 9 years ago and still together. Quote
Guest Geezer Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 I have, 9 years ago and still together. Ditto! Quote
Guest Steve1903 Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Initial attraction will always be looks but for staying power personality would take over for me. Quote
Guest laurence Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 My Thai bf is beautiful in my eyes but perhaps not in the eyes of those who do not know him or have met him. The other day a farang friend told me my bf was not attractive based on a photo. I said look in the mirror and tell me what you see! That was after I bashed a wine bottle into his face. Quote
Guest topjohn5 Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 I agree with many of you. Beauty for one nighters....but they rarely pan out...... But, assuming they are not ugly (cute is better). And nothing captures me more than personality......but, if I can get brains too I am in heaven..... A good mind fuck however would require good English skills and that is a bit hard to find here..... Also, for me they must be gay and 100% passive for a long term relationship.....but then again for short time things you just have to convince me your gay and versatile...... Quote
Guest Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 but then again for short time things you just have to convince me your gay and versatile...... LOL. That pretty much sums up many relationships. Just convince me of what I want to hear. There are some real pros out there on this one aren't there? Quote
Guest slackersam Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 I think I tend to look for beauty for one night stands and personality for long term relationships. So, find a smart cool bf you can fuck with the lights out and then play with the pretty ones on the side. Quote
