Threesomes ruining relationships????

[BlkSuperman]

https://people.com/movies/demi-moore-claims-ashton-kutcher-cheated-twice/

So Ashton is freaky AF? Can you imagine how hot a threesome would be with Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore?

Threesomes aren't for everyone or every relationship...like Ashton kutcher, I suggested my partner and I indulge in threesomes. I had been in the gay lifestyle from a very young age and had been in some of the most HOT, INTENSE sexual encounters for many many many years before meeting my husband.  

Many moons ago, book stores were plentiful in south Florida.  I dont have to tell you whores (lol) what went on in those back rooms in bookstores. I was a regular at these places and would sometimes spend my entire saturday in there having one on one and group sex with the other visitors. 

South florida also had gay saunas and parks where patrons would go to have hot, steamy sex with strangers. 

When I asked my husband about threesomes, he was dead set on not taking part. I knew the risks of bringing someone Into our sex life, but didnt give a shit. I had some of the hottest, nastiest sexual encounters when I was single and I kinda missed that kind of sex when I met my husband.

Dont get me wrong, our sex was hot when we met and maybe a year into our relationship, but at a certain point in your relationship there comes a time when you want to spice things up. We bought toys, tried to mimic what we saw in videos and even had sex in forbidden places like car garages, office buildings, etc. All of those things paled in comparison to us adding an additional person to our sex life. 

As always, anytime my husband resists, I badger him until he obliges. He had a lot of questions about threesomes that I gladly answered. We openly discussed what we would and wouldnt do with the third party.  We laid out the parameters and decided to go through with our first conquest.

I have to be completely honest. The first 4 or 5 times we did it, it caused friction between us. Why?? Some of the parameters had not been followed.  There was supposed to be no tongue kissing, yet is happened. There wasnt supposed to be any oral, yet that happened. We got mad at each other, argued, but continued to indulge in the threesomes. 

After the second argument he suggested that we stop doing the threesomes. I refused and told him, if we just respect each others rules, we wouldnt have any issues.

Once the rules were followed, we had no more issues and have been enjoying threesomes for over 5 years. 

What are your thoughts on threesomes and people in OPEN RELATIONSHIPS?

Edited September 25, 2019 by 1tennisace
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[BryBro]

In the past, I resist the idea of being in an open relationship. Now, I'm more open to this idea. I've been in several LTR, and what I've noticed is that after several years, the intensity of sex becomes less and less, sometimes non existent. I know friends who are in LTR relationship that don't even have sex at all. They have the companionship but I think they are just having solo sex and not with each others. That is something I would not want.

I've been in threesomes, but not when I was in a relationship. I think it's fun as long as we are all into each other. It spices things up. When opportunity arise, I would definitely go for it.

[caeron]

 

To me, sex and marriage aren't connected. Marriage is about love and commitment. Sex is about Mr. Happy.

Of course, I married my best friend, a woman, 25 years ago as an out gay man, so it is probable that my views are  non-standard.

I think if you have love and commitment in the relationship, everything else is negotiable.

 

 

[Walker]

I don't see any problem if a couple hire one (or more) prostitutes for sexual enjoyment.

[SolaceSoul]

Having experienced them in a relationship, I can attest that threesomes in a relationship aren’t for me. But if they are for you and everyone involved is consensual and enjoys them, then go for it. No one has the right to define the four corners of your mutually consensual, adult relationship. But if I were in a relationship and the other party wanted threesomes, I would prefer to remain single —- which for me is preferable anyway, so win-win.

Now, outside of a committed relationship, as in a hiring situation, I’ve also done a few threesomes. To me, they are only enjoyable when I am equally attracted to both of the other parties — which has been the case when it’s been two hires. But the others were usually situations where I’d rather leave out one of the others in the threesome — and that’s why a ménage a trois rarely interests me. 

Edited September 26, 2019 by SolaceSoul

[cktb2793]

My husband I are both 49, we’ve been together since we were 22.  We started having sex with other people when we were about 24.  We’ve very rarely had 3 ways, maybe 1 per year ....... we both prefer to have sex with other people on our own ........ we’ve both had 3ways with people that didn’t involve each other ......... we’ve go to saunas here for sex and to many sex clubs in Europe like L’Impact in Paris and Laboratory in Berlin ..... have been to Point 202 and Club 117 in Rio many times ...... to Prague for escort clubs like Pino and Escape which are now gone ...... it’s never been a problem at all between us  ...... in fact in the last 10 years, we’ve mostly only had sex with other people ...... and we get along GREAT.  We even have an 8 year old son I had with a surrogate and are great parents to him.

Edited September 26, 2019 by cktb2793

[Riobard]

The topic heading could just as easily be “relationships ruining threesomes?” 

[Walker]

One scenario of 3some may cause issues.  For example, if this couple consists of a sugar daddy and a younger financially dependent husband (in relationship for the money and good life).  Their threesome may bring a lot of complicate issues.

[msclelovr]

Interesting thread @BlkSuperman I really enjoyed 3somes and 4gies when single. 

I favour every couple openly discussing their sexual needs and desires. If something works for that couple, so be it. The opinions of others are simply irrelevant.

But in a relationship, I’m monogamous - OK I’m a serial monogamist. It suits my partner and me. 

[BlkSuperman]

On 9/26/2019 at 10:47 AM, cktb2793 said:

My husband I are both 49, we’ve been together since we were 22.  We started having sex with other people when we were about 24.  We’ve very rarely had 3 ways, maybe 1 per year ....... we both prefer to have sex with other people on our own ........ we’ve both had 3ways with people that didn’t involve each other ......... we’ve go to saunas here for sex and to many sex clubs in Europe like L’Impact in Paris and Laboratory in Berlin ..... have been to Point 202 and Club 117 in Rio many times ...... to Prague for escort clubs like Pino and Escape which are now gone ...... it’s never been a problem at all between us  ...... in fact in the last 10 years, we’ve mostly only had sex with other people ...... and we get along GREAT.  We even have an 8 year old son I had with a surrogate and are great parents to him.

Wow! Quite interesting. Thats a VERY STRONG BOND you and your hubby have. The only time I allow or would go for my husband having sex with someone else when I'm not around is if im not interested in the 3rd party or if I Cum before they do and i clean up to leave the room until they finish. Is it a rule that you guys have to let one another know when you're about to have sex with someone else? Your relationship is different from mine.

Why do you prefer to have sex with others on your own? I hope i'm not being too obtrusive. Yours seem to be an OPEN RELATIONSHIP. i dont know if i could handle that, but it works for you guys and you have a beautiful son, which is quite commendable. Where do you guys live? my hubby and i are both 48. you guys have been together for an extremely long time. CONGRATS!!!! I hope you have many more blissful years together.

[BlkSuperman]

On 9/25/2019 at 11:11 AM, BlkSuperman said:

https://people.com/movies/demi-moore-claims-ashton-kutcher-cheated-twice/

So Ashton is freaky AF? Can you imagine how hot a threesome would be with Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore?

Threesomes aren't for everyone or every relationship...like Ashton kutcher, I suggested my partner and I indulge in threesomes. I had been in the gay lifestyle from a very young age and had been in some of the most HOT, INTENSE sexual encounters for many many many years before meeting my husband.  

Many moons ago, book stores were plentiful in south Florida.  I dont have to tell you whores (lol) what went on in those back rooms in bookstores. I was a regular at these places and would sometimes spend my entire saturday in there having one on one and group sex with the other visitors. 

South florida also had gay saunas and parks where patrons would go to have hot, steamy sex with strangers. 

When I asked my husband about threesomes, he was dead set on not taking part. I knew the risks of bringing someone Into our sex life, but didnt give a shit. I had some of the hottest, nastiest sexual encounters when I was single and I kinda missed that kind of sex when I met my husband.

Dont get me wrong, our sex was hot when we met and maybe a year into our relationship, but at a certain point in your relationship there comes a time when you want to spice things up. We bought toys, tried to mimic what we saw in videos and even had sex in forbidden places like car garages, office buildings, etc. All of those things paled in comparison to us adding an additional person to our sex life. 

As always, anytime my husband resists, I badger him until he obliges. He had a lot of questions about threesomes that I gladly answered. We openly discussed what we would and wouldnt do with the third party.  We laid out the parameters and decided to go through with our first conquest.

I have to be completely honest. The first 4 or 5 times we did it, it caused friction between us. Why?? Some of the parameters had not been followed.  There was supposed to be no tongue kissing, yet is happened. There wasnt supposed to be any oral, yet that happened. We got mad at each other, argued, but continued to indulge in the threesomes. 

After the second argument he suggested that we stop doing the threesomes. I refused and told him, if we just respect each others rules, we wouldnt have any issues.

Once the rules were followed, we had no more issues and have been enjoying threesomes for over 5 years. 

What are your thoughts on threesomes and people in OPEN RELATIONSHIPS?

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[BlkSuperman]

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[BlkSuperman]

On 9/25/2019 at 9:47 PM, BryBro said:

In the past, I resist the idea of being in an open relationship. Now, I'm more open to this idea. I've been in several LTR, and what I've noticed is that after several years, the intensity of sex becomes less and less, sometimes non existent. I know friends who are in LTR relationship that don't even have sex at all. They have the companionship but I think they are just having solo sex and not with each others. That is something I would not want.

I've been in threesomes, but not when I was in a relationship. I think it's fun as long as we are all into each other. It spices things up. When opportunity arise, I would definitely go for it.

i dont know if an open relationship would be for me. weve discussed it and were both dead set against it. we are extremely honest when it comes to wanting to have sex with another person. if he sees something he likes, he will tell me and im always ready for some steamy action and vice versa. ive always told my husband sex comes secondary in a relationship, to me. hell, were 48 with a home, kids and bills to pay. those things are more important to me. sex is fun, but it shouldnt cost a couple their relationship. when you have two people who are honest about what they want and will accept, it makes having threesomes a lot easier. companionship is a lot more important to me. its nice have a hubby, best friend, travel companion and sex buddy to partake in steamy sex.  i have to agree with you when you say the intensity becomes less and less. the threesomes really spice up our sex lives.

[BlkSuperman]

On 9/26/2019 at 10:44 AM, SolaceSoul said:

Having experienced them in a relationship, I can attest that threesomes in a relationship aren’t for me. But if they are for you and everyone involved is consensual and enjoys them, then go for it. No one has the right to define the four corners of your mutually consensual, adult relationship. But if I were in a relationship and the other party wanted threesomes, I would prefer to remain single —- which for me is preferable anyway, so win-win.

Now, outside of a committed relationship, as in a hiring situation, I’ve also done a few threesomes. To me, they are only enjoyable when I am equally attracted to both of the other parties — which has been the case when it’s been two hires. But the others were usually situations where I’d rather leave out one of the others in the threesome — and that’s why a ménage a trois rarely interests me. 

Solace, if you had been in a meaningful relationship for 5 years and your partner came home one day and asked you to talk; and tell you he wanted to do threesomes, you would break up with your partner?

I'm happy that my partner and i discuss any and everything in regards to sex. he told me that he wanted to fist someone to the elbow. I told he that he couldnt do it to me, but if he found someone who would allow him to, then i wouldnt be against it. i would never try to stop him from exploring his fantasies.

I don't think a guy being candid with his partner about threesomes would mean that he's fallen out of love with his partner. I would be honored that he's sharing his feeling with me instead of exploring these fantasies outside the relationship without my knowledge.

That's why there have to be parameters. I wholeheartedly agree with you when you mention being attracted to both parties involved.

[SolaceSoul]

4 minutes ago, BlkSuperman said:

Solace, if you had been in a meaningful relationship for 5 years and your partner came home one day and asked you to talk; and tell you he wanted to do threesomes, you would break up with your partner?

Yes, I absolutely would. Because I’m not interested in that at all. If he is, then he’s much better off with someone else who is, and I am much better off without him.

Now, if it were something that I WERE interested in, that would be much different,

As I mentioned, I’m just fine being single. Sure, a committed relationship requires some compromise, but IMHO, the compromise should never take more than you feel good about giving. 

[Ejay106]

On 9/25/2019 at 11:11 AM, BlkSuperman said:

https://people.com/movies/demi-moore-claims-ashton-kutcher-cheated-twice/

So Ashton is freaky AF? Can you imagine how hot a threesome would be with Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore?

Threesomes aren't for everyone or every relationship...like Ashton kutcher, I suggested my partner and I indulge in threesomes. I had been in the gay lifestyle from a very young age and had been in some of the most HOT, INTENSE sexual encounters for many many many years before meeting my husband.  

Many moons ago, book stores were plentiful in south Florida.  I dont have to tell you whores (lol) what went on in those back rooms in bookstores. I was a regular at these places and would sometimes spend my entire saturday in there having one on one and group sex with the other visitors. 

South florida also had gay saunas and parks where patrons would go to have hot, steamy sex with strangers. 

When I asked my husband about threesomes, he was dead set on not taking part. I knew the risks of bringing someone Into our sex life, but didnt give a shit. I had some of the hottest, nastiest sexual encounters when I was single and I kinda missed that kind of sex when I met my husband.

Dont get me wrong, our sex was hot when we met and maybe a year into our relationship, but at a certain point in your relationship there comes a time when you want to spice things up. We bought toys, tried to mimic what we saw in videos and even had sex in forbidden places like car garages, office buildings, etc. All of those things paled in comparison to us adding an additional person to our sex life. 

As always, anytime my husband resists, I badger him until he obliges. He had a lot of questions about threesomes that I gladly answered. We openly discussed what we would and wouldnt do with the third party.  We laid out the parameters and decided to go through with our first conquest.

I have to be completely honest. The first 4 or 5 times we did it, it caused friction between us. Why?? Some of the parameters had not been followed.  There was supposed to be no tongue kissing, yet is happened. There wasnt supposed to be any oral, yet that happened. We got mad at each other, argued, but continued to indulge in the threesomes. 

After the second argument he suggested that we stop doing the threesomes. I refused and told him, if we just respect each others rules, we wouldnt have any issues.

Once the rules were followed, we had no more issues and have been enjoying threesomes for over 5 years. 

What are your thoughts on threesomes and people in OPEN RELATIONSHIPS?

Great topic on threesomes! After 27 years of traditional marriage with a son that I came to realize that living in a closet was worst than death. After my wife’s death , it was my son who outed me to explore love. I realized from my travels and studies that man was domesticated through religion to be monogamous. All of the other animal kingdoms including our cousins, the  chimpanzees are not and they practice community homosexuality. We make life complicated. When I met my husband six years ago by then I was like you a dam good whore and told him out right that I would never marry again unless both parties are whores. He was monogamous and gay since college with a mother who hated his life style. I took him on a journey to sex clubs, retreats, parties and around the world to educate him about openness and the only thing he added to our rules of be yourself and do yourself was simply always playing together. We are nudist and both preachers kids but came to realize our close and devoted new family are the men from our activities who understand unconditional love. The problem with all couples is dealing with unconditional love. I have learned so must about good sex and have now become the official videographer in our relationship to enjoy our private moments forever. I made my partner read  Don Miguel ‘s , The Mastery of Love, before dating me. Sex can be a killer in many relationships so I  proposed they we start dating on a negative to break us up sooner than later. He developed a love for weekends with the sexist men in NYC, The Dukes. We would get there at 11pm and leave a 7am then travel to Brooklyn for an all night house sex party. With unconditional love I knew I could never make anyone act like me , be me or fear me. Last week we were in Santo Domingo with Manny. We end this trip with the hottest five man orgy and we all woke up to a new morning embracing and kissing our goodbyes. Knowing what I know today I wish that all men could step out of the closets of life and be as you are wonderfully created in love. A covenant of love is deeper than being in love. The best example I can for this is about King David upon hearing of the death of his lover Jonathan, I loved Jonathan with a far greater love than a man lives a woman. Afterwards,he made his men take off their clothes to cry for Jonathan soul in the streets. Unconditional love will remove all fears in a partner and will fill your days on earth will bountiful fulfillment. This takes maturity but I have found many men are self centered and creative unnatural boundaries, like top/ bottom/ versatile. My view of sex is entire body  fulfillment less to explosive orgasms, every time. 

[BlkSuperman]

After my wife’s death:

 sorry to hear about your wife.

All of the other animal kingdoms including our cousins, the  chimpanzees are not and they practicecommunity homosexuality.

I never knew chimps engaged in community homosexuality...that would explain my attraction to these amazing animals. Lol!

 I took him on a journey to sex clubs, retreats, parties and around the world to educate him about openness

Any of the sex clubs in the U.S. if so, names and locations, please.

He developed a love for weekends with the sexist men in NYC, The Dukes. We would get there at11pm and leave a 7am then travel to Brooklyn for an all night house sex party. 

do these clubs still exist? Website,  link to information page?

Last week we were in Santo Domingo with Manny. We end this trip with the hottest five man orgy and we all woke up to a new morning embracing and kissing ourgoodbyes. 

Niceeeeeeeeeeeee! My hubby wants to do an orgy, but I'm too chicken to indulge....did the hired guys play with each other or was it a free for all where everyone just did everyone? Any pics or videos.

Last week???? Manny really liked you guys. Said you were extremely nice and thanked me for putting his info up because hes been meeting some terrific men from this site.

My view of sex is entire body  fulfillment less to explosive orgasms, every time. 

entire body fulfillment that leads to explosive orgasms???? I fucking love your view on sex. Was the orgy in Santo domingo awkward??? One guy we see in Santo domingo is bisexual.  I want to watch him screw a chick when we go back in november. Congrats on being with your husband for all those years. I wish you uninhibited love birds many more years of happiness.  I do believe many guys confuse sex with love and cant separate the two. My husband and I truly LOVE each other and dont put too much emphasis on sex (the act) because we know it's  temporary. Our love and commitment to each other is stronger than any kind of sex act we indulge in. We find hot guys, suck, fuck, cum, wash up, then leave to go live our lives together. No strings attached. I wouldn't change it for anything in the world.

Edited October 1, 2019 by 1tennisace

[paborn]

I have always been single. My long term relationships have always been simple maintenance for Dominican guys I've wanted to be with . However, I have to mention one part of this thread:

"Can you imagine how hot a threesome would be with Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore?"

Demi Moore????

She would be a woman so no I absolutely can't imagine it as I would run. Some indignities are not worth even Kutchner's bod

[BlkSuperman]

Oh yassssss! I loved demi moore in Charlie's angles and also the movie she plays as a stripper. I loved her raspy voice and her body was killer in those movies.

You dont have girl crushes???? I'd date demi, Janet jackson, Donna summer (may she rest in peace) diana ross, jaclyn smith, Farah, and a host of other hot chicks...

[Ejay106]

Yesssss! My girlfriend back in college young hot tight sexy high yellow women, taught me 69 for  clitoris and booty hole, them Betty Davis, that mean bitch would talk shit to me like a drunk, cigarette smoking truck driver  slanging  drawers 

[BlkSuperman]

1 hour ago, Ejay106 said:

Yesssss! My girlfriend back in college young hot tight sexy high yellow women, taught me 69 for  clitoris and booty hole, them Betty Davis, that mean bitch would talk shit to me like a drunk, cigarette smoking truck driver  slanging  drawers 

Ewwwwwwwww! You 69nd with a chick in college???? I was actually bisexual from about 3rd to 7th grade.  By 8th grade I was only having sex with guys. I explored VERY EARLY in life.

[Ejay106]

Baby, I am a later bloomer with all of this . But yes I can eat a hot pussy, fuck ass and suck dick with my eyes closed. Most of all I get to eat and play with my husband 24/7. He’s more like you starting his transition early in college. It’s all good!!!!

[AdamSmith]

I sort of think we are too hung up the 'binary' notion of how to categorize all of this.

Like 55% of my hookups & longterm things have been with men, 45% with women (those were a little more short-term, like a year or two or three, so some counter-balance to the equation, but no less emotionally intense...and some endure in some form to this day).

So who knows why this 'orientation' thing merits our attention? Live the life you find at every moment as you find it!

And choose your partner in the moment as you find him/her/trans-him/trans-her as you find a mutually fulfilling compatibility.

What is so difficult about that?

[Ejay106]

You are on target!! Two things In Life that determines our destiny: 1. Being flexible 2. Having the ability to change .

like a tree’s survival in a storm to preserve it’s limbs and it’s ability after the storm to grow taller with stronger limbs.

Newton’s laws of opposite and equal reactions apply to many of our daily activities and emotions. 

Edited October 2, 2019 by Ejay106