Merida Mexico

[Tomcal]

Those who read this forum regularly know that I have a 2nd home in Merida Yucatan, Mexico.  I have been asked many times  why Merida? what's the gay life like there? Costs to live there? etc?   I, like many people had never heard of Merida(it is 90 miles west of Cancun).  Florida Rob on this site is a good friend of mine for close to 15 years and he had moved there and opened a restaurant and told me I should visit him.  His stories about how all the guys in Merida "are gay or if they aren't they want to be" lol, sounded so over the top that I wanted to go and find out.

Merida is the capital of the state of Yucatan and has a population of over !,000,000  It is considered the safest city in Mexico as it is not a route for drugs to the U.S. Unlike Cancun, there has been no killings, robberies assaults of Americans/Canadians.   The city has a expat community of  approximately 5,000+ Americans and even greater number of Canadians!  Canadians seem to have discovered Merida years ago as a 6 month winter get away that was very inexpensive.  It is also the number one city for Medical tourism in Mexico.

Merida has a International airport(MID) and has direct service from Houston on United,  Miami on American and Atlanta on Delta. It is about a 1-1/2 hr flight from either Houston or Miami.  Airfare from SoCal to Merida is usually just under $400.r/t

The Centro part of Merida has the Historic Homes that are over 100 years to 200 years old.  This is the area where most of the foreigners have bought homes as the younger Mexicans would rather move to the new suburbs rather then in the town center where their grandparents lived.  Merida is about 20 miles from the beach area which really doesn't have any major hotels...Yet.  but a 4 mile long pier was built to accommodate cruise ships.  you can still buy individual private homes on the beach for $300,000.

The city is dominated by one of the oldest churches in the Americas, built in the 1500's   the park in front of the Cathedral is where all the activities take place every night in Merida, with music, dances, food fairs, and a number of hustlers always there.  

the photo of the guy is one of the strippers at one of the four gay bars, who often swings by in the late afternoon on his way to work to ask if I want to do anything. if I say no not today he goes "ok will check with you tomorrow".  He is tall compared to most as he is 6'1", he is from a village about a 100 miles away.

[Tomcal]

Merida has 4 gay bars/clubs in town and a sauna about a 1/2 hour from the centro, 2 of them are approximately 5 blocks from my house. 

Grindr is very popular and so far about 70% of the guys i have met on there have been “free” even thou i have in my profile i am looking for business!  most have been between 20 to 24 yrs old, although there is one persistent 18 yr old that i am not interested in but he keeps messaging!   my last 10 day stay, 9 out of the 12 guys i met up with were free.  also even paid hookups last several hours to all night! If you have beer they are happy to spend the entire nights! Paid encounters run $500.Pesos ($25.US)

I have had two guys i have seen multiple times not charge after the first time!!  they just want to relax and drink beer and have sex!  Most of them have jobs so usually they get up at 6:00am to go to work, that is the only hard part, getting up to let them out! but they are back the next night to do it all over!

I have not been to the sauna in Merida but Rob has! They have special party nights, there are no escorts but as i have said in Merida that is not a issue! :-)

[SteveMtl]

After reading your post I'm thinking of spending a week in Merida this coming January.  Any recommendations for places to stay?  I will be coming from Montreal and would appreciate any advice before going.

[floridarob]

check out airbnb, some AMAZING places

[Tomcal]

My place is on Airbnb! :-) 

there are many small boutique hotels in Centro if you want to do airbnb i recommend getting a reservation soon as literally every place is rented by October for the winter by the Canadians! seriously! when i went down the 3rd time in March to look to buy there were no houses to rent they were all taken

[Tomcal]

Houses like this are available in the center of Merida!  typical costs are $90. to $170. a night, for 2 bed/ 2 bath with pool!  Caveat-house above is $230 during high season

[SteveMtl]

Thanks tomcal and floridarob 

[Tomcal]

Besides sex, there are many things to see and do in Merida and surrounding Yucatán Penninsula!

The whole area is pock marked with “Ceynotes” basically holes in the underlining limestone base which vary in size from swimming pool to large pond size swimming holes!  Many have access to them and are places to go swimming and exploring!  They form the largest underwater cave system, stretching all the way to Cancun, over 100 miles away. 

Mayan pyramids - there are over 25 locations with the Mesoamerican Pyramids that are anywhere from one to 3 hours away and many tour companies will pick you up and take you or you can rent a car,

For the nature lovers, Along the coast are several large nature preserves with huge flocks of  up to 15,000 Flamingos which can be seen most of the year, mammals such as Jaguars, Ocelots and Marguays can be found.  Also various species of Monkeys and Parrots. 

All of these places are easy day trips. 

Further to the E/SE towards Cancun and Tulum would take 3-1/2 hrs. each way and are better for a several days trip.

the last photo is the Cathedral of Merida that sits in the center of Merida and which the large park in front of has numerous activities every night, music, dances and food fairs.

[Tomcal]

Several members have asked me who is the guy in the video of the house?  He is Brazilian from Sao Paulo that came to Merida for 10 days.  Great guy! he will be coming back in the future!

[Latbear4blk]

Guys, stop trying to borrow @tomcal's findings. Find your own.

[SteveMtl]

Tomcal,  your description and photos of Merida make it sound even more enticing.  I will most definitely be going for a visit in January.

[floridarob]

plus cheap national flights when bought ahead of time....Mexico city, Monterrey are 2 favorites, even Veracruz for a weekend.

[Tomcal]

16 hours ago, Tomcal said:

Several members have asked me who is the guy in the video of the house?  He is Brazilian from Sao Paulo that came to Merida for 10 days.  Great guy! he will be coming back in the future!

more questions about the Brasilerio!

LOL “No he doesn’t work in the saunas!”

 He is currently training for a Triathlon and has lost about 10 lbs from when the video was taken in May but has increased the size of his biceps/Chest and lost 2” around his waist!

I met him thru a friend in SP!  

Yes he has a American visa, went to Disneyworld in Orlando several years ago with his first BF!  he is my 2nd most favorite Brazilian(the number 1 guy is going with me to Mexico in 2 weeks)

that is all the info i am giving out

[Latbear4blk]

I am very excited about my trip to Salvador in December, but there is something that puzzles me.

If there are as many horny hot boys available as everyone says there are; why everyone wants to fuck the same guys @tomcal is fucking. I made a joke a about it before, but seriously, why? There should be plenty of guys even hotter than this one (I hope, he is not really my type) available to be picked. Of course I think sharing is great, I have no problems at all about that, and I would do it if I am hanging out in person and there is a good vibe. But going after an Internet picture when you have hundreds of real boys to choose from? I do not get it.

I am not trying to be a bitch, I am honestly puzzled.

[Tomcal]

i think they are saying they approve of my choice and being complimentary more then anything!  Also i think that if they go to the sauna the know the guy has got to be pretty good in bed!  :-)

 But talking about personal preferences bring up a good point! I have dated / been with a lot of guys better looking then the guy above although he is certainly handsome in a rugged way! As i have gotten older, and pick out guys that fit in with the “group” personality starts counting for a lot!  When one of the guys from SP brought him to Rio for the week i was there last march, Everyone really liked him! easy going nice guy he just really fit in!  

Although even i can’t define what my type is! It is broad that’s for sure! Although the guy who is currently number 1 in my life is very handsome and smart and older(35)and we do fight about once a week, if that is any kind of clue!

[Latbear4blk]

43 minutes ago, Tomcal said:

i think they are saying they approve of my choice and being complimentary more then anything!  Also i think that if they go to the sauna the know the guy has got to be pretty good in bed!  :-)

 But talking about personal preferences bring up a good point! I have dated / been with a lot of guys better looking then the guy above although he is certainly handsome in a rugged way! As i have gotten older, and pick out guys that fit in with the “group” personality starts counting for a lot!  When one of the guys from SP brought him to Rio for the week i was there last march, Everyone really liked him! easy going nice guy he just really fit in!  

Although even i can’t define what my type is! It is broad that’s for sure! Although the guy who is currently number 1 in my life is very handsome and smart and older(35)and we do fight about once a week, if that is any kind of clue!

Thanks for your response, although I would prefer a clarification coming from the ones asking for info about your boys.

I can relate to what you say about not knowing what your type is. I do have a pretty clear type when I am looking at pictures, but it is not necessary the same if we move out of the screen to discuss how chemistry reacts in real face to face situations. Most times I keep my type consistent on age, in general I like them younger than 30. But beyond that it is very often a surprise. There are so many variables interacting with each other in a face to face situation, that it is very hard to make a prediction. I follow my dick, it is funnier than my brain. 

[Tomcal]

i agree with your age preferences in fact mine is usually under 25! that’s what surprised me about liking this guy more then any i have ever met in Brazil! He is turning 36 and i feel like a 16 yr old girl around him! :-)

[Latbear4blk]

13 minutes ago, Tomcal said:

i agree with your age preferences in fact mine is usually under 25! that’s what surprised me about liking this guy more then any i have ever met in Brazil! He is turning 36 and i feel like a 16 yr old girl around him! :-)

I cannot wait to go out hunting together.

[camsi1975]

Do the local Merida guys get a put out when you bring in a Brazilian guy...? Or do they just join in ?

[Tomcal]

1 hour ago, camsi1975 said:

Do the local Merida guys get a put out when you bring in a Brazilian guy...? Or do they just join in ?

they want to join in!!!

[floridarob]

6 hours ago, Latbear4blk said:

I cannot wait to go out hunting together.

I don't recommend it.....they'll end up with Tom, the frigate bird (Google it of you're unsure, his picture should be next to the definition , lol)

[Latbear4blk]

7 hours ago, floridarob said:

I don't recommend it.....they'll end up with Tom, the frigate bird (Google it of you're unsure, his picture should be next to the definition , lol)

Are you telling us Tom looks like this? (please notice the Everywhere Wild sign)

[Tomcal]

Frigate birds steal the food from others mid-Flight!  

Just because some boys wander into my bedroom from Rob’s because he has fallen sleep and there is a party going on in my room! :-)

[TotallyOz]

Nice LA times article on the city!

https://www.latimes.com/travel/mexico/la-tr-merida-mexico-20190217-htmlstory.html

[floridarob]

8 hours ago, TotallyOz said:

Nice LA times article on the city!

https://www.latimes.com/travel/mexico/la-tr-merida-mexico-20190217-htmlstory.html

no talk of the seedy gay places, lol