So 25 years later...

[TownsendPLocke]

I had a meet up with an acquaintance I have not seen or heard from in twenty five years recently. It was odd and awkward in so many ways.

I first had to establish that this fella was no longer using hard drugs. No I have been lied to about this by many addicts but I usually can suss out the truth quickly and make decisions using that information. I don't automatically discriminate against drug users- I just like to know what I am dealing with. This fella had used Crack in the past and that is not a drug with effects that I find pleasant. He told me he had not used Crack in four years.

The other issue I wanted to clear up was what he looked like these days. I found his FB profile but there were so many "looks" that I guessed I had to see for myself. Well he is not the young fella I played with from 25 + years ago but I have changed a lot also.

So I agreed to meet him. I asked him about going to lunch/ coffee near his place and he agreed_ asking to pick him up first. All of that was forgotten I guess when he asked me in. :(  A brief chat ( where he overshared) led to him wanting to roll around which led to a lot of uncomfortable roll play scenarios finally after an hour of me trying to get him off he got up to smoke and I got up to get dressed.and leave.

Welllllll now I have a stalker! UGH! 

I guess on the one hand I should be flattered that someone want to have sex with me for free but on the other hand...well it just is not worth the bother.

[RockHardNYC]

Tough one. Lots of thoughts running through my head.

20 hours ago, TownsendPLocke said:

I don't automatically discriminate against drug users

I do. Too much history to cause me to behave differently. Can no longer be around drug users. Instant turn-off. I'm so grateful I don't have a street urchin fetish. I work very hard to seek out escorts who care about their health. They exist.

20 hours ago, TownsendPLocke said:

I usually can suss out the truth quickly

I can, too.

20 hours ago, TownsendPLocke said:

He told me he had not used Crack in four years.

Unfortunately, lying is a symptom of addiction. Truthfulness can be found in recovery. Dealing with an addict is always a double-edged sword.

20 hours ago, TownsendPLocke said:

he is not the young fella I played with from 25 + years ago but I have changed a lot also.

Blasts from the past are fascinating. I never know what to say when that skinny, sexy beauty I played with in my teens is bloated and fat now, with four kids.

I definitely don't resemble my TV headshots from the early 80's, but I do take care of myself. Friends are kind when they tell me I'm aging well, but I know the reality. There's nothing like 25 years of life experience and the genes you inherited to put the word beauty into perspective.

20 hours ago, TownsendPLocke said:

A brief chat ( where he overshared)

Oh my, that's a killer. A tell-tale sign that someone may be lonely, and looking to talk and talk and talk.

20 hours ago, TownsendPLocke said:

which led to a lot of uncomfortable roll play scenarios finally after an hour of me trying to get him off

Sometimes, "getting off" is just too much work.

20 hours ago, TownsendPLocke said:

Welllllll now I have a stalker! UGH!

Once you open that door...

From my experience, addicts in recovery are lonely people by default. It's not good for them to be around fellow addicts. They get tired of hanging with the program folks. It's very challenging for them to make new, non-addict friends. Most non-addicts don't know how to behave or interact with someone who is in recovery. The whole thing is a rough slog.

20 hours ago, TownsendPLocke said:

I guess on the one hand I should be flattered that someone want to have sex with me for free

No amount of worthwhile pleasure comes for free. If two men aren't receiving joy in near equal amounts, there isn't much hope for a good relationship. That said, if you don't have a line of men entertaining you naked, and you enjoy looking at and touching a naked man, maybe this guy will be worth some effort. (At least until your wallet goes missing.)

[TotallyOz]

On 8/8/2018 at 3:54 AM, TownsendPLocke said:

I guess on the one hand I should be flattered that someone want to have sex with me for free but on the other hand...well it just is not worth the bother.

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Thanks for the story. I find it very cool that you met up with someone from 25 years ago. I think often we forget our past and you lived out meeting part of yours.

When I was in LA a few years back, an old trick contacted me and wanted to see me. He was from NYC. I loved sex with him as he was this thuggy massive black bodybuilder who fought professionally for a living.  I flew him to LA for a weekend. He was not the sculpted guy I remembered. Sex was still good but nothing I would have paid for. I still get messages from him from time to time and it was 20 years when I knew him.  He is the sweetest man. Just not what I was expecting.