TotallyOz Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 It is with deep regret that I tell you that Lurkerspeaks passed away yesterday. I don't have more information than that. I met up with him a few days back and he was not doing well. He was sick and went to a good hospital. I was supposed to meet him tonight. A few friends were worried they had not heard from him in a couple of days and I called the hotel. They said he passed away. RIP my friend torogen and Tartegogo 2 Quote
Guest Larstrup Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 This is simply horrible news. I had just been following his Thailand thread and had felt sorry for him becoming sick after his arrival there. Does he have family or friends who can arrange repatriation of his remains Oz? Is there anything any of us can do to help? May he rest well in the heavens. Quote
BiBottomBoy Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 Anyone know what happend? It's weird to suddenly get sick when you enter a new country. Quote
paulsf Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 This is terrible news for me. As I live in Bangkok for about 6 months a year, I was able to become good online friends with Lurkerspeaks .We talked frequently as I helped him plan trip. He was very excited for this trip, his first to Thailand. He wasn’t in the best of health. Had some issues on the flight over. Went to hospital in Bangkok and seemed to be doing ok. Was able to get out and about for a couple days of fun. Now this news. RIP Quote
Members Lucky Posted November 15, 2017 Members Posted November 15, 2017 This is immensely sad for me. I have been sharing in Lurker's enthusiasm for his trip for some time now. I wondered why he went quiet, and now I know. It's just very upsetting, and I am very sad. Quote
Members firecat691614502759 Posted November 15, 2017 Members Posted November 15, 2017 Very Sad. He worked so hard and long to plan this trip and to have this happen , when he was in a strange country with no family is just terrible. RIP Lurker Quote
Members Lucky Posted November 15, 2017 Members Posted November 15, 2017 The trip was to conclude on his 57th birthday, which is today. He had so looked forward to this trip. Quote
Tomcal Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 I am very sad! Lurker was truly one of the nice guys! We met on the street in Montreal in 2010 and talked about Brazil and his next vacation he went there! I was with him on two of his trips there! He was a great guy! RIP my friend! torogen, stripfan, TownsendPLocke and 1 other 4 Quote
Members Lucky Posted November 15, 2017 Members Posted November 15, 2017 I found lurker's Facebook page, and his last post says: I am better. still have a bit of a cold/congestion, but I am able to get out and function now.. Quote
Guest Larstrup Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 3 hours ago, Lucky said: I found lurker's Facebook page, and his last post says: I am better. still have a bit of a cold/congestion, but I am able to get out and function now.. Is it really appropriate to publicly share his personal information and life history here? In my mind, no it isn’t. Quote
Members Lucky Posted November 15, 2017 Members Posted November 15, 2017 What I posted is nothing different than what he did. No personal info is given re name, etc. You are just being a bitch on this sad day. Tomasian, floridarob and citylaw1 3 Quote
Guest Larstrup Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 53 minutes ago, Lucky said: What I posted is nothing different than what he did. No personal info is given re name, etc. You are just being a bitch on this sad day. No, lucky. Your link to his Facebook page is an open road to his real name, places of employment and so forth. All one needs to do is click on his Facebook page name From your link and his whole life is there for everyone and anyone to view. Nobody’s being a bitch here at all lucky, as noted by my earlier post. Quote
Members Latbear4blk Posted November 15, 2017 Members Posted November 15, 2017 I didnt get to know him, but it sounds like a sad and tragic story. At least, he accomplished his dream even if he passed away in his dreamed trip. my thoughts are with his friends here. as a side note, I didn’t know Oz was in Thailand. MsGuy 1 Quote
Members Lucky Posted November 15, 2017 Members Posted November 15, 2017 1 hour ago, Larstrup said: No, lucky. Your link to his Facebook page is an open road to his real name, places of employment and so forth. All one needs to do is click on his Facebook page name From your link and his whole life is there for everyone and anyone to view. Nobody’s being a bitch here at all lucky, as noted by my earlier post. Larstrup, you are correct. I hadn't realized that by including that time marker that one could click on it to get to the Facebook page. So you have taught me something. Perhaps the moderator can delete that link. My apologies to all concerned. citylaw1, OneFinger and MsGuy 3 Quote
Members RA1 Posted November 15, 2017 Members Posted November 15, 2017 I did not know Lurkerspeaks except from reading this site. If I pass away in a foreign country anyone is welcome to read my facebook page. In other words, basically no harm, no foul. And, no disrespect to anyone intended. RIP. Best regards, RA1 Quote
TotallyOz Posted November 15, 2017 Author Posted November 15, 2017 1 hour ago, Lucky said: Larstrup, you are correct. I hadn't realized that by including that time marker that one could click on it to get to the Facebook page. So you have taught me something. Perhaps the moderator can delete that link. My apologies to all concerned. The link is deleted. I know not intentional. Quote
TotallyOz Posted November 15, 2017 Author Posted November 15, 2017 9 hours ago, BiBottomBoy said: Anyone know what happend? It's weird to suddenly get sick when you enter a new country. He was sick from Day1. He got a bit worst and finally went to hospital. I didn’t think anything of him telling me that the manager of the hotel took him to the doctor but in hindsight, that is a indication of how sick he became. Quote
Guest Larstrup Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 2 hours ago, Lucky said: Larstrup, you are correct. I hadn't realized that by including that time marker that one could click on it to get to the Facebook page. So you have taught me something. Perhaps the moderator can delete that link. My apologies to all concerned. The covenant of lurker’s confidentiality was my only motivation in expressing my concern. Typically, most content (links in this case) you might post here or elsewhere from Facebook will always have a back-link in it to one’s personal main homepage. Quote
Members BigK Posted November 15, 2017 Members Posted November 15, 2017 This is really sad news. My thoughts go out to all Lurker's family and friends. 57 is far too young to die. I hope that there are not difficulties in getting him or his ashes home. On my recent trip to Europe I had Travel Insurance (thankfully unused), but I have no idea if there were provisions for death abroad. We should all leave instructions on how to handle death abroad. I have no idea what I would if someone in my family died abroad or what my family would do if I passed. Thank you to those of you who knew him for telling us here as much as possible without infringing on his anonymity. TownsendPLocke 1 Quote
Members Popular Post azdr0710 Posted November 15, 2017 Members Popular Post Posted November 15, 2017 lurkerspeaks once put out a call in 2012 asking if any forum members wanted to join him on a trip to Rio....I bit and am so glad I did it .....we hung out for a week, doing all the things one does in Rio, and even got to hang out with tomcal.....both of them had been in Rio before and it made my trip, obviously, much easier...... he was one of the good guys...... AdamSmith, MsAnn, Tomcal and 2 others 5 Quote
AdamSmith Posted November 15, 2017 Posted November 15, 2017 Too tragic and sad. He was a kind, giving person, and one who never failed an opportunity to reach out and seize life. Time spent together at Phoenix Pride and Dick's Cabaret are warm memories. My great thanks to @Lucky for first introducing us. He is missed. RIP. TownsendPLocke 1 Quote
Members Popular Post TownsendPLocke Posted November 15, 2017 Members Popular Post Posted November 15, 2017 I shared LurkerSpeaks penchant for Insomnia. So I was awake when I got a mysterious pm at 2 a.m. asking me if I knew of any family contacts for him. This was after telling him repeatedly to stop messing about with OCT meds and go to a clinic (and giving him the name of a recommended clinic) a few days ago. On Sunday he confirmed that he was at the clinic. And then no further communication from LurkerSpeaks. I asked a mutual friend to investigate and this morning I got confirmation of my fear. Much thanks to TotallyOz for doing this for our community. I have lost a dear personal friend as well a fellow Hoovillian. I have been trying to process this sad news all day The fact that he left this world on the eve of his birthday makes this all the more tragic. LurkerSpeaks died as I hope to die. On an adventure! May he now rest in peace. Latbear4blk, MsAnn, Tomcal and 2 others 5 Quote
Members TownsendPLocke Posted November 16, 2017 Members Posted November 16, 2017 2 hours ago, TotallyOz said: He was sick from Day1. He got a bit worst and finally went to hospital. I didn’t think anything of him telling me that the manager of the hotel took him to the doctor but in hindsight, that is a indication of how sick he became. One note on that. He shared with me how touched he was by the sympathetic care and concern he received from the staff at the hotel and at the clinic. It speaks volumes about the warmth of the Thai people. axiom2001 1 Quote