Guest Hoover42 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 A stripper I met recently has been hinting of financial problems, and I suspect I may be hit up for help soon. I know his situation is not good at home--he's on welfare--so I'm tempted to help where I can, but I fear that would be a bad idea. Sadly, I don't have unlimited funds. I know this is a common issue, so I thought I'd reach out and get your thoughts. Thanks Quote
Members BigK Posted October 25, 2015 Members Posted October 25, 2015 If he's willing to work for it, and you're interested in hiring him I would limit your financial contributions to hiring. Are you interested in him sexually? Do you have work around the house you need done? Any need for a personal assistant a couple days a week. I think there is plenty of public assistance necessary for those who need it. A healthy young man should be able to support himself. If you judge that he prefers to hold his hand out rather then put that effort towards working then I would not help him. OneFinger 1 Quote
TotallyOz Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 If a few hundred would help him and you don't mind spending it, give it to him. Then, if he needs more, let him work for it. I don't mind helping someone I believe truly has need but there is a limit. In no circumstance would I lend anyone money. It is either a gift or nothing. That said, I have one Thai guy who asked me for about 1,000 many years ago. I gave it to him. He opened up a small juice cart. That has now turned into a restaurant and all from the 1,000 I gave him. It is one of the very few times where I felt like I had not wasted my money on someone. The rest of the ones, I chalk up to trying to help failures. I am ok with those as well. AdamSmith and Theolover 2 Quote
Members Suckrates Posted October 25, 2015 Members Posted October 25, 2015 Grandma would really like to help those needy young men, but I am on a fixed income, and Metamucil has gotten quite expensive. So I have found ways OTHER THAN monetary to help them out ... AdamSmith and ihpguy 2 Quote
Members MsGuy Posted October 25, 2015 Members Posted October 25, 2015 Grandma would really like to help those needy young men, but I am on a fixed income, .... So I have found ways OTHER THAN monetary to help them out ... In this, as in so much else, Grandma proved to be ahead of her time: MsAnn 1 Quote
Members MsAnn Posted October 25, 2015 Members Posted October 25, 2015 I'm with Bigvalboy on this one.... Quote
Guest Hoover42 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 I'm with Bigvalboy on this one.... You get around! Quote
Guest Hoover42 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Thanks for the feedback! It really helped me decide I how I wanted to respond. After tossing and turning all night, I knew this was going to nag at me, so I texted the guy this morning with my official position statement, worded very diplomatically, that I hope will stop this from going any further. It's not over yet, but I'm about 80% less nervous now Nervous, you ask? Have you seen my avatar? That's how I'm wired! And I will definitely think twice about giving out my phone number to random strippers. Quote
Members Suckrates Posted October 25, 2015 Members Posted October 25, 2015 You get around! They are practically "inseparable"...... Thanks for the feedback! It really helped me decide I how I wanted to respond. After tossing and turning all night, I knew this was going to nag at me, so I texted the guy this morning with my official position statement, worded very diplomatically, that I hope will stop this from going any further. It's not over yet, but I'm about 80% less nervous now Nervous, you ask? Have you seen my avatar? That's how I'm wired! And I will definitely think twice about giving out my phone number to random strippers. Hoover, Nothing to be nervous about. If the vermin gives you a "shakedown", just call the cops... but Granny suggests telling them to bring their "big gun", and always ask for a "Frisking"..... It's a win / win........ MsAnn 1 Quote
Guest Hoover42 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 They are practically "inseparable"...... Hoover, Nothing to be nervous about. If the vermin gives you a "shakedown", just call the cops... but Granny suggests telling them to bring their "big gun", and always ask for a "Frisking"..... It's a win / win........ Thanks, Grandma! I feel better already. Really. Quote
Members MsAnn Posted October 25, 2015 Members Posted October 25, 2015 And I will definitely think twice about giving out my phone number to random strippers. Just a suggestion, but I have what I call "The Bone Phone" ..It is a pre-paid phone from the grocery store, and is used ONLY for the stripper boys. Ms Ann gets a little tipsy after a couple of Gin and Tonics, and I tend to fall in love with everyone, and I love giving out my number, ya know because I'm so sure that they are in love with me also, and can't wait to call. Now when the "Bone Phone" rings, I know it's one of the kids from the club, and I can choose to answer it or not. ..easy peasy. paulsf, AdamSmith and MsGuy 3 Quote
Members Suckrates Posted October 25, 2015 Members Posted October 25, 2015 Just a suggestion, but I have what I call "The Bone Phone" ..It is a pre-paid phone from the grocery store, and is used ONLY for the stripper boys. Ms Ann gets a little tipsy after a couple of Gin and Tonics, and I tend to fall in love with everyone, and I love giving out my number, ya know because I'm so sure that they are in love with me also, and can't wait to call. Now when the "Bone Phone" rings, I know it's one of the kids from the club, and I can choose to answer it or not. ..easy peasy. Grandma cant afford no fucking "Bone phone". I just write my number on THESE and let the boy keep em... If he calls, you know he's into you. MsAnn and MsGuy 2 Quote
AdamSmith Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 and Metamucil has gotten quite expensive. Psst! Grandma needs to know the Walmart store brand is half the price. This stuff is the shits. MsAnn 1 Quote
