TotallyOz Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 I was having breakfast with a guy this morning and he is here on holiday. He has a few regular boys he sees and enjoys his time here. He has one boy that is trying to hook him for a long term deal. The Farang told him that he was here to be a butterfly and not to fall in love. He said he would be good to the boy but not looking for a LTR. I can see the benefits of this and I often say that I would love to be this way but I seem to be more a LTR kind of a guy. I still like to play but am always open to the long term thing. I wonder how many people that spend the majority of time here are looking for a steady as opposed to the flight of the butterfly? I was at a party last night and there were many older distinguished gentlemen there. Many of them seemed to be in LTR and not looking for play. For some of them, the word Sunee or Boyztown would be hard to swallow. Me, I love the bars and the activity of the night and all that goes with it. I do have a boyfriend for a long term but I also love the other end of the spectrum. Quote
KhorTose Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 I do have a boyfriend for a long term but I also love the other end of the spectrum. Yes, I like their ends also. Quote
Guest xiandarkthorne Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 One of the best benefits of admitting that I am both beautiful as well as transient is that I no longer come to LOS hoping to find someone who'll really, really, really love me...now I don't have to worry about piteous emails begging for money for life-saving operation on mum/dad/grandpa/grandma/lil bor/lil sis/darling buffalo...and my wallet is feeling less stressed out, too. Quote
Guest luvthai Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Unfortunaletly i am not able to stay for long periods of time in thailand. LTR's are hard enough to maintain and if one is trying to do it long distance it is most likely to fail. Being 10,000 miles away when a problem arises can be most difficult to handle.. I will not keep another mans boy. I tried the long distance thing only to find that I was one of many sending money. It is easier being a butterfly and a lot easier on the heart. Quote
Guest MonkeySee Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 In the past, I have been in a LTR (10 years) with a young man in my home country. Those days are over. Trying to maintain a healthy relationship with a guy 13 years your junior was difficult at times, but worth the effort. Trying to maintain a healthy relationship with a Thai guy with the cultural, language and generational differences is almost impossible for me. I do enjoy seeing a boy on a regular basis, almost like a BF, but overall I am a butterfly. Variety is the spice of life and butterflies are free. Quote
KhorTose Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 In the past, I have been in a LTR (10 years) with a young man in my home country. Those days are over. Trying to maintain a healthy relationship with a guy 13 years your junior was difficult at times, but worth the effort. Trying to maintain a healthy relationship with a Thai guy with the cultural, language and generational differences is almost impossible for me. I do enjoy seeing a boy on a regular basis, almost like a BF, but overall I am a butterfly. Variety is the spice of life and butterflies are free. Well said, but on the other hand, I miss the connection and usually end up with just one guy when I come to Thailand. Now I am in a LTR and MonkeySee is correct, it is very hard. Nevertheless, any thing worth having is worth working hard for. Quote
Guest shockdevil Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 My BF tells me I am a Butterfly in Thailand. For some reason, when I come to Thailand I enjoy sexual variety. I love my LTR with my BF and am loyal to the relationship, however, when I am there I tend to play around with a few guys. Since most of the guys I meet are not money-boys, the financial aspect is at a minimum. For me, the Butterfly benefit: Not being sexually bored when in Thailand The downside: Too much sex and not wanting any when I travel back home to the BF Quote
Guest Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 Yes, I like their ends also. LOL Perv. One of the best benefits of admitting that I am both beautiful as well as transient is that I no longer come to LOS hoping to find someone who'll really, really, really love me...now I don't have to worry about piteous emails begging for money for life-saving operation on mum/dad/grandpa/grandma/lil bor/lil sis/darling buffalo...and my wallet is feeling less stressed out, too. So true. If you are looking for love in Thailand, you are often looking for it in all the wrong places. When you take a boy from a bar, there is a slight chance of him ever being able to fall in love with you. It is a business and money is money. What we have to realize is where the relationship starts is often where it will end as well. Hard to start with a business nature and become true lovers and true love. Luckily, I am one of the very few here who have found love. That, or he is so good that I can't see the difference and in either case, it is good for me at this moment. Quote
Guest MonkeySee Posted November 3, 2008 Posted November 3, 2008 I love my LTR with my BF and am loyal to the relationship, however, when I am there I tend to play around with a few guys. Is it possible to be loyal to your BF and your LTR and still be a butterfly? I guess if BF knows and maybe joins in, anything is possible! Quote
Guest shockdevil Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Is it possible to be loyal to your BF and your LTR and still be a butterfly? I guess if BF knows and maybe joins in, anything is possible! My BF and I discuss my behavior when I am in Thailand. When he is in Thailand with me, he is quite the participant (and sometimes organizer). He knows that when I am on holiday in Thailand my addiction for sexual variety kicks in. However, when I am anywhere other than Thailand I am perfectly fine with just being with my BF. Reminds me of the post “Are you addicted to Thailand?” http://www.gaythailand.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=3004 Quote
Guest MonkeySee Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 My BF and I discuss my behavior when I am in Thailand. When he is in Thailand with me, he is quite the participant (and sometimes organizer). He knows that when I am on holiday in Thailand my addiction for sexual variety kicks in. However, when I am anywhere other than Thailand I am perfectly fine with just being with my BF. Sounds like you have the best of both worlds. Good for you. I hope your butterfly activity makes your relationship stronger and fuller. Quote
Guest laurence Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Is it possible to be loyal to your BF and your LTR and still be a butterfly? I guess if BF knows and maybe joins in, anything is possible! In my case, the answer is Yes! He knows I am a butterfly and gets extremely jealous if he see me with another thai. But we agree to Don't Ask, Don't Tell and Look The Other Way. Quote
