Community Comity Commission (CCC): IMPORTANT PLEASE READ

[TotallyOz]

As several people have asked today about a member being banned from the site, I thought I would share the rules with you. Anyone can propose the banning of another member. See the above thread in full detail.

[RA1]

Just as a reminder, I re-read the whole thread. I don't think I learned anything new except perhaps that 9 is 50% of 16 plus one. 8 being 50% of 16 + 1 = 9.

Generally the only ban I am in favor of is the bahnhof.

Best regards,

RA1

[AdamSmith]

[RA1]

AS-

I thought you liked your guys hot and stinky? Was that someone else?

Best regards,

RA1

[AdamSmith]

The deodorant is for ME, of course.

[RA1]

"They" don't like you hot and stinky?

Best regards,

RA1

[AdamSmith]

The deodorant ensures my aging carcass is not more than stinky.

[citylaw1]

Oy Vey

[AdamSmith]

"They" don't like you hot and stinky?

P.S.

[Guest hitoallusa]

Oh my AS Ca---- is a bit strong word... Let's use nice words and be positive.. Aging isn't that bad after all..

[AdamSmith]

Oh my AS Ca---- is a bit strong word... Let's use nice words and be positive.. Aging isn't that bad after all..

I was being very positive! I didn't say corpse, cadaver, carrion, compost...

[Guest hitoallusa]

Well you got me there again..

I was being very positive! I didn't say corpse, cadaver, carrion, compost...

[AdamSmith]

Well you got me there again..

...nor coprolite, nor coprophage!

[Guest hitoallusa]

Did you know those terms already or you had to look them up? You are so knowledgeable! You will be the love seed donor for our children.. :smile:

[ihpguy]

I volunteer to design the flowers.

[Suckrates]

Me, Me, Me - Bridesmaid duty

[wayout]

And I want to be the ring bearer....

[Guest hitoallusa]

Thank you guys!

[Guest ButtWilde]

I volunteer to design the flowers.

I volunteer to be the relationship counselor when things get bumpy. (or the lack thereof the latter)

[AdamSmith]

when things get bumpy. (or the lack thereof the latter)

Aye, there's the rub!

Or, as you say, precisely not.

[lookin]

Clearing his inbox for the zillionth time,
OZ grows nostalgic for Saudi Arabia

[TotallyOz]

Lookin, you are so fucking clever dude! You amazing me.  I love the photo. It also made me horny.

And, can you believe that no one has initiated this action?

[citylaw1]

Other than the obvious stalking, personal info, hate speech, etc., I really can't believe that posters here care enough to write emails requesting banning an anonymous poster from an escort review and discussion site, have the time or inclination to author said requests, or lack the ability to ignore topics and discussions that rattle their cages.  Maybe I'm missing something, or perhaps some posters should hire some escorts and fill their time, and this board, with some reviews to help me find a twink to take to Maui.  Feel free to call me names, and rest assured, I will not be emailing the admins to ban you for it. 

[RockHardNYC]

I can't believe someone (Oz) actually took the time to write Page 1 of this thread. But I suppose somewhere along this endeavor it became necessary.

I also didn't know Oz was/is a lawyer. I guess I'm not surprised. I know a few lawyers who struggle with persuasive writing skill.

To moderate or not to moderate? That is the question. Or maybe the accurate question should be, how do I moderate properly? I can tell you this: It costs money to moderate properly, and if you're not willing to spend, you often get what you pay for.

There are other, more cost-effective ways to moderate properly, but it requires an owner with a highly creative mind and perhaps a superior intellect. Daddy did not and will not ever have that. I'm not putting any money on Oz, either, even though my intention is not to offend him. I'm just stating what is factual, based on my observations.

I've always been attracted to the idea of a private men's club of like-minded men who valued and cherished the art of finding and enjoying the perfect escort. The concept is grand, some men are deserving, but the execution is a whole other story. And the awful truth about this fantasy: There's no real money to be made so the effort has to be a labor of love.

Without gentlemanly decorum, these "free" forums can quickly plummet into a bloodbath of naked hate, anger, bitterness, and sabotage. Haters are on the rise on the internet. It's impossible not to notice and be affected by it.

I'm not a fan of hate-speak (unless writing for a character), and it should never be confused or excused as skin-thickening, artful discourse. Hate-speak is obvious to me, but I have strong opinions about the writing voice, and I am not the owner of this board. In the short time I've been on this board, it's clear my line gets crossed.

I doubt there is anything that can be done, at least to fully please me. My new strategy is to ignore the members whom I believe are TROLLS. It won't take much brain cell to figure out who I think these folks are.

Decisions concerning decorum are entirely based on the owner's outlook on gay life and manners. Rules almost always begin and end at the top.

Setting the rules of decorum is not an easy task, especially when the board is free and open to potential trolls. You're never going to please everyone. Every group will always have one or two who never stop bitching about something. And there will always be an escort who wishes to crush the competition.

In my opinion, and I'm repeating myself here, the only way to control TROLL behavior is to charge a membership fee. People who pay for their enjoyment tend to treat their favorite toys with more respect. Not only does this create a financial resource for the site, it attracts serious men who are serious about the subject matter. It also discourages men who don't hire from coming here and disrupting respectful camaraderie.

If an owner decides to charge for admission, he better offer a website experience like no other. Not only does that mean spectacular graphic design, fabulous photography, and probably a custom code writer to create a seamless UI, it also requires an owner with a talented creative vision and a strong business mission. Snapping your fingers and saying, "OK, today you pay an entrance fee.," will not work. In fact, it will fail. Gay men are way too smart for that greed-ridden tactic.

So, dear readers, try to understand this beast is not easy to tame and control. Be grateful there is a second choice. A lot of gay men don't want another "daddy" figure in their life.

[lookin]

Personally, I think OZ does a great job of moderating, starting with his longstanding request for posters to try to moderate themselves.  He's always been clear that he doesn't want to spend his every waking hour herding cats.

Earlier in this thread, he even went so far as to invite some of us Board members to become moderators ourselves, including yours truly.  As I had recently had my head examined, I was unable to take him up on his kind offer.  

If I were a moderator, I'm sure I'd have a lot less patience than OZ has shown recently.  Thirty-day timeouts would flow liberally, like April showers, and the third strike would be the last.

 

I'd also ask the programmers to automate part of the process.  Fr'instance, I'd ask them to allow everyone to make one final post in a Sandbox thread, and I'd ask them to limit it to a thousand characters.  After that, your post button would stop working.  

Most of all, as OZ has done, I'd shift the responsibility to us posters to make sure we stay within the lines.  There are no dummies here, and anyone who wants to be a valued member of the community has the moxie to do so.

Anyhoo, that's my take and, rather than ask OZ to do more in the way of moderating, I'd suggest asking him to do less.

With all the hours that are freed up, perhaps he could go to work on some kind of a Daily Fantasy Forum.