Guest Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 He did say July 21, so he still has a couple days to make his decision. Here's another possibility: Why not reverse it? Instead of them coming to stay at your condo, why not go to Kanchanaburi yourself? That way, you can be the one who stays in a hotel - without having to deal with the 10 year old being under the same roof, can check to see if the 10 year old is really his brother, get your camcorder back, make your decisions as to whether you want the boyfriend in your life, and make an easy retreat if you decide things aren't going to work out. The worst that can happen would be, if nothing else, you get a short holiday out of it. Personally, I think this is a brilliant idea. It not only gives you a chance to access the situation but to get to know your boy more in his natural settings.
Guest joseph44 Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Personally, I think this is a brilliant idea. It not only gives you a chance to access the situation but to get to know your boy more in his natural settings. Of course this is a stupid idea: Take the boys to the (tourist) police and let them make some kind of statement, that the 10 yo will stay in your condo for a certain number of days and that his 20yo brother will be his legal guardian. If the police refuses to make such statement, or advises you not to take the 10 yo in, you have a good reason to send them both home. IF you decide to take the 10 yo in as a guest, please beware of the fact that a couple of days might become a couple of months/years, and that you will have to take care 2 boys: your bf and his brother and that you have to deal with 2 Thais instead of 1.
Gaybutton Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 But with this last post I feel you've come off the rails. First, I see no post where anyone accuses you of being a pedophile. Second, if I missed such a post, you're going to have to explain to me how my saying "Gentlemen" lumps you within anything. Oh my God, I said "Gentlemen"!!! Isn't that terrible? Third, I haven't mentioned this before but you have kind of a bizarre writing style and sometimes it's difficult to figure out just what the hell you're talking about. We don't close threads around here unless people start violating the posting rules or the moderators determine there is a problem. I see no problems. You asked for advice. Now it seems to me that you resent receiving advice you don't want to hear. I think you were hoping to hear people telling you not to have concerns about the 10 year old. Also, others may find themselves in a similar situation one of these days. The advice being given on this thread doesn't necessarily apply solely to you and your own situation. I've given you my advice with complete sincerity. I believe everyone who has posted on this thread has done the same thing. Take it or leave it.
Guest yedo Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Why are you looking for trouble? This is Thailand , be prepared for the worst. Go visit the 10 year olds family and its not a problem , stay in a hotel and relax. But when you already know that the 20 year old boy stole your cam, my advice is to forget him and move on with your life. At least try to find an honest moneyboy.
Guest Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Of course this is a stupid idea You referred to my post as stupid? Why? I was agreeing that the guy should visit the boys home and stay in a hotel. Why is this stupid? At least try to find an honest moneyboy. That is almost impossible. to do. In order for them to get "in" with a falang, they feel they have to tell the guy what he wants to hear. Many will not continue if they say they have a bf, ladyboy or like ladies. First, find a guy you like and then build that trust up. It is a slow process but the more he knows you really do care for him and want the relationship built on honesty (without repercussions) the more honestly you will have. Don't set them up to lie and be dishonest. If you don't want to know something, don't put them into a situation that requires them to answer the way you want them to instead of the honest way. Just my humble opinion.
Guest joseph44 Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 You referred to my post as stupid? Why? I was agreeing that the guy should visit the boys home and stay in a hotel. Why is this stupid? "Of course this is a stupid idea. (full stop)" means: this refers to your post!! "Of course this is a stupid idea: (double dot)" means: that what written after is a stupid idea. In my post i used a ":" which means...........
Guest Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 "Of course this is a stupid idea. (full stop)" means: this refers to your post!! "Of course this is a stupid idea: (double dot)" means: that what written after is a stupid idea. In my post i used a ":" which means........... Wow. You have confused the hell of of me. You seem to be good with dots and double dots. What about the question WHY? I did not suggest he take the boy to his Condo. I suggested he visit the family and stay in a hotel. Why would he need to check with the tourist police to visit his boyfriend and the boyfriends family? I would love to understand why this idea is stupid? Help this legally blond out here. (Well, I use to be blond, now I am more grey but I still think like a blond)
Guest LP Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Asmerom, this is an open forum and to the extent moderators allow people to post you may see a variety of views and opinions. Try to be rational. Ignore offences. Do not think that your situation is special. It is quite obvious that you have already developed a strong emotional connection with the guy. I can safely say that all of us were there. Rule number one: you need to be able to cut your losses. Forget about the camera. We all lose much more in our lives. The fate of the camera should not be a part of your consideration. Rule number two: most so-called long-distance relationships in Thailand do not survive reality check. Vast majority of farangs who retire in Thailand lose their long-distanced friends during a period between two weeks and a couple of years after permanent move to Thailand. There are mostly two reasons for that: first, one thing is to spend with someone several weeks during a year and another thing is to live with someone permanently, second: farang in retirement typically has much more limited financial capabilities than farang on vacations.On the other hand, many retired farangs have long-term Thai bf whom they met after they permanently moved in Thailand. If you do not plan for a very long stay in Thailand right now, take things easy. They will not last anyway. I am not here to demonize Thais. Most of them are quite decent, gentle people which mean no harm. You may be lucky this time and many more times until you run out of luck. Rule number 3: Never create a temptation for Thai. Especially one coming from a very poor background.
Guest Asmerom Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Asmerom, this is an open forum and to the extent moderators allow people to post you may see a variety of views and opinions. Try to be rational. Ignore offences. Do not think that your situation is special. Rule number one: you need to be able to cut your losses. Rule number two: most so-called long-distance relationships in Thailand do not survive reality check. Rule number 3: Never create a temptation for Thai. Especially one coming from a very poor background. It is with deep regret that I have to report that Asmerom, who used to contribute to this thread until he found it made his eyes water, was carried off on a stretcher late this afternoon suffering from a bruised ego,battered self esteem,advice indigestion and message fatigue.Its often a fatal combination. However, in this case, we are happy to report that although he can't yet take solid foods, the patient is sitting up in bed, and taking liquids of an indescribable nature. Unfortunately, the long term prognosis is not so good. It is unlikely he will ever recover the full use of all his faculties.His tolerance of ffffools may not survive intact, and his peculiar writing style may suffer ; he might abandon the archaic use of semi-colons,he might even use words of two syllables where three would indubitably suffice. On the other hand its possible his reluctance to act as the coconut shy for those in desperate need of a target will likely continue unscathed and he may still look forward to being thoroughly misunderstood by the great and good. But, hold on, I've just been informed the patient has had a relapse and has suddenly fallen into a deep state of unconciousness. I must quickly end here.In cases such as this, its my experience that only rarely does the patient regain conciousness so its highly unlikely he will ever be able to respond to all those kind words of wisdom which have addressed his earlier predicament. A special mention must be made of this last post by LP,which I'm sure Asmerom would have found to be most encouraging in its cool, calm, objective view of the overall picture. That is not to belittle the many others which have been similarly intelligent. One of GB's more restrained posts was the most original idea of going to visit the family in Kanchanaburi. Brilliant. However,now that the cause of all this mental ferment is no longer with us,I must warn that GET WELL Wishes will not be welcome and GOOD RIDDANCE messages will be binned.
Guest fountainhall Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Sad as I am to hear of Asmerom's alleged condition, I trust he in no way blames any member of this Board. Let's not forget how this all started - Jul 16 2008, 09:08 PM Post #1 I guess I already know the explosions of mirth and condemnation followed by dire warnings of the wrath that's likely to fall on my innocent head ,after you hear my question. In other words, the patient was perfectly well aware of the outcome. Why therefore pose the question in the first place? Has this all been some kind of joke?
Guest lester1 Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 It took me a while to work out but now its clear. Asmerom (aka Isamoron) must be laughing his socks off whilst all of us fell for the joke like idiots. Congrats Asmerom on the wind up. The thread had just the right mixture of pathetic asking for advice, innocence about relationships and a whiff of paedophilia thrown in to make all us readers reach for our keyboards and start tapping away. I have seen this done on other boards, where we are constantly reminded to 'not feed the trolls'. We should all be ashamed of ourselves for falling for it; congrats again Isamoron, nice one!!!
Guest Asmerom Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 It took me a while to work out but now its clear. Asmerom (aka Isamoron) must be laughing his socks off whilst all of us fell for the joke like idiots. Congrats Asmerom on the wind up. The thread had just the right mixture of pathetic asking for advice, innocence about relationships and a whiff of paedophilia thrown in to make all us readers reach for our keyboards and start tapping away. I have seen this done on other boards, where we are constantly reminded to 'not feed the trolls'. We should all be ashamed of ourselves for falling for it; congrats again Isamoron, nice one!!! Speaking as the medical representative of our saintly Asmerom here on Earth I do extend a most hearty welcome to the last two idiotic posters as it clearly illustrates the fact that life, however low, continues to thrive under the woodwork. However, realizing that GB, our Lord and Master is omnipresent and has clearly demonstrated his wish that intelligent "gentlemen" such as yourselves be allowed free rein to vent your spleen,I refrain from responding. Should your target feel inclined to do so --he'd better watch out. I think our revered and saintly Asmerom might possibly refer back to his request to close this thread as at this degenerative stage in its life it does tend to attract all sorts of unsavoury wildlife. I wonder you two "gentlemen" (as GB would say)didn't express your sincere wishes for our saintly Asmerom's speedy recovery.
Gaybutton Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 GB, our Lord and Master is omnipresent You're right about that. Remember when I said we don't close a thread unless it becomes a problem? This is it. Now it has become a problem. Name calling and personal attacks have begun. Thread closed.
