Where can I find an honest thai bf in Pattaya?

[Guest yedo]

I have been here before searching the bars but all I could find was moneyboys.

 

Now maybe Pattaya is not the right city but I enjoy the nightlife.

 

I am ready for a long relationship .

 

Im 42 and still goodlookin I think , maybe young thais only after farangs money?

 

If anyone can suggest a place in Pattaya where its easy to find new friends without thinking about moneyboys I would appreciate it.

 

Sorry about my poor english.

[Guest luvthai]

Do you think yu can walk into a bar and have someone fall in love with you? There are many good boys in the bar but it takes time to earn thier trust. Try taking the time to build a relationship and don't think it is an overnight thing. The overnight love matches seldom last more than a couple weeks as you have not taken the time to know each other. If your looking for a college guy then you need to be in Bangkok or Chiang Mai. If your looking in bars than its definately going to be a money thing at first.

[Guest JoeM]

luvthai has given you good advice.

 

It will take time to find a boy in a bar that will match your criteria. You may be more successful, but will need the same degree of care, looking in non-bar venue.

 

No matter where you look, time, trust and patience will be needed to find your dream.

 

Looking beyond Pattaya in non-tourist locals is more likely to bring you in contact with non-jaded boys. Again, it will take time.

 

You are likely to find many who will be expecting someone who can provide security and support in one form or another.

 

Eyes open and take time.

[Guest Asmerom]

I have been here before searching the bars but all I could find was moneyboys.

 

Now maybe Pattaya is not the right city but I enjoy the nightlife.

 

I am ready for a long relationship .

 

Have you tried gayromeo.com?. You can search for a boy in your preferred age group who lives in Pattata-Chonburi.

 

It would be best maybe to choose only those boys who say in their profile they are searching for friends and relationship. Leave out those who want a sexdate.

 

You will be spoilt for choice.

 

 

[Guest]

I have been here before searching the bars but all I could find was moneyboys.

 

Well, my dear, if you are looking in bars, the likelihood of you finding a money boy is pretty much 100 percent. But, there are money boys that are honest. It is a needle in a haystack search as like us falangs, they endure lots of BS and they try to tell Falang what they think they want to hear. If you want honestly, be prepared a willingness to change your expectations on what you want in a relationship.

[payless]

I have been here before searching the bars but all I could find was moneyboys.

 

Now maybe Pattaya is not the right city but I enjoy the nightlife.

 

I am ready for a long relationship .

 

Im 42 and still goodlookin I think , maybe young thais only after farangs money?

 

If anyone can suggest a place in Pattaya where its easy to find new friends without thinking about moneyboys I would appreciate it.

 

Sorry about my poor english.

 

There are many Thai guys around your age who are not money boys (prostitutes). I don't understand why you think they are. Of course if you are a middle-aged man looking for guys a generation younger than you then why should you not pay. After all they are looking for a sugar daddy and you are old enough to be their daddy.

In Pattaya as suggested try Romeo, or fitness centres and eye up a few of the older security guards or even older motor bike taxi drivers.

 

[Gaybutton]

There are many Thai guys around your age who are not money boys (prostitutes).

 

I agree with Payless. There really are plenty of young, sincere, honest boys around, but the bars are the last places I would go to look for them. I agree you will find some on Gay Romeo and similar web sites, but be very careful. The money boys know all about those sites too and they take full advantage.

 

The beach is also a good place to look, but you have to be careful there too. There are many beach regulars who are excellent at making farang believe they are absolutely honest and sincere, and all they're really doing is trying to get their hooks into you.

 

In Bangkok, you might also try the Babylon Sauna. A great many honest Thais go there and I've met many who are a bit older, want a farang boyfriend, are great looking, and are not money boys in any way. I would schedule at least two tries at Babylon. Some days hardly anyone is there and some days there are many. In Pattaya, the Sansuk Sauna might be a good place to look, but someone else will have to tell you about the boys who go there. The last time I was there was at least eight months ago.

 

I think the most reliable way to find a truly honest, sincere boy who is looking for a genuine relationship is to talk to farang who live in Pattaya and have gotten to know these boys. I, for one, know several boys who fit into that category and many of my friends also know honest, sincere boys and would be glad to introduce you to them. We also are well aware which boys you would do well to avoid.

[Guest yedo]

Thanks , some great answers to my question here ,

surely there must be bars in Pattaya you can enjoy a beer and just chat with local Thais and maybe expats too?

 

Im not looking for older security guards like some of you suggested, but my preferred age group is 20-32 , just have to find the honest ones out there.

 

I have looked through some GayRomeo profiles but most of them look like moneyboys just waiting for sex tourists.

 

Gaybutton I know what you mean with "sincere boys" , they talk to you in the language you want to hear, in the end it was just another act.

 

Maybe I should just forget Pattaya and try Chiang Mai instead , Its more "relaxed" up there I've been told...

 

 

I agree with Payless. There really are plenty of young, sincere, honest boys around, but the bars are the last places I would go to look for them. I agree you will find some on Gay Romeo and similar web sites, but be very careful. The money boys know all about those sites too and they take full advantage.

 

The beach is also a good place to look, but you have to be careful there too. There are many beach regulars who are excellent at making farang believe they are absolutely honest and sincere, and all they're really doing is trying to get their hooks into you.

 

In Bangkok, you might also try the Babylon Sauna. A great many honest Thais go there and I've met many who are a bit older, want a farang boyfriend, are great looking, and are not money boys in any way. I would schedule at least two tries at Babylon. Some days hardly anyone is there and some days there are many.

 

I think the most reliable way to find a truly honest, sincere boy who is looking for a genuine relationship is to talk to farang who live in Pattaya and have gotten to know these boys. I, for one, know several boys who fit into that category and many of my friends also know honest, sincere boys and would be glad to introduce you to them. We also are well aware which boys you would do well to avoid.

 

[Guest Asmerom]

I think the most reliable way to find a truly honest, sincere boy who is looking for a genuine relationship is to talk to farang who live in Pattaya and have gotten to know these boys. I, for one, know several boys who fit into that category and many of my friends also know honest, sincere boys and would be glad to introduce you to them. We also are well aware which boys you would do well to avoid.

 

I'm surprised Yedo didn't take advantage of what seemed like an unbeatable offer to meet and exchange valuable information on various boys known by GB and friends who would fit Yedo's criteria. How else could the boys be introduced?

 

Instead, he veered off the point and his thoughts wandered off to Chiang Mai where I imagine he will encounter the same problem.

[Guest joseph44]

I'm surprised Yedo didn't take advantage of what seemed like an unbeatable offer to meet and exchange valuable information on various boys known by GB and friends who would fit Yedo's criteria. How else could the boys be introduced?

 

Instead, he veered off the point and his thoughts wandered off to Chiang Mai where I imagine he will encounter the same problem.

 

IMHO it's as difficult to find a suitable partner in Thailand as anywhere else. The number of gays per 100 is no more than in any other country. It may seem that Thailand is a gay paradise, but the %-age

gays is merely the same.

Yes, there are a lot more gay-acting guys, but they are not gay!!!

 

The chance that you are going to be in a relationship based on 100% love (mutual) is not very big.

 

[Gaybutton]

Instead, he veered off the point and his thoughts wandered off to Chiang Mai where I imagine he will encounter the same problem.

 

Going from one city to another does not increase the chances of finding a "Mr. Right." I could have helped him in Pattaya, but I can be of no help at all for Chiang Mai. It's not as if there is a venue somewhere where only the honest boys go.

[KhorTose]

Going from one city to another does not increase the chances of finding a "Mr. Right." I could have helped him in Pattaya, but I can be of no help at all for Chiang Mai. It's not as if there is a venue somewhere where only the honest boys go.

 

You are wrong GB, all the honest boys do have a venue. They all go to my bedroom. I know they are honest as they all tell me what a good heart I have, and how much they love me.

[Guest fountainhall]

I have looked through some GayRomeo profiles but most of them look like moneyboys just waiting for sex tourists

 

Of course there are money boys on GR, but I do suggest you take more time. I have met several very nice, very sincere guys from that site who would not even accept a taxi fare home. A couple have become very good loyal friends.

[Guest Steve1903]

I found an honest one last time I was there. He told me honestly he was a money boy........and I believe him.

 

[Gaybutton]

I know they are honest as they all tell me what a good heart I have, and how much they love me.

 

Well, of course. After all, you are irresistible aren't you? That's why I haven't tried to meet you. I'm afraid I'll be in lust immediately.

 

"Some people got it and make it pay. Some people can't even give it away" - Ethel Merman, 'Gypsy'

[Guest fountainhall]

He told me honestly he was a money boy........and I believe him

 

So you were both happy!!

[Guest laurence]

I'm surprised Yedo didn't take advantage of what seemed like an unbeatable offer to meet and exchange valuable information on various boys known by GB and friends who would fit Yedo's criteria. How else could the boys be introduced?

 

Instead, he veered off the point and his thoughts wandered off to Chiang Mai where I imagine he will encounter the same problem.

 

Asmerom; Think Troll and you have your answer. Read Yedo's posts on other forums.

 

[Guest yedo]

 

Gaybutton I appreciate you're trying to help me , I have an apartment in Jomtien during my vacation , but I travel to Bkk and Chiang Mai the next 3 weeks

 

Maybe you can tell me where I can find you , which local gay bar

 

 

 

 

[Gaybutton]

Maybe you can tell me where I can find you , which local gay bar

 

I hate to tell you, but I hardly ever go to the gay bars. The next time you come to Pattaya send me an Email at gaybutton@gmail.com and I'll arrange to meet you somewhere.

[Guest mauRICE]

Im not looking for older security guards like some of you suggested, but my preferred age group is 20-32 , just have to find the honest ones out there.

 

Ten years is still a substantial age difference; I'm not sure what exactly your definition of a money-boy is but if you're looking not to provide ANY financial incentives, it'd be very difficult for you to find someone in that age group who'd be interested in an LTR (altho' casual hook ups are certainly possible if you're goodlooking and fit). The ones who are financially independent won't be interested in an LTR with you because they can find someone in their own age and socio-economic group, or act as patrons themselves to much younger Thai guys. Many thirtysomething Thai lawyers, doctors, engineers, etc are "older brothers" to Thai university students from poor but decent families. They know how to pick 'em, trust me, and they get the kind of respect from their 'younger bros' that no farang will ever get from his boy.

 

What is your first language?

[Guest yedo]

OK thanks for all the good advices.

I still have a lot to learn about the Thais . Im not sure if I try hard enough . My life is enough complicated these days..

 

So I'm quite happy being single at the moment.

 

Ten years is still a substantial age difference; I'm not sure what exactly your definition of a money-boy is but if you're looking not to provide any financial incentives at all, it'd be very difficult for you to find someone in that age group who'd be interested in an LTR (altho' casual hook ups are certainly possible if you're goodlooking and fit). The ones who are financially independent won't be interested in an LTR with you because they can find someone in their own age and socio-economic group, or act as patrons themselves to much younger Thai guys. Many hot professional Thai guys (lawyers, doctors, engineers, etc) in their 30s are "older brothers" to Thai university students from poor but decent families. They know how to pick 'em, trust me, and they get the kind of respect from their 'younger bros' that no farang will ever get from his boy.

 

What is your first language?

 

[Gaybutton]

So I'm quite happy being single at the moment.

 

Then I suggest staying that way.

 

An old Rodney Dangerfield joke was, "My wife and I were happy for 30 years. Then we met."

[Guest yedo]

You mean I can stay single for the next 30 years ?

 

What a relief!

 

 

 

[Bob]

And remember the three-ring theory.

First there's the engagement ring, then the wedding ring, and, finally, the suffering....