Take a look at Gay Porto Alegre

[TotallyOz]

So the discussion was in February. You said what you said, waited a few months, then started a new poll as if there had never been one. You finished the Porto Alegre travel guide, which gave you a great chance to remove the fag word from it. But you didn't. You posted it "on this site" and kept the word fag in it.

There is no doubt that many here are offended by the use of the word fag as a term to refer to our fellow posters. That doesn't bother you, despite what you wrote above. How quickly you forget, or how insincerely you speak. Had you spent enough (any?) time with victims of gay bashings, you might have some understanding of the hurt the word fag holds. I don't care what you call your friends in private conversation, but I don't want to be associated with a web site that casualy uses the word fag as though it has gained some acceptability. That much I at least owe to those who were called fag over and over while getting the shit kicked out of them.

I am well aware that it's your website, so have at it. Continue hurting these people for the fun of it.

You are wrong in everything you say. But, I do not expect you to admit that and that is OK.

I grew up in Alabama and experienced gay bashing first hand. Don't sit on your high horse and tell me that I don't know the hurt that these things have. I had a lover burned alive in his car. I had friends burned in their trailer. I saw things that you have never seen. I had things done to me that I do not discuss and will not on any forum. So, while you may have more experience holding hands of victims, I do not think your experiences make you a better judge of what one should understand. We all come to the table with different experiences and while you seem to think yours should have more value than others. They don't.

What was said in the ONE poll was the discussion. What other poll did I start a few months later? I referenced the ONE poll on the subject. You will not find another poll as there was not one. There was one poll I started and I used quotes from it. I also said it would not be in my vocabulary in the future and it has not.

The article on Porto Alegre has been on the site for a long time. I even re-posted it in the forums and linked to it. I did not edit it or put it up recently. It has been on the site and in the City Guides area. The only thing I changed was the addition to the businesses in that area. I also created a special forum for the city and I placed business listings in that particular city. Nothing else was changed. I did not change the article and I do not have the ability to do that unless the programmers make that change. Why? It is hard coded html with photos in it that are arranged. I don't edit them. Other people make changes to html on the site.

You say I had a chance to remove it, I didn't reread it and even realize it was there.

But, I refuse to argue with you as facts do not seem relevant to you.

Several posters in this thread have summed things up very nicely. I have even stated that I would never use the word again as it is offensive to some even if used in the "campy" way I used it. That is not enough for you. So, I'm done with this discussion with you. If you wish one based on facts as opposed to emotion, let me know. Otherwise, don't expect another comment from me in this thread regarding this.

[Lucky]

I have said my piece and have no reason to prolong this discussion. Totally Oz remains my favorite poster at boyoy.com despite any disagreement we might have.