The Warning Ring

[Guest FourAces]

I was at a hotel bar last night and chatting with a few people from California. It kind of dawned on me that if I happen to see a hot guy I always look to find out if he is wearing a wedding ring ... if so it "warns" me he is straight.

Well no more Between civil unions and gay marriage one cannot count on the warning ring to be accurate these days. I learned this yesterday evening after chatting with this one handsome stud for nearly an hour his husband came into the bar to join him

So much for the subtle warning I and I am sure others would take note of in the past.

[TampaYankee]

It still means they are committed, doesn't it?

[Guest hitoallusa]

Sigh I want to put on a warning ring too. They will look really nice on my cute fingers..

[AdamSmith]

Sigh I want to put on a warning ring too.

I am now having to suppress 3 or 4 remarks.

[RA1]

^{I know an escort who, years ago, wore a wedding ring. He said it was partly to remind him and others of his commitment to his BF but also to keep others from hitting on him. According to how I was brought up here in the South there is a lot of incongruity in those ideas but I never mentioned it and thought if it worked for him-good.}

^{Best regards,}

^RA1

[TampaYankee]

Incongruity? Well, it depends on the plane one adopts in setting life standards, expectations and goals. Most of the South resides on one plane as does much of the country -- or they would have you think so anyway. However, bringing a dose of reality to the discussion, need I mention the present-day stats on extramarital affairs:

Recent studies reveal that 45 or 55 percent of married women and 50 to 60 percent of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship. (http://www.divinecaroline.com/love-sex/cheating-and-infidelity-statistics-are-men-cheating-more-women)

It is estimated that roughly 30 to 60% of all married individuals (in the United States) will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage (see, Buss and Shackelford for review of this research). And these numbers are probably on the conservative side, when you consider that close to half of all marriages end in divorce (people are more likely to stray as relationships fall apart; also see, who is likely to cheat) (http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/cheating-and-infidelity/stats-about-infidelity.html)

The citations could go on and on. So much for those that would cling to that claim of that plane. Let's grant that 50% walk the walk. The other fifty percent talk the talk of hypocracy -- a not insignificant number of our most pious preachers included.

Leaving the issue of incongruity and returning to escort fidelity, escorts must necessarily see this as a distinction between commitment and business. Hence the willingness to escort but not be available off the clock for 'affairs' or one night flings. I have encountered numerous escorts over the years with this attitude. I can understand it. I do find it disappointing when I encounter one that draws the line with the clients at kissing. I have known a few to claim that exclusively for their companion.

I have known others who have escorted between boyfriends, preferring not to 'muddy' the picture. That may have as much to do with the BF demands, who knows. I respect that choice too. Whatever works for people in their lives.

[RA1]

Almost all of my expectations were adapted for use on a plane, namely an airplane.

Even though I posted my private thoughts and opinion of wearing a "wedding ring" without benefit of either clergy or the state, I never suggested disapproval to the escort in person or action and "allowed" that if it worked for him, good. Regardless of people's actions, my question is, do they know better? Or, to put it another way, do you believe the motive is an integral part of any wrong doing? The US system of laws seems to think so. The main difference between 1st, 2nd and 3rd degree murder is motive to include premeditation. Ditto, burglary. Etc.

Escorts are free to have any rules they choose and play by them or disregard them just as clients may do the same. I also think I am entitled to have my opinion about an escort who wears a wedding ring to avoid being hit upon is possibly suffering from an excess of ego or BS.

Best regards,

RA1

[TampaYankee]

Almost all of my expectations were adapted for use on a plane, namely an airplane.

Even though I posted my private thoughts and opinion of wearing a "wedding ring" without benefit of either clergy or the state, I never suggested disapproval to the escort in person or action and "allowed" that if it worked for him, good. Regardless of people's actions, my question is, do they know better? Or, to put it another way, do you believe the motive is an integral part of any wrong doing? The US system of laws seems to think so. The main difference between 1st, 2nd and 3rd degree murder is motive to include premeditation. Ditto, burglary. Etc.

Escorts are free to have any rules they choose and play by them or disregard them just as clients may do the same. I also think I am entitled to have my opinion about an escort who wears a wedding ring to avoid being hit upon is possibly suffering from an excess of ego or BS.

Best regards,

RA1

RA1,

I apologize if my post came off as an attack on your posted comment. It was not intended to be. I take no exception to anything you said. My only intent was to comment on social hypocrisy in general and my experience with escorts who adopted that stance.

[RA1]

I certainly agree with your comments about general societal incongruity. Hypocrisy abounds. I don't mean to be wearing my heart on my sleeve. After all this is short sleeve weather.

Thanks.

Best regards,

RA1