We're You Bullied?

[Guest FourAces]

We have had a fair amount of posts here about bully issues but none that I recall regarding our own experiences.

I an remember in 5th or maybe 6th grade there was this kid, Scott R, who would punch me in the thigh every day when I got on the school bus. Even though he did not ride my bus He would wait by the door and as I got on punch me then leave, WTF? As I type this I wonder what the bus driver was doing while this was happening, probably watching

In middle and high school aside from my weight I really did not get bothered much. The typical fat jokes but that aside nothing else. Even though a large handful of friends and friends of friends knew or felt I was gay it was never brought up ... well unless I was sucking them off during a sleep over

Ahhh to be young ....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qUE4oDunYkc

[seattlebottom]

People tried to bully me but it didn't ever go too far. A good one liner would show the bully and his friends that I wasn't scared and that I could see right through their pathetic macho facade. I was never beat up but I did get challenged a lot. When I was in 7th grade a bully challenged me to a fight after school, I showed up and he didn't. The dozen or so kids that were there to watch the fight let everyone in school know what had happened and that I was actually admired by some of the older kids.

[Guest hitoallusa]

I don't like bullies and they need to be fought back..

[Guest CharliePS]

Because I was the youngest kid in my class, I was occasionally mildly bullied by one of my classmates. At our high school class's 50th reunion, when we shook hands, he tried to crush it, but my grip in return was as strong. When I mentioned it to another classmate, he said, "Yeah, Barry has never changed." I realized it had always been about him, not about me.

[Guest EXPAT]

I was bullied because I was a straight A student and I was the only male that had good grades. So I was called a "fag" and teased constantly because I was in all of the academic clubs and was in the plays etc. But I never really let it bother me because I viewed high school as a means to an end and it was about getting through it with the best grades to get to college. So I just chose to rise above it. But it was still painful none the less.

[caeron]

I was bullied quite a lot. Like Expat, I was a straight A student, I'd skipped a grade and so was younger than many of my classmates, and wasn't particularly masculine.

You survive, but it does leave scars.

[Guest CharliePS]

I was bullied quite a lot. Like Expat, I was a straight A student, I'd skipped a grade and so was younger than many of my classmates, and wasn't particularly masculine.

You survive, but it does leave scars.

I, too, was skipped ahead one grade because I was a top student, and went overnight from being the oldest to being the youngest student in my class. Luckily, it was a small town where I already had some friends among the influential students in my new class, and I was sure they would intervene if the bullying went very far, so I treated it simply as a nuisance.

[Guest hitoallusa]

Gay kids are so smart...

[Guest josephga]

I was due to a childhood condition I had to wear leg braces a few years. my mother ended up going to the school and told the principle and teachers that her and my father had talked with me and decided that the teachers and principle would set back on their asses and do nothing while i beat the shit out of the next kid that teased me as they had done when the teasing was happening ..

[Guest hitoallusa]

Your mom is awesome.. So what happened? Did they intervene??? I didn't have problems with bullies and don't know why.. I kept things to myself and didn't have a lot of friends, though. I had some bullies when I served in the military but it didn't last long.

I was due to a childhood condition I had to wear leg braces a few years. my mother ended up going to the school and told the principle and teachers that her and my father had talked with me and decided that the teachers and principle would set back on their asses and do nothing while i beat the shit out of the next kid that teased me as they had done when the teasing was happening ..

[BiBottomBoy]

I feel guilty about this topic because I was bullied, but I would then masturbate about the guys who bullied me.

I realize this means I suck.

[RA1]

BBB-

Of course you suck, after all, you are gay.

I was never bullied but then I played all the "macho" sports and as an attendant at a good HS almost everyone made good grades and went to a good college or university.

NOW, I am ready to bully everyone.

Best regards,

RA1

[BiBottomBoy]

If you are willing to bully me, I might be willing to do fun things to you....

[RA1]

Sounds like a reasonable exchange to me.

Best regards,

RA1

[BiBottomBoy]

Me too.

Who knows where my bully fetish comes from, but yummmy!

[wayout]

I really don't recall being bullied (we called it getting picked on, which is basically the same I guess). People pretty much were in their own groups and kept to themselves for the most part. The jocks were too concerned about sports and getting girls to care about anything else. The nerds (which I was and probably still am part of) were too concerned about getting good grades and avoided any situation that might get them into trouble. The JDs (juvenile delinquents) were too concerned about cutting school and getting high. The music geeks were too busy with practice for band or orchestra. The few left were just kind of flying under the radar. If you knew your place and kept out of the way of the other groups, you were usually fine.

[RA1]

wayout-

I understand your post completely. However, you raise an interesting point. What is the difference between being picked on verbally or physically? Answer: it depends. Both can be harmful. One might show rather rapid results and the other may have long term effects. They also seem to somewhat change as one gets older. Bar fights are generally physical (at some point) and a form of bullying for slightly older folks. Picking verbally on your children, relatives, friends or co-workers may or may not be bullying depending upon your social attitude and whether you are instilling discipline or just being mean.

In one sense of the words, I pick on people all the time but my intention is for them to either learn or laugh with me. When I have a starting out pilot flying with me, I have very high expectations and they soon know it but, without exception, I think they have enjoyed flying with me as much as I enjoyed flying with them. I think they know I am just trying to help them with their careers. Self esteem and confidence in what you are doing (especially with flying) is very important for a successful career. Just my thoughts.

Best regards,

RA1

[Guest gcursor]

Yes, I was bullied something terrible when I was younger for most of middle and all of High School. I won't go into all the stupid and idiotic little details because doing so won't make me feel any better and I'm sure it won't make you feel better either. But yes, everyday at school was a new terrible experience wondering whether I would get bullied on the bus, or in the school or on my way home (when I was in grade school). I feel so vehemently about this that when somebody saw me from school locally at a store when I was getting a money order, they said "Hey, I think I know you. I went to school with you. Do you remember me?" to which I said "No and I hated school too and all of the people who went there." He got very quiet and completed my transaction without saying anything else.

I heard something on NPR today and I believe it completely. Once you find out what type of person somebody is then if you don't like them then just avoid them. They are much more familiar with themselves than you are and they will eventually show you their true nature. If that's somebody you don't want to be with then just leave them and don't look back.

I once wrote a very funny comedic article about my time in High School and why I don't go to reunions now. Actually I get a bit of a perverse thrill when I get the letters every 5 years or so because I set fire to the message.

But no...I'm not bitter at all

[Guest hitoallusa]

I won't tolerate bullying and I will find a way to stop it. I wasn't bullied by other students but was once unleesly harassed by a teacher. I simply didn't go to his class one day and he eased on me afterwards. Maybe it scared him. Gcursor I hope your school is done for the semester.. Where is your semester update?

[Guest gcursor]

I stopped doing updates hitoall. I'm not sure as if they proved to be anything more than useless drivel to wade through for most of the people on here. If you want, I'll send you personal emails through the site and give you updates though I know you were always interested.

thanks,

gcursor

[Guest hitoallusa]

My personal email linked to the site (it's not this site's fault) is hacked and even I don't have access to that account... I think private messages work fine here so could you send me via private message... I would like to hear about it. I love someone telling me what they study and what they like about it... I can listen to it all night and chat about it over breakfast too...

[Guest hitoallusa]

But I'm pretty sure that people will enjoy reading it too. It will back good old memories back..