Members Suckrates Posted May 5, 2013 Members Posted May 5, 2013 Here I am, approaching 62, and I have this problem... My cock and my brain are no longer in synch. While my brain keeps telling me that I am still vital, and always incredibly horny and wanting sex, my cock does NOT respond appropriately without my little "blue and yellow" buddies in tow. I have always masturbated quite regularly (usually to porn) and have always been able to achieve and maintain a Very firm erection, but even that seems to be waning... A bit of a back-story: I was never really fast to pop a boner, even in my youth unless there was some personal attraction and comfort level. I really was never any good at one nite stands, as it was always strange for me, and the fear of the unknown and TOO much thinking persistent. Then I got a lover and we were together for 22 wonderful years when he suddenly passed away.... But during our time together, there were many, many Incredibly hard and long lasting boners..... I am also 100% ORAL, having tried anal early on on realizing it wasnt for me, so I stuck with what I Enjoyed, kissing, cock sucking and rimming, preferably I am the one performing the Services. Although I frequent the escort sites, I am not a regular patron, and only hire occassionally, when I want to give myself a treat of an Incredibly WELL HUNG guy.... .I satisfy my sexual urges at the sex clubs and other sex venues NYC still has to offer, and am often taken for a guy in my 40's, as I have treod to keep myself well preserved and in good shape, and it seems to have worked. I have no problem finding partners at these venues, BUT hear lies the rub... Of late, even if I am incredibly turned on and enjoying myself, there is NO response down below, and the guy interprets that as a sign that I am not into him or enjoying myself. I can understand that, since I too like it when a guy responds to me with a RAGING BONER..... My doctor says there is nothing medically wrong with me. Its just a culmination of AGE, and many years of medication for high blood pressure and cholesterol.... Maybe so, but it is FRUSTRATING. Of course, I can resort to my little blue and yellow buddies, but that shit gives me "hangovers and headaches, so I use it infrequently. And maybe since I am exclusively ORAL, it shouldnt bother me or be an issue, but when a guy reaches down a feels a "limp dick" when he is pulling out all the stops on you, it is embarrassing and ends that encounter rather quickly. So, with all that said, does anyone here have a similar experience, and how do you deal with it. ? My friends tell me that this is the stage of life when men become "exclusive bottoms" since their other equipment has reached its expiration date, but bottoming for me is totally "out of the question". I have always believed that the Brain is the largest sex organ and controls your responses, but my Brain is letting me down. Now what ??? Should I just "Grin and Bare it ???? Quote
Members RA1 Posted May 5, 2013 Members Posted May 5, 2013 No. You are way too young to give up. I would either consult another doc to see if a different hypertension Rx would alleviate the situation or see if there is another "problem". You should have many years yet to go before "flagging" so to speak. And, without headache producing Rx. Just my opinion, but give it a try. Best regards, RA1 TotallyOz 1 Quote
TotallyOz Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 I agree with RA1. Find a new doctor and see what the results are. Quote
AdamSmith Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Third-Ing that. Have known a couple of friends who got much relief from your symptoms by changing their blood pressure meds. As for headache/hangover, likely you have already tried this, but I found (in cadging friends' pills) that Cialis is a lot easier on the system than Viagra. Quote
Guest hitoallusa Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 After seeing a doctor, I suggest abstinence from sex and let your body heal for a month... Change your diet too. There are many things to enjoy in life. Quote
Members boiworship Posted May 6, 2013 Members Posted May 6, 2013 We should have a little get-together in Palm Springs in June after you've adjusted your meds. My two Latino boys and I are planning to be there then. Any takers? They're really cute and sweet boys, 21 and 24. Quote
Members boiworship Posted May 6, 2013 Members Posted May 6, 2013 After seeing a doctor, I suggest abstinence from sex and let your body heal for a month... Change your diet too. There are many things to enjoy in life. That's sound advice. Quote
Members Suckrates Posted May 6, 2013 Author Members Posted May 6, 2013 My "issue" seems to be a bigger problem for my partners than for me. I great Great pleasure out of performing the service I do, and dont really care about having a boner. but it seems others think I should have one....I guess its a form of "peer" pressure. Of course I have already been to several doctors, and they have tried diff brands of medication, all with the same result. Perhaps its just TIME for MY body to shut down? On the up side, my mouth still works, I have ALL my natural teeth, and the guys seem to enjoy their time with me (at least the ones that Dont care about my bone). and yes, I do resort to cialis moreso than the V..... Thanks for all your replies and suggestions. That is why I threw out the question, I knew you guys would come thru. Quote
Guest hitoallusa Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Suckrates... I will enjoy hatevr you like to do..so don't worry too much... I had the same problem at the age of thirty and I'm sti doing ok... Your body is not shutting down... I don't rely on medication though... Quote
Members wayout Posted May 6, 2013 Members Posted May 6, 2013 As I am getting older I have noticed that my little soldier doesn't stand at attention as often or as tall as in previous years. I have always enjoyed spanking the little soldier often but I have found that to get the full enjoyment I have to curtail that activity to less frequently than before. When engaged with another person, which is usually planned in advance, I tend to abstain from self gratification for several days and that seems to help quite a bit, as one might expect. So my only suggestion beyond what has been stated above is to cut back some on masturbation if you haven't already done so. Are you still able to get a decent erection with some self manipulation while giving pleasure to someone else? Quote
Guest hitoallusa Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Good advice Wayout... For a moment there, I thought that you were getting engaged... Quote
Members wayout Posted May 6, 2013 Members Posted May 6, 2013 Good advice Wayout... For a moment there, I thought that you were getting engaged... lol, no such luck hi....still searching for my big soldier or anyone in a uniform...oh heck, anyone really One other thought suckrates, have you had your testosterone level checked? I'm not a doctor but I recall recently reading something about that reduced testosterone when one ages is an issue for some people. Maybe it is a natural process of decline but some may have a greater decrease than others. Quote
Members RA1 Posted May 6, 2013 Members Posted May 6, 2013 As I am getting older I have noticed that my little soldier doesn't stand at attention as often or as tall as in previous years. I have always enjoyed spanking the little soldier often but I have found that to get the full enjoyment I have to curtail that activity to less frequently than before. When engaged with another person, which is usually planned in advance, I tend to abstain from self gratification for several days and that seems to help quite a bit, as one might expect. So my only suggestion beyond what has been stated above is to cut back some on masturbation if you haven't already done so. Are you still able to get a decent erection with some self manipulation while giving pleasure to someone else? Don't forget May is national masturbation month. One possible problem with getting testosterone from any source other than your own body is prostate cancer. If it is lurking, adding testosterone can make it worse or speed the process. I definitely would consult my urologist before taking any such shots. Best regards, RA1 Quote
Guest CharliePS Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 It may simply be natural aging. I never had any difficulty getting hard until my early 60s, when I realized I was turned on, but my cock didn't show it anymore. Nowadays I find that although I can get hard initially, I don't stay that way for very long. My older partner tried testosterone, but his PSA shot up so high that doctors kept wanting to do prostate biopsies. I have never taken any meds for any kind of chronic condition, nor anything like Viagra to get hard--I just accept the fact that my lack of a hard-on, like my lack of hair, is what it is, and don't let it affect my mental enjoyment of what I do. Quote
Guest hitoallusa Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 I started to have erection problems since I was in my early 30s. I have never used any medications for it. I love hiking in the woods and there are other things you can enjoy in life. I think sex gives you more thirst, the more you seek it. So it's good to take break from it once in a while is good for me... Quote
AdamSmith Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 I started to have erection problems since I was in my early 30s... I love hiking in the woods So it's good to take break from it once in a while Quote
Guest hitoallusa Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 Lol... What I meant was there are other things you can do in life... I have learned that quite early on due to my unique health problems... Go hiking or do something fun.. It doesn't have to be all sex.. Where is my MsGuy who used to interpret for me... Quote
Members Suckrates Posted May 6, 2013 Author Members Posted May 6, 2013 As I am getting older I have noticed that my little soldier doesn't stand at attention as often or as tall as in previous years. I have always enjoyed spanking the little soldier often but I have found that to get the full enjoyment I have to curtail that activity to less frequently than before. When engaged with another person, which is usually planned in advance, I tend to abstain from self gratification for several days and that seems to help quite a bit, as one might expect. So my only suggestion beyond what has been stated above is to cut back some on masturbation if you haven't already done so. Are you still able to get a decent erection with some self manipulation while giving pleasure to someone else? Wayout, when I am performing my SERVICE, I am really not thinking about myself, although in my mind I am thoroughly enjoying it, but I dont nee to get erect or cum. The pressure is when the partner wants me to get hard, and I can fully understand that. but you are rIGHT as i find I get harder faster when I dont "choke the chicken" that often..... Quote
Members Suckrates Posted May 6, 2013 Author Members Posted May 6, 2013 lol, no such luck hi....still searching for my big soldier or anyone in a uniform...oh heck, anyone really One other thought suckrates, have you had your testosterone level checked? I'm not a doctor but I recall recently reading something about that reduced testosterone when one ages is an issue for some people. Maybe it is a natural process of decline but some may have a greater decrease than others. Yes my T-level is normal. That was the first thing I though of and addressed. I am Very into suzanne somers so I did also explore hormone replacement, but docs said I didnt need it. Quote
Members Suckrates Posted May 6, 2013 Author Members Posted May 6, 2013 I started to have erection problems since I was in my early 30s. I have never used any medications for it. I love hiking in the woods and there are other things you can enjoy in life. I think sex gives you more thirst, the more you seek it. So it's good to take break from it once in a while is good for me... hito, I bet you would pop a Fierce Boner if I waved a pair of Loubatins in front of your face ? AdamSmith and MsGuy 2 Quote
Members Suckrates Posted May 6, 2013 Author Members Posted May 6, 2013 Lol... What I meant was there are other things you can do in life... I have learned that quite early on due to my unique health problems... Go hiking or do something fun.. It doesn't have to be all sex.. Where is my MsGuy who used to interpret for me... With all due respect hito, and I do appreciate your reply and advice, but NOTHING takes the place of good HOT sex with a guy you connect with. Does going for a hike give you the same feeling you have after you orgasm ???? FUCK NO ! Quote
AdamSmith Posted May 6, 2013 Posted May 6, 2013 hito, I bet you would pop a Fierce Boner if I waved a pair of Loubatins in front of your face ? Why do I feel like a foot fetish is normal but a shoe fetish is kinky? Quote
Members RA1 Posted May 7, 2013 Members Posted May 7, 2013 Kinky isn't normal? Best regards, RA1 MsGuy and AdamSmith 2 Quote
AdamSmith Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Kinky isn't normal? Best regards, RA1 You have me there. Quote
Members lookin Posted May 7, 2013 Members Posted May 7, 2013 I had the same issue some time back and decided to come at it from a different direction. Rather than constantly chivvying my private parts to keep up with my sex drive, I had a heart-to-heart with my libido and let it know that it was beginning to cause problems in the ranks. Over the years, it has fallen nicely into line and now waits patiently until I formally notify it that its services are required. Or someone else does. Quote
