The One Who Got Away

[Guest FourAces]

During my lifetime I have had the opportunity to settle down with one guy ... or just have some awesome sex. There is one over a decade later that I let get away .... why? Read on.

As most here know I am a big guy aka chub. I really have never been into any so called gay scene and even as a younger adult had no idea there were guys attracted to chubs AKA as chasers.

Well I was living in SoCal and would get together with friends at the French Market about once a week for lunch or dinner. For those who don't know the French Market is part of the now city of West Hollywood a area where many gay people live.

On this evening I was quite a bit early to meet my buds for dinner. As I was walking toward the French Market a beautiful, young, blonde hair skater / surfer approached me and said hello. To this day I can remember how just his look was making me ummm excited. Anyway, I said hi and kept walking and like a dog hanging on to his masters leg the kid followed along next to me ... where you going he asked, can I buy you dinner he wanted to know, how about we just get to know each other some.

All my responses were very short and to the point no I kept saying. I don't know why I didn't know if he was making fun of my size or looking for money (which I would have paid) ... finally he kind of puts his arm in front of me to signal stop. He looks right in my eyes and says I want to let you know I think you're sexy I love chubby men.

At that point I heard myself say, sorry but dude I am not gay .... it was like someone else took over my brain I couldn't believe I was saying those words ... the kid looked at me and said Oh I am really sorry and disappeared.

Yes after the blood returned to my brain I did go back to look for him and I even went the next few nights to see if I could find him but no luck

[wayout]

What an interesting situation you found yourself in and sad for the outcome.

“Of all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these, 'It might have been.”― John Greenleaf Whittier

[TotallyOz]

You snooze.....

I have had so many regrets when I don't take things up fast. I have learned that waiting is often bad so I try not to do that and just grab the bull by the horns, so to speak.

When I am in Thailand, if I walk into a bar and I see Mr. Right on the stage, I immediately (before I even sit down) hold out my hand to help him off the stage and buy him a drink.

We don't often know the intentions of others but the only way to find out is to put yourself out there and test the waters. it is often a very scary thing to do but always ends in more success than just backing away.

[wayout]

You snooze.....

I have had so many regrets when I don't take things up fast. I have learned that waiting is often bad so I try not to do that and just grab the bull by the horns, so to speak.

So true and a lesson I don't think I have fully learned yet, especially when it comes to hiring escorts. Too many times to count I have had my eyes and other things set on an escort but I hem and haw, delay and hesitate until it is too late and they have moved on from escorting. I am trying very hard now to do as Oz suggest and just go for it while the opportunity presents itself.